My husband snores so badly that I'm starting to resent him

[Tailfeather]

I have been with my husband for 16 years - married for 9 and had a baby last year. He's always been a bad snorer. And I mean REALLY bad. He's kept a whole housefly lid people awake before. It's always been an issue, but since we've had our son it's even worse and I'm beginning to resent him and it worries me as I love him so much and don't want this to tear us apart, but it is really grinding me down. I used to feel knackered from lack of sleep, but now I am utterly exhausted. My husband actually keeps me up more than the baby. He then gets up at 6 and wakes me up as he gets ready for work. I used to be able to doze a bit, but as he wakes the baby too, I'm up then as well.

He is really apologetic, but I don't think he really understands what it is like to be kept awake night after night when you are SO tired.

I need to function during the day. I run my own business and have a baby to look after. I need to be on form.

I have strong earplugs and he has a custom made gum guard which helps, but I'm still woken up.I also spend most nights in the spare room, but I don't think that's good for our relationship either.

Anyone else in the same (noisy) boat?

He goes in the spare room OP

Lol @tailfeather

I haven’t RTFT but I know it was hard for DH to be taken seriously, he just kept going to the GP telling them how much it was afffcting the whole family’s quality of sleep. Things eventually started to pick up and he got referrals

Jinglebells99 google the words Smart Nora.

My oh is slim has been through the sleep clinics etc. No op will help, he doesnt have sleep apnoea. We sleep in separate rooms now. He can help it but it can't be sorted and I need to sleep.

I'm the snorer in our house. DH says It's usually okay if he can get to sleep first. Otherwise he just potters off to the spare room. No fuss. But we always start the night together.

Get him a CPAP.

Ex was a snorer. Shockingly bad. Nothing every worked, including surgery. In the end it was separate rooms because I only wanted an undisturbed night and didn't care how I got it.

Current P doesn't snore at all. Utter bliss!!

It sounds like sleeping together is far more detrimental to your relationship than sleeping apart. It’s really not that big of a deal, sleeping is hardly spending quality time together anyway.

My darling sister got a cpap machine and she now sleeps absolutely silently. We've holidayed together for years and I have always struggled sharing a room with her but the difference is entire. Get a cpap machine!!!

My super fit, slim, teetotal friend is a terrible snorer. She's having a quick op on her uvula in order to fix it. Her dp has insomnia and they simply can't share a bed. It does work for them. In fact, they quite like it.