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76 replies

yellowmellw · 12/04/2018 15:40

If I'm pregnant. Currently 7 weeks pregnant.

Do I state on application in pregnancy or wait for an interview and would this affect my chances.

OP posts:
MrsFionaCharming · 12/04/2018 15:43

Wait until you’ve been offered and accepted the job.

Wonderlady · 12/04/2018 15:43

I don't think they can discriminate because you are pregnant.

Grumblepants · 12/04/2018 15:44

I wouldn't tell them. Wait until your first scan.

Tumilnaughts · 12/04/2018 16:01

You don't have to tell them until 15 weeks before your due date if you'll be eligible for SMP. I wouldn't say anything until 20 weeks at least personally. Definitely don't put it on the application or even mention in interview.

NotUmbongoUnchained · 12/04/2018 16:02

I would accidentally find out a few weeks after you’ve started the job

Tumilnaughts · 12/04/2018 16:02

But then again I'm the type of person who wouldn't even tell my parents if I didn't have too. Confused

MollyDaydream · 12/04/2018 16:03

Wait til you get a firm job offer at the very earliest. You aren't obliged to inform your employer until you are 25 weeks though.

snash12 · 12/04/2018 16:03

No you don't have to tell them and they're not allowed to ask.

Samantha77hat · 12/04/2018 16:34

Really out of order to do this and you know it

Notevilstepmother · 12/04/2018 16:36

Not what the law says Samantha.

I’ve been in a team where it’s happened, so I do get where you are coming from, however as a feminist I sucked it up because in the end it’s about equality.

Samantha77hat · 12/04/2018 16:40

It’s the most anti feminist thing you could do

Perpetuates an stereotype that creates gender pay gap and glass ceilings for women

What if the business struggles or fails, and a load of other women lose their jobs, or have to take on an unreasonable workload to cope, and op is getting a job full well in the knowledge that she’ll be off on maternity after no time at all? Will create absolutely zero trust or confidence in the employee, and just make them more adverse to hiring female employees

Disgusting selfish behaviour

Pengggwn · 12/04/2018 16:43

It is not ideal for the business, but it isn't 'out of order'. If the OP does the job she was hired to do, she is no different to anyone else until the point she takes maternity leave. That, she is absolutely entitled to do.

greendale17 · 12/04/2018 16:44

It isn’t illegal but I do find this a bit unethical and sneaky

TittyGolightly · 12/04/2018 16:45

You don't have to tell them until 15 weeks before your due date if you'll be eligible for SMP.

If it’s a new employer and the OP is already pregnant she won’t be eligible for SMP.

Samantha77hat · 12/04/2018 16:47

‘Entitled’ being the word. No consideration of the business or the existing workers. Just me me me

Most jobs have very limited maternity for new starts thankfully

As said before it may be within the letter of the law but the employee concerned will be a pariah as soon as this becomes known.
Severe reputation damage. Possibly managed out at the first opportunity which isn’t hard in probationary period.

wink1970 · 12/04/2018 16:49

A agree with Samantha77hat

It does sustain the viewpoint that hiring a woman of childbearing age is a waste of time at best, a drain on resources at worst, and therefore best avoided.

Your colleagues will resent you, so will the company, especially if your maternity cover means investments/pay rises are jeapordised. Just be honest and if you're the right person then they will still offer if they can accommodate you.

Fundays12 · 12/04/2018 16:51

Your not legally bound too but be aware they may not have to pay you maternity pay as you wont be there long enough to claim it most likely. I personally would stay in a job if I had one already while pregnant or look for maternity contract cover as they tend to work in well time wise but it’s totally your choice. Good luck

Hoppinggreen · 12/04/2018 16:54

You’ve every right to start a new job while pg and not tell your employer
I’d be pretty pissed off if I was them though, especially if it’s a small company
Difference between what’s legally right and what’s the right thing to do

Radom · 12/04/2018 16:54

I went to an interview three months pregnant and was honest in the interview told them thinking I wouldn't get the job but to my surprise they did and I only recently left after ten years there so if your the right person they will employ you.

Pengggwn · 12/04/2018 16:55

Samantha77hat

In this context, 'entitled' really does mean 'entitled', not the snide 'think you're entitled'. People have to make a living. Being unable to apply for jobs because of a pregnancy is directly discriminatory against women and, in the context of longer term employment, really very silly.

CotswoldStrife · 12/04/2018 16:59

Would echo the advice upthread that moving jobs now (if you already work somewhere and do enough hours) would mean you lose out on SMP.

Catspaws · 12/04/2018 17:03

You don't have to tell them and I wouldn't. They aren't allowed to discriminate but they likely would! You're not obliged to tell them so keep it under wraps until you've accepted a job.

Congrats!

VladmirsPoutine · 12/04/2018 17:06

I'd be honest. It'll come out either way.

FirstTimeRound984 · 12/04/2018 17:06

Its not wrong or right to tell them, technically its none of their business whether you are or not and you don't have to say anything until 15 weeks (i think) but if the job role is demanding, i.e. on your feet most of the day, then really you should tell them so that they can look after you accordingly - I told my boss i was pregnant before i even told my parents, because my work involved lifting heavy boxes and moving heavy cages so my boss needed to know so that changes could be made which meant I didn't do those jobs anymore. If you're the right person for the job they will still hire you and will appreciate you being upfront with them (if you choose to be)

WhatToDoAboutWailmerGoneRogue · 12/04/2018 17:08

I also agree with Samantha77hat and wink1970.

Your colleagues will resent you, so will the company, especially if your maternity cover means investments/pay rises are jeapordised.

This is also true and will make returning afterwards awkward, uncomfortable and unpleasant.

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