To think some neighbours think their garden is sound-proofed

[QuizzlyBear]

Our neighbours aren't bad people and they aren't terrible neighbours. As soon as the sun pokes its head out from behind a cloud though they immediately go into Full Summer Mode - the music is hacked up to 11, they hold extended shouting conversations (presumably to be heard above the music) and have every friend they ever made over for BBQs until the early hours of the following morning.

AIBU to think that this is an unreasonable reaction to the first sniff of summer? We live in a residential street and our garden (not large) is mere feet from them. If we hold a conversation in the garden in the summer it has to be shouted to be heard and we can't put our own music as it would be a deafening mix of our taste and theirs (MOTR Rock). Unless we stake our claim by turning our music on at 8am (in the stereotypical manner of German tourists and sun beds), we have to 'enjoy' their summer...

*best to forward your other neighbours first thpigh

Were I used to live I had a huge garden. The neighbours behind me and the ones next to them were awful. They both had huge gardens too.
You would not believe how much noise they made.
We would sit near to our house or by the fence adjoining out lovely neighbours.
My son once asked what was going on as from his bedroom he could hear a commotion between both sets of neighbours, shouting and swearing, it was so loud it travelled across their gardens, across ours and into our house.
One house would allow their teenage children plus friends to light fires during warm summer days, usually just after I had pegged my washing out.
I t was so annoying. There are rules about having garden fires, they aren't allowed until after 6pm but every weekend there they would be, sat stoking a fire away from their house with the smoke bellowing out.I
I did on more than one occasion storm out of the house muttering about having yet again to dry my washing indoors whilst looking over at them.
They didn't care though.
One time my dcs beckoned me to the upstairs window and pointed into the garde behind us. I mid you not they had a horse in it, merrily eating the grass!

This is where you need a power washer and need to power wash your patio/fence/car/windows/dog for a few hours all the time "because the suns out!"

Or an industrial grade sprinkler "But it's summer, we need to keep our plants hydrated"

And yes, the right playlist is everything - if they like their soft rock then you either go classical (Wagner's ring cycle in its entirety), bouncy (Ylvis, Aqua, Cartoons) or heavy (Korn, SOAD, Rammstein, Metallica's 'So what' is a good one if they complain). Or, as a PP suggested, bagpipes.

Play crazy frog full blast on repeat. That would do it.

Afraid you would be pissing in the wind to complain if they are harshing your mellow. Often people have quite loud TV and music on all day around them that peace and (blissful) quiet would be sheer hell to them. They need noise going on to enjoy anything because their brains have grown that way, so you really would, as far as they're concerned, be spoiling their fun.

The only consolation I can offer as a fellow sufferer is to remember the racket next time they knock on the door asking for a favour, IYKWIM.

YANBU at all.

I hate those selfish people. Their excuse is that they should be entitled to enjoy the summer but it's ok to make everyone else miserable in the process.

Yes, it happened to us and even though I'm with you with the 'not seeking to their level' attitude, after we tried to talk to them calmly and make them realise that their pleasure was our misery, we had no choice but to give them a taste of the medicine. What really upset me was that to do so, we had to disturb our other neighbours too but we approached them and they told us they understood.

Thankfully, I had to be up at 5:30 am during the week to go to work, so I started the music in the garden at that time (added some singing to it, I think that was the worse part to it for them). DH even got up at 6am once to cut the grass. They didn't rise to it at first as they knew why we were doing and assume we would stop. We continued until they knocked on the door and were finally able to reach a 'deal'. It's been ok since.

Fight fire with fire IMO. Invest in some nightclub level speakers and blast over the top of their music with something which will offend their ears (heavy metal/opera/bagpipes) until they get the message. This is particularly effective at 6am on a Sunday morning after they've had a late BBQ on Saturday night.

Live bagpipes is always more effective, worth looking into hiring a piper for the next sunny day www.alivenetwork.com/bandsearch.asp?style=Pipers

We too hate the BBQ paries all summer but think so long as before 11pm and it goes quiet then it's fine. Having said that next door is newly rented to a group of mates - I sense a summer of hell here

gabsdot since the gym is a business I would be onto my local council and complaining about the disturbance it is causing in a residential area. I bet there is something in their operating licence about not causing a nuisance .

