Upset about Colleagues’ behaviour

[Rainysummersday]

Hello,

I would like to know if IABU about this Heather I have an point a point.

Basically, my work is making my position redundant. It came as a shock and has been a really upsetting three weeks, especially as I am the only one been made redundant.

Some of my colleagues have been really nice about it, but I also discovered they have arranged a night out drinking on what is supposed to Be my last day. They all received pay rises as part of the announcement (which added insult to injury) and they’ve all arranged a night out to celebrate. It just so happens this night out is on my last day.

A colleague has said I can come along, but AIBU to be a bit upset by this? It feels really insesnsitive and also takes away the possibility of me arranging my own leaving do (should I want one). I have worked there a few years and a few of these people were friends as well as colleagues. It all feels very hurtful.

No way would I organise a leaving do with these fuckers.

Do you have any annual leave left?

Don't tell anyone your last day. Use your remaining annual leave to not up turn up on your last day.

E.g. If your last day is a Friday, use two days annual leave and leave on the Wednesday.

Bastards! That's really mean of them. Do what lacucharacha says with annual leave if you can.

The ones that are going are not friends, unless they checked with you if you wanted to do anything.

You can't go, it would be too upsetting.

They could have waited until first pay date on their new wage.

That really stinks. If you have annal leave take it and leave early.

what a bunch of insensitive people. As others have said don't tell anyone your last day and just leave quietly. If they really cared about your distress they would have at least said they'd make it your leaving do.

Good grief OP that's awful of them Can you do as suggested above and use leave to miss your official last day?

I honestly don't know how they could be so insensitive!

How insensitive.

That's horrible, what a bunch of bastards. Don't blame you for feeling this way.

No way would I organise a leaving do with these fuckers.

Do you have any annual leave left?

Don't tell anyone your last day. Use your remaining annual leave to not up turn up on your last day.

E.g. If your last day is a Friday, use two days annual leave and leave on the Wednesday.

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Very insensitive and horrible hope you find something new soon and earning way more than they do

You might have a few days with flu or something too.

How horrible for you!

Absolutely leave early if you have annual leave owing. If not, ask if you can leave a day or so earlier. They may take pity on on you. I wouldn't waste another moment thinking about any of them.

Hope you manage to find a fab new job soon for more money!!!

Nasty bastards 🤬

Would I fuck be going out with them to celebrate their pay rises.

I have to ask though, are the ones you considered friends actually aware of the fact it’s the same day?

As a separate issue. Do you feel the redundancy of your position is actually reasonable? Or do you feel it’s a way of replacing you?

YANBU. I'd consider using annual leave and/or ringing in sick.

Insensitive twats.

Use all your remaining annual leave then call in sick on your last day.

What a bunch of thoughtless, insensitive self-regarding bastards.

That’s nasty. Sorry OP. Agree re taking leave to finish early and avoid listening to them making plans and discussing what they’re going to wear.

Is I actually legal to raise wages if certain staff when others are being made redundant?
It seems very unprofessional.
As for the night out that is just bloody cruel and they are not true friends.
Is it possible it could be a surprise leaving do they have arranged for You?

I would like to know if IABU about this Heather I have an point a point.

What?

Sorry that was a typo @eastmidsmummy

Yes they do know it’s my last day.

As far as the redundancy, I do feel it’s unfair and unreasonable, but have been told by he CAB that fighting it is a very long and tiring process. My boss has never liked me and I’m pretty sure that’s why this has happened, and the company has stitched things up in order to get away with it.

Call in sick.

Sorry, but CAB aren’t good with employment law Advice. I’d recommend acas or get half an hour with a solitotor or if you’re quite good at these things read about the selection process etc on the gov website.

That’s is hurtful. Boasting about pay rises in front of someone being made redundant is bad enough, but asking you to tag along to their celebration on your last day really is taking the piss. I’d not bother working my notice period, I’d be using annual leave, or phoning in sick.

Good luck with CAB hope you get a favourable (to you) outcome from this.

Sorry, but CAB aren’t good with employment law Advice. I’d recommend acas or get half an hour with a solitotor or if you’re quite good at these things read about the selection process etc on the gov website.
^ Definitely this. ACAS and a solicitor. It's not just about the fact of being made redundant, but also about ensuring the package is fair.

In terms of drinks, it must feel horrible that they've done this knowing it's your last day, but perhaps your friends didn't think you'd want to do anything on your last day given that you are leaving against your wishes and it's likely to be really tough? Personally, I imagine the last day might be awkward and emotionally exhausting for you and it might actually be better to not spend any more time with colleagues that day. Perhaps drinks the next day with those you'd really want to see? Anyone who genuinely cares about maintaining a friendship with you will come.