Nursery not giving messages/letters to DD’s Dad.

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Me and DD’s Dad aren’t together but we get on (mostly) and there’s never been any issues involving nursery. Until recently he wasn’t really collecting often, but they know him and he does pay half the fees.

Recently he’s started collecting DD from nursery a few nights a week, sometimes takes her and this week so far he’s taken and collected every day, as I’ve been really busy and he’s been helping me out.
Sorry if I’m rambling but trying to give all info so as not to drip feed.

So today nursery phoned me as they’d not seen me this week and wanted to pass on some information and let me know they had a lot of letters waiting for me to take home. I didn’t really think at the time as I was in the middle of something, but I text DD’s Dad and asked him to remember to pick up the letters when he collected DD.
He brought DD home and I asked about the letters and if they’d mentioned what they’d spoke to me about (moving rooms). He said he asked about the letters but they said they have to be given to me, didn’t mention her moving room at all. And now having spoken to him, this seems to be the case with everything. He’s never been given a letter, newsletter or any information other than she’s had a good day etc. They’ve never even sent any pictures home with him.

He’s on all the paperwork and he’s on DDs birth certificate which they saw when she started. He’s saying not to say anything about it but I really don’t think it’s on. So AIBU to say something to them or is it his issue and should I leave him to it.

Sorry! @oobeedoiwannabelikeyou I had meant to update and forgot.
We had a meeting with manager and room leader, the manager was very apologetic and said it was most definitely not nursery policy and she would speak to dd’s kw.

Then the manager caught me dropping dd off the next and asked to have a word. She said she didn’t want to say with ex there, but kw had said, I’d mention domestic violence for the reason we split up and didn’t want him knowing details. I definitely didn’t because nothing like that’s ever happened, he cheated but he’s never been voilent.
Manager apologised again and said it must have been crossed wires or mixing me up with someone else.

Really odd and kw is still absolutely fine with me, but doesn’t really chat to ex. She does now pass on messages and letters though.

Definitely sounds like KW has some weird grudge against your ex.
The lie about the DV sounds like she was trying to cover her own back to management for her behaviour, and the fact she's still funny with your ex is because she's been called up on it?!