Upset about Colleagues’ behaviour

[Rainysummersday]

Hello,

I would like to know if IABU about this Heather I have an point a point.

Basically, my work is making my position redundant. It came as a shock and has been a really upsetting three weeks, especially as I am the only one been made redundant.

Some of my colleagues have been really nice about it, but I also discovered they have arranged a night out drinking on what is supposed to Be my last day. They all received pay rises as part of the announcement (which added insult to injury) and they’ve all arranged a night out to celebrate. It just so happens this night out is on my last day.

A colleague has said I can come along, but AIBU to be a bit upset by this? It feels really insesnsitive and also takes away the possibility of me arranging my own leaving do (should I want one). I have worked there a few years and a few of these people were friends as well as colleagues. It all feels very hurtful.

They are outrageously insensitive, cruel actually. I’m so sorry you’re going through this.

I thought the “Heather” was a reference to the movie “Heathers.” It’s a bit fitting considering the mean behavior.

I hope Karma bites your boss in the ass, and doesn’t let go.

Do as the others said if you can, and make your actual last day earlier than your official last day.

In these circumstances OP either using any annual leave you have left or ringing in sick are both viable options. The people you work with are insensitive scum.

It sounds like you will be better off out of there.

Please check with ACAS/a solicitor as well though.

Well, I don't think they're being unreasonable to celebrate their payrises, but nor are you being upset by it.

Were you the last to be employed and therefore the first to be let go?

No, I’ve actually been employed longer than 90% of them.

Not saying they can’t celebrate but I find it a bit upsetting to be doing it on the day I’m being dismissed from the company.

Call ACAS. Sorry about the bitches.

I think you need to get some advice on this redundancy. There are rules and procedures to follow. It seems v odd that you have been there longer and that others are getting pay rises. Stand up for yourself and seek some legal advice.

Yes, cansu, that does seem odd. OP, you need to call ACAS. There's something not right about what they're doing unless you haven't told us something important.

Call ACAS whatever the rl situation is make sure you're getting what you should at the least, but also to be sure you're not being made redundant illegally.

You really need to call Acas.

Thanks Jux and others. I have been getting advice from CAB over the last few weeks who have told me to appeal and call ACAS after redundancy. The situation is really off, but it seems companies can do what they like. This is quite a big well known company who will have the best lawyers so I feel they’ll twist everything to fit their way in a tribunal. I also don’t know if I’m mentally strong enough to go to court.

My boss took over a few years ago and has always disliked me. I’m not sure why as I never did anything to him! He always avoided communicating with me and never advertised promotions for me to apply. I have been a very hard working employee so the whole thing stinks. But I can’t work for this company after they’ve treated me.

Rainy I'm sure you won't want to work for them anymore, it all sounds awful.

But, by protesting and getting ACAS or a lawyer involved you may make them think it's worth buying you off and getting more money under a Settlement Agreement.

I think you should get advice now about whether you're best placed doing this before the redundancy. I'm trying sure you'll have less leverage afterwards.

Maybe ask for more advice inmm the employment section of Mumsnet?

They are all cunts.
Phone in 'sick' all week and sit at home drinking gin.