To cut a long story short very close friend of over 20 years recently (6mths ago) came out of a messy divorce, and almost immediately starting seeing a married man she works with. I don't know man or his wife. I hear A LOT about exciting etc this relationship is, the great sex, the gifts, the getaways, no strings etc. I've tried talking to her many times about this being a rebound, likely to blow up in her face (esp given they work together), the dreadful impact on his wife and children, etc. I suppose I saw this initially as a sort of breakdown on her part, she is a needy individual and this seemed like the (very wrong) aftershock of her marriage breakdown. I have never once condoned the affair or encouraged it, but did want to support her to make the right decision and walk away from it. However I feel like it is now just too much, the conversation last night ended with me in an absolute rage, not at her just ranting to DH. She is basically now blaming the wife for her husband's affair. It started with 'they weren't happy, only stayed together for kids', but now it has turned into her seeing pictures of the wife (laughing at them quite openly) who apparently has let herself go since having kids, doesn't care about her appearance enough, always tired, works long hours etc. I'm at the end of my tether with friend. I know my anger comes from both my increasing outrage at her behaviour and partly from projecting and really feeling for the wife and children in this, as I, probably like a lot of other women, am just like the wife, tired from long days at work, work hard with DH, to provide for my family and children, and don't spend hours at the gym and salon each week keep myself perfect for DH (nor would he want me to tbh!). I try not to be a judgmental person but I know I am well and truly judging now and feel her moral values have slipped so far away from the person I have always loved as a friend that the friendship can't continue.