To think some neighbours think their garden is sound-proofed

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Our neighbours aren't bad people and they aren't terrible neighbours. As soon as the sun pokes its head out from behind a cloud though they immediately go into Full Summer Mode - the music is hacked up to 11, they hold extended shouting conversations (presumably to be heard above the music) and have every friend they ever made over for BBQs until the early hours of the following morning.

AIBU to think that this is an unreasonable reaction to the first sniff of summer? We live in a residential street and our garden (not large) is mere feet from them. If we hold a conversation in the garden in the summer it has to be shouted to be heard and we can't put our own music as it would be a deafening mix of our taste and theirs (MOTR Rock). Unless we stake our claim by turning our music on at 8am (in the stereotypical manner of German tourists and sun beds), we have to 'enjoy' their summer...

Oh that said, my old neighbours who's garden backed onto ours were big summer people who had weekly garden parties into the early hours, that's not okay! I don't mind it occasionally though. And during the day I enjoy it.

I find people who say "can't you just go round and have a word with them.." haven't usually experienced problem/noisy neighbours. Or they've been extremely (and rarely) lucky to have neighbours who they could have a "word" with because I find neighbours who are rude and selfish enough to have loud music/talking/parties until late into the night on a regular bases (I don't mean an occasional bash) are not the kind of people who will "stop" after a word.

When I complained to my neighbours once who were loud indoors late at night meaning I couldn't sleep (terrace houses) they said "ok" etc then proceeded to be even more noisy and had more friends over to park inconsiderately and play loud music.

Some people are just twats and having a word doesn't stop them because they don't have a considerate mindset.

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Yes. That's my experience too.

Totally agree partyringss I have spoken to mine about the noise a few times but it changes nothing since they obviously don't give a shit. I think because nobody else in our street is especially noisy they do actually think their garden (and house actually) is soundproofed.

How about pressure washing your patio and fence as soon as the party breaks out? The noise and mist / spray may well put them off. If they complain you can tell them summer is the time for garden maintenance

@dirtyquerty I like music in my garden, obviously not blaring out and I can assure you I'm no chav.

Soggy you could have a point there because my neighbours (other than the noisy ones) don't make that sort of noise/nuisance so maybe the noisy ones think everyone is having loud parties/music/bbqs but because they can't hear them they think no one can hear their noise either 🤔

The only occasion when it is acceptable to eat outdoors is at one of Her Majesty’s garden parties,thought everyone knew that.
BBQ’s are vulgar and unhygienic.
Burgers and hot dogs are of American origin and just look what eating that junk has done to them.
Don’t even mention trampolines, awful bloody things which are only bought to annoy the neighbours.

The four children next to me are so so fucking loud. Constant screaming and crying and shouting at me through the patchy hedge they poke holes through. (Can't afford a fence).

But they're children. I can understand that. What really upsets the whole neighbourhood is the father who screams at them. He swears and bawls at the top of his lungs. It's so aggressive it makes my children cry. They can't understand why he's being so nasty. He bullies and belittles them. The mum isn't much better. I hate them.

uterus you know the situation best so consider whether these children are being abused. I'm not saying they are, "shouting" covers a range from absolutely fine to the public face of more serious abuse but if it is repeated it might be emotional abuse.

www.nspcc.org.uk/preventing-abuse/child-abuse-and-neglect/emotional-abuse/what-is-emotional-abuse/

Don't be ridiculous, @purplehammer. One of the delights of summer is a proper afternoon tea on the lawn or terrace, served by the butler and maids.

Our next door neighbours have grand children who come round and swear like sailors in the garden. I am dreading the day I need to ask them to stop cause my little one can understand and repeat words.

One of the little delights swore at my dad over the fence cause he was mixing plaster in the garden and using an electric tool to do so. Apparently my dad was making too much noise......

I live in a semi and the family next door have 2 boys and a girl,all we can hear inside is the occasional sound of an elephant running down stairs.
Outside also just children playing,some music last year but they asked if we minded.
The house only the other side us rented,yesterday as the sun came out the loud music came on and the screaming children.
We moved here a few years ago after being remote from other houses.I am now think that congratulating myself on finding a nice peaceful area was premature..I may be investing in Bluetooth headphones, I'd rather listen to children playing and birdsong but needs must.

I moved because of noisy neighbours and part of the problem was just how noisy they were in the garden!

How fucking fun can a trampoline actually be after YEARS. Surely you'd be over the shrieking and screaming at full volume after a week?! Paddling pools are equally exciting. They aren't toddlers! I talking 10 and 13 year olds!

The parents are the hard drinking/swearing/physical fights type. No polite requests helped. Police visits didn't help. Threats from the council about endangering their tenancy did help a bit. But only for the 6am partying all night events - the kids were as still as unruly as ever.

I couldn't use my garden at all for the two years we lived next door to them, that's how loud and never ending it was. You do actually get twitchy about every sound as you think it's all about to start up again (and go on for 14 hours!).

I moved last year and now make complaints about how loud the birds can be! . Such a nice complaint to have.

@Bagadverts I've spoken to a safeguarding team about them actually. There are no major concerns although there's been some involvement.
I can't really just go to SS with "they shout a lot" but I know it's worse than normal shouting. She's not coping.
The neighbors ask me about what's going on because I'm right next door.

One of the youngest actually disclosed something to me only this morning while poking his head through the hedge so I'm going to get in touch with someone. :(
I'm dreading them finding out it was me though.

Great suggestions, thank you! I think I see a water balloon fight for my kids in the near future - after all 'how often do we get to enjoy the weather'? If it happens to coincide with next door's huge family BBQ, so be it..