I have two sons who play the bagpipes. They don't eat much, shall I send them over?

Is it time to mulch your flowerbeds with some manure?

Our last ndns were a nightmare for this to be replaced by new ndns with yappy dog. Can hear it in the garden even though they have their windows shut

Previous ndns even managed to party in the garden on BOXING DAY when it snowed. That’s commitment for you

Show tunes should to it. Every musical since Oklahoma played full blast.

My ndn had a big party last night. All sat next to the burner thing singing shouting laughing while music blared. They didn't take it inside until 12.30am then the party continued indoors. So rude and inconsiderate.
I saw one of them standing drinking at 11am this morning. Football is on and this just encourages them.
Hate rude ignorant people.

My friend - who had her little niece staying over one night - woke to the NDN drilling at 7.40 on a Sunday morning. She moved two hi-fi's with speakers against the adjoining wall in two different rooms, put a (IIRC) Lenny Kravitz CD on one and a Santana CD on the other and took her niece out for the day.
I always think speaking in a non-confrontational way is the best first step but my friend said people like that don't appreciate that kind of approach...

We have one a few doors down and a different neighbour with the most unhappiest kids I've ever known. In fact their whole house is miserable. Said unhappy kids are out out to play early morning and let the screaming commence. We especially love it on lie in Sundays 😒

We've had kids but I totally see why no kids holidays and no kids weddings are growing in popularity.

Our old neighbours were terrible for being so loud in the garden and the house all at once!we never managed to spend a sunny day in our own garden as the kids screamed and shouted and she swore at them al the time.
Couldn’t even have the windows open as then you could hear it indoors!
We spent every summer looking for places to go to get away from them!

Then one day when ds was 10 days old I’d had enough, went round and screamed at her (not my finest moment)
Put the house on the market the next day, moved out to the country three weeks later.
The only neighbour we have is my dad next door and he’s very quiet! He’d even ask if he could mow the lawn when the dc were babies!! Love him!

I live in a terrace with tiny gardens. Really on top pf each other. At the moment, no-one plays loud music and there are rarely parties. It's incredible really. There are screeching and laughing children but that always stops at a reasonable hour. But every time a new family moves in I get very anxious, because I too hate the fact that people could decide to do whatever they wanted (inside of what's legal) and I couldn't do thing about it.

Our (otherwise lovely land considerate) neighbours have two girls aged around 5 and 3. They let them play in the back garden until about 10:30pm in the summer and my god they do not do it quietly. I had to go round last summer when they were throwing those banger things that sound like gunshots on the patio at gone 10pm and ask them to stop after they woke DS multiple times.

I'm not unsympathetic to young children, I have a 2 year old myself. Our bedroom window is right by their back garden. We're usually in bed by 10 in the week, DH has to be up at 5:30am for work and I'm up early with the toddler.

This summer I'm also going to be massively pregnant in July/August and honestly will be even less tolerant of the racket than normal. I don't give a monkeys what time other people's kids go to bed, but don't let them disturb other people!

I'm not the sort of person described, in summer i'm likely to just sit on my lawn with a book and a drink, but i LOVE when the neighbours are out.

We spend ten months of the year cold and wet and grey and miserable, waking up to the sound of people laughing and music playing and just feeling the energy of half the neighbours being out and having fun is one of my favourite things. Happy crowds, cities, streets and parks in the summer keep me going all year long.

The other day I heard my first bit of music, 'it wasn't me' played quietly by a neighbour . Put a smile on my face and I was mouthing the words as I mucked out my animals.

They're not utter wankers, just EXTREME extroverts who are never happy unless they're surrounded by people and noise. Nobody else in our road makes much noise in the summer so we just pulled the short straw!

They sound rather like our neighbours. They seem to have a huge extended family and frequently have loud get togethers - not loud music it has to be said but very loud talking and laughing and messing about which go on well after midnight sometimes.

YANBU my neighbours are the same, totally inconsiderate and selfish

music in the garden is the hallmark of the chav