To ask how you cope with people who never shut up!

[Fuckitbucket13]

I clean for a woman who never shuts up. I go into another room to clean & she's still talking, I pretend I haven't heard her & she then shouts for me. It's all just about people I've never met & who I don't want to know about. I'm mentally knackered when I've done, not physically though as I don't get much done.

Another woman, my mum's friend, she's lovely but again, she never shuts up.

I was thinking of wearing dark glasses & having a nap while they talk. It's just exhausting listening to someone talk for two hours!

My mother is like this and I cannot stand it for longer than 10 mins so I have to keep leaving the room. She talks at you, a monologue and goes from one subject to the next without stopping all day long, and it feels like torture. If I try to change the subject and ask her something else she just ignores and continues. If we are in a family group she monopolises the entire conversation the whole time and really does not like it if you try to have a conversation with someone else.

I feel pain when faced with flapper jaws who can’t stop speaking so yanbu.

Plus she buys every MLM product going, then monologues at us about how we should all buy the latest fad items. She’s obsessed with the weight loss ones and doesn’t like that my answer when she asks how I've lost a good bit of weight is ‘improved diet and loads of exercise’ (not being smug, it was fucking hard work and I’m still working hard at it.) If she wants to waste her cash, fine, but don’t try to tell me about ‘toxins’ (that’s why we have livers) and how you’re ‘cleansing!’ Well that’s fine, you do you, but I don’t go on about the fact I’m training for a marathon, have an eating plan, and that’s why I’ve lost weight - no one at work know about that!! Your sachets of, whatever that stuff is, isn’t something I’m interested in! Just shut up! (I may have needed this rant for a while!!!)

I work with someone like that. It’s very waring. Often I just make non-commital noises, but then she'll just carry on!!

MIL is like this. On her recent visit, I actually took note of the time she started talking and she got to 26 minutes before she ran out of monologue

I try and tune out and just nod but every so often she will slip in a fairly outrageous comment or point of view or opinion about DH or the way we bring up the childre I really don't agree with and I will have agreed without even realising so i have to keep on my toes!

I put subtitles on the tv when she is here so I can try and zone out.

A lot of people are saying "she's lovely... but she talks about herself all the time & isn't interested in what anyone else has to say."

What's lovely about someone who does that?

I'm finding this thread interesting as we have a Team Leader at work who never shuts up. It's a part-time customer facing job. She'll brief the Team before customers arrive..& when they do arrive she is in a total flap, breathing down staff's neck etc. You can see customers looking aghast at times. I cannot fathom how someone can open their mouth and then talk non-stop for 5 hours. HOW is that even possible?!

The flapping I can ignore, mostly. But it's the constant monologue from the moment you enter the workspace, until hometime. A lot of it is boasting. She's quite an abrasive character too. Twice I've had to be firm with her and tell her, I do not like her speaking directly into my ear whilst I am working. Have also told her, she 'misses' customer and staff queries as she talks so much that she doesn't even hear what's being asked. But all this goes over her head so I've given in and asked to be moved. I can't tolerate her relentless yapping any longer.

My mum also talks all the time and it made me unhappy at some points in my life - I'd feel like crying after she got to know boyfriends as I'd be cringing inside whilst she prattled on and on to them. She was the same with my friends. You can't watch a TV programme with her, she'll chatter right through it then if you're ignoring her she will call your name to get your attention, voice up an octave every time. She isn't lonely, has loads of friends herself just likes being centre of attention and doesn't have an self-awareness filter.

The only way to deal with people who won't STFU is to remove yourself from their space.

I'm glad it's not just my kids, I feel awful but they're so loud and talk at me constantly. I swear it gives me sensory issues, I don't have it often, mostly just with them, oh and my sister! It's so irritating but I feel guilty when DS9 is giving me a blow by blow account of his last game of Fortnite(very crap computer game for those not familiar), I just feel like leaving the room at times arghh

I have a DD who does not shut up. She even does a running commentary on TV programmes, even when totally engrossed!

I do just say 'Shut up' sometimes, I feel it is either that, or gag her!

Why dont people say to the person, you need to stop talking continually all the time about yourself/your kids/husband/ work whatever and learn to listen to others? Whats so hard about that?
I'm guilty for not having the confidence to this in the past but I just continually changed to conversation when someone was banging on and on.People do get the message eventually.

@rudgie47 I could never be so rude! This is an elderly lady though she has lots of friends & famile so isn't lonely, even her family say she talks too much. Also it doesn't make a person bad to talk a lot, annoying yes but bad, no.
I do believe people like this have no awareness of how difficult it is to listen to their constant chatter!

I do have a friend like this too but I've trained him (told him to shut up & listen) over the years & now he at least pretends to listen but he's a good friend so I can say almost anything on him.
I couldn't tell anyone else to shut up.

I wouldn't stop cleaning for her because of it. Once when I went I sugested she go on Facebook to look at something, it worked I had peace. Last time she wouldn't go on, my poor head!