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To think brides often get their dress wrong?

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FreeMantle · 13/04/2018 18:16

I have always thought this actually but no one else seems to have noticed.
My lovely friends, who pride themselves on dressing very well, seem to chose a dress that doesn't suit them at all. Skinny ones go for the tightest column dress ,so they look like beans. My large busted ones are falling out of massive strapless meringues.
The latest is my size 8/10 cousin who without an inch of fat, has wide hips. So of course she's gone for a full on strapless mermaid. Making her shape look totally out of proportion.
Obviously she'll be beautiful as a bride but why that dress?
I am now looking for one for myself . Despite being short and athletic everyone seems to love a huge ivory fluffy tulle princess type dress on me. I look like a dumpy fungus. It's thin straps and tight bodice totally emphasise my lack of top half. And yes, I'm tempted.

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FrozenMargarita17 · 13/04/2018 20:25

I had a mermaid dress and I loved it :) I was skinnier at the time though.

Shodan · 13/04/2018 20:25

I've been married twice and got the dress wrong twice Grin

First time around, 1990s, I looked like a shiny shepherdess.

2nd time around, I foolishly allowed my mother to make my dress, as she begged to. She cut it the wrong way so it was too short, blamed it on me because I had chosen heels that were too high, then criticised the beading I did on it.

Probably just as well that I don't intend to marry for a 3rd time Grin

One thing I've never understood though, is why wedding dresses have to follow any fashion trends (strapless/mermaid etc). Surely, as it's a dress that you're only going to wear once, on a (not for me obviously but hopefully in general) once in a lifetime occasion, there should be a full range of styles?

FrozenMargarita17 · 13/04/2018 20:27

@stayingaliveisawayoflife you looked lovely!

LoveInTokyo · 13/04/2018 20:28

You look lovely in that dress, nawnee.

Some nasty comments in this thread.

I hope none of my wedding guests are as unpleasant as some people on here.

OCSockOrphanage · 13/04/2018 20:29

26 years ago, I bought a Jackie O dress and jacket in duck egg blue to wear for my wedding. And it still comes out for weddings etc every few years. Not the best cost per wear, but then, I wanted something special that wasn't a wedding dress! But I was nearly 40, and marrying for the second time.

Morphene · 13/04/2018 20:29

can't really believe the number of people on here saying the highest priority in getting married is looking as good as you can.

When did women become so god awfully shallow...and why the hell am I bothering to bring my DD up thinking she has more to offer society than her beauty or lack of it, when the moment she heads out on her own she going to be judged to death by all the fucking muppets arrayed on here?

SusanneLinder · 13/04/2018 20:30

nawnee...I think your dress is lovely!

SoyDora · 13/04/2018 20:30

I hope none of my wedding guests are as unpleasant as some people on here

^ this

FrozenMargarita17 · 13/04/2018 20:30

@PistFump I think you looked gorgeous!!

StraplessWonder · 13/04/2018 20:31

nawnee you look lovely Smile

Here's my strapless. I still love it despite all the comments!

To think brides often get their dress wrong?
LetsGoBitches · 13/04/2018 20:31

Buy a Chanel suit.

FrozenMargarita17 · 13/04/2018 20:32

@nawnee2 that's such a lovely dress!

LipstickHandbagCoffee · 13/04/2018 20:33

Judged to death?Slight over reaction there morphene,to a hypothetical situation
Given none of the fuckin muppets have never met your daughter she’s relatively safe

Wifelife · 13/04/2018 20:34

As someone that runs a bridal boutique I think it’s really sad that the majority of these posts are so mean, as long as the bride feels beautiful that’s all that matters - working in that world we can and do make suggestions about what styles would suit, along with considering their setting, budget and personal style.

There are lots of options available nowadays so ‘strapless meringue’ isn’t the only option but ultimately the bride decides- and what she feels good in doesn’t always translate to the spectators opionions. Sadly shows like ‘say yes to the dress’ make people feel like they’re entitled to give very harsh critiques when in reality they wouldn’t dream of being so cruel to the bride’s face.

And believe me it is of no advantage to the boutique to push a bride into a gown they don’t suit/want because you’re working with this bride for many months and if she’s not entirely happy with her choice this certainly rears it’s head later on - I think you opted for the wrong Bridal boutique if that was your experience.

The golden rule when picking your dress is to find something that makes you feel like a bride, suits your day and feels like ‘you’ - and no one else’s opinion really matters.

TheHobbyKing · 13/04/2018 20:34

I remember one bridal shop assistant telling me that most people buy the first dress they try on because they’re so excited to see themselves in a wedding dress. Rather than taking the time to actually think about it.

Mermaid dresses aren’t good if you’re short as it makes you look even shorter and massive boobs like a shelf aren’t a good look either.

I had a strapless dress, I don’t remember anything else being available at the time.

LetsGoBitches · 13/04/2018 20:34

@nawnee, that dress looks lovely on you as you have well defined muscles on your arms. Too often arms look like mottled legs of lamb, especially in the cold.
BUT Wink you used the eye liner a little too heavily!

LoveInTokyo · 13/04/2018 20:35

I recently bought my wedding dress. Probably the style that suited my figure best was a slim fitting mermaid dress. But in the end I chose a dress with a fuller skirt and loads of lace because it’s the one day in my life when I can get away with wearing something like that. I was also tempted by a strapless “tulle monstrosity”. It was a lot of fun to wear.

doilookshitinthis · 13/04/2018 20:37

I loved my dress and I'd pick it again!

To think brides often get their dress wrong?
nawnee2 · 13/04/2018 20:37

letsgo

I know! I did tell the make up artist to go easy!

Thank you for all your kind comments. Two babies later and I def don't still look like that. In the run up to the wedding I did think to myself 'these are going to be on my mantle/wall for the rest of my life' so I became a proper gym bunny.

OCSockOrphanage · 13/04/2018 20:38

Chanel suit gets my vote, but my decision is outlined below. Mine was Jil Sander.

TheHobbyKing · 13/04/2018 20:38

Nawnee I’m sure I tried on your dress! (Well not actually yours obviously).

TellOutMySoul · 13/04/2018 20:38

It's impossible to look elegant when you look like you have a lacy towel wrapped round you.

SoyDora · 13/04/2018 20:39

Maybe their aim isn’t to look ‘elegant’?

Morphene · 13/04/2018 20:40

wfielife if you'd only just gone a little further and said 'the important thing is the bride is happy' I'd actually have agreed with you.

I feel so sad for all the men getting married...I wonder what's most important to them given apparently noone expects it to be whether they are as beautiful for the day as they might possibly be.

Can you imagine anyone in the whole world EVER saying 'the important thing is that the groom feels beautiful'?

yeah...well..that.

DD43 · 13/04/2018 20:41

I had a strapless dress and I looked beautiful, so there. Grin

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