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AIBU?

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To think 9 am on a weekday is not 'early'

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pannikin · 11/04/2018 11:11

Yesterday I took in an amazon package for next door, which happens to be a student house. I don't mind as they've taken stuff in for me before.
I tried to take it round last night but no answer.
I tried again this morning, after the school run at about 9 am and one of the girls who lives there answered the door, took the package but said 'oh it's a bit early for knocking on the door'. I did point out that it's 9 am!
So, WIBU to take the parcel at 9 am?! Not a student bashing thread before any jumps on me - I was one until a few months ago, hence why we live in an area with lots of students as good location to uni.

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LimonViola · 11/04/2018 13:47

All of the PP huffing and puffing with 'well don't ever take a parcel for her again!' are being a bit pathetic tbf. Does a comment from a neighbour, the tone of which we don't actually know, really upset you so much?

This is making me laugh as these days I'm rarely asleep past seven, even on my days off, but I remember being a student and occasionally missing my 915 lectures as I was just so tired it felt basically impossible to get up and ready at eight! As feasible as jumping to the moon. Maybe it was because of how much pain I was in and being exhausted as a result, but I do wonder if there's something there about younger people being on a different sleep schedule naturally. After all, we do sleep differently throughout our life stages.

I try have a bit of compassion, perhaps she was up all night crying about her parent dying, or helping a friend through a crisis. Even if it was just partying, I don't think a comment made by a person who has been abruptly woken is any reason to develop a vendetta and purposefully refuse to take a parcel in again 😂

MeanTangerine · 11/04/2018 14:05

If student was in her PJs or no hair /makeup done then the "its a bit early" comment could well have been embarrassment on her part rather than a complaint against OP, iyswim. The parcel was not necessarily for her either.

I worked in bars at uni - a typical finish time was 1 am in the week and 4 am on a weekend, so 9 would have been early for me too, and that might have been what the student meant.

Etiquette on my street is that the person expecting the parcel goes around to collect it from the person who kindly took it in though - I don't think OP should feel the need to take parcels around again.

ErrolTheDragon · 11/04/2018 14:06

YANBU 9am is a time when most people are likely to be awake, even if not up and dressed.

As for this idea that students are all 'on holiday' ... DD makes the distinction that it's vacation not 'holiday' - she's been up and at her desk working before 9 most days.

diddl · 11/04/2018 14:15

" Does a comment from a neighbour, the tone of which we don't actually know, really upset you so much?"

It's not a question of being upset, but of wondering why you'd bothered!

kateandme · 11/04/2018 14:30

your not ur but yet I still think its a little too early.id only just call someone on the phone at this time weekdays.

Grassyass · 11/04/2018 14:45

The girl wasn't rude, we don't know whether she said thank you or not and we don't know if the parcel was for her or a co-tenant who is back home for the holidays.
The OP said the students have taken in parcels for her before so it would seem to be mutually beneficial to get over it.
I am retired now and seldom up and dressed before 9am.

WeAllHaveWings · 11/04/2018 21:24

according to this thread it seems there's never a universally ideal time to knock on someone's door, I'll just say no to the postie/delivery man next time.

Mature response

user1471426142 · 11/04/2018 21:40

For students 9am is probably a bit early. I dream of the day I can lie in past 9am again. I think concept of time changes when you have children.

Snausage · 11/04/2018 21:44

9am is not early. It's generally the time that people start work!

RavenLG · 11/04/2018 21:48

There’s a lot of deadlines around this time. Going back to my student days I’d ofobably be awake until 5am doing work or studying. It would be early.

Even now it would be early for me (if it was a weekend, child free and enjoy a lay in, mornings in bed with DP)

DP is on nights and wouldn’t be too impressed being woken up at 9am.

It’s all relative

LegallyBrunet · 11/04/2018 22:00

I’m a student and I have a lot of 9am lectures and don’t sleep very well so if you’d knocked on my door at 9am on the one day I have off, I would not be impressed but I would least have said thank you for the parcel. Also, not all universities are still off, I went back on Monday.

TutTutButt · 11/04/2018 22:03

you were very nice to do that it is early for uni students though she probably been up partying all night
or me I work nights so it is early to me

Derwent19 · 11/04/2018 22:27

The OP was entirely in the right to deliver it when she did. If I was in receipt of a neighbours parcel I would take it to them at a time convenient to me so long as it was within normal working hours, say 9-6.
Any delivery company would deliver within those hours so if it was inconvenient to the student, tough luck.

Brokenbiscuit · 11/04/2018 22:32

I get up at 6am, but I wouldn't knock on someone's door before 10am - unless it was an emergency, or I knew they were an early riser. I certainly wouldn't assume that students would be up at 9am!

LimonViola · 12/04/2018 07:14

Bit odd to presume because she's a student she'd been up partying all night tbh. Student nurses, social workers, medics, all have full time placements at parts of the course on top of their academic work, lots of students have to work to supplement their bursaries and loans, plenty still have caring responsibilities for sick parents or their own children. Being a student doesn't mean you're eighteen, unencumbered, well off and a partygoer!

Lizzie48 · 12/04/2018 08:38

It's a long time since I thought of 9am as early. When I was a student I probably would have thought so, though, as I used to regularly complete essays or revise until 3am, I was a night owl in those days.

I was always too polite to say it was too early, though I might have moaned to a friend about it.

thatmustbenigelwiththebrie · 12/04/2018 08:55

Most people are out of the house by 9am on a weekday.

If they're in, I would assume they don't work and are probably in their pyjamas or something

MumofBoysx2 · 12/04/2018 08:59

I suppose she was ungrateful because the parcel wasn't for her personally! It was nice of you to take it round. I guess 9am is early for students, yes - maybe take it round later.

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pannikin · 12/04/2018 09:39

WeAllHaveWings how is it immature to say 'no, sorry' to taking parcels in next time when she didn't even say thank you to me for taking it in, or dropping it round?
And the parcel was addressed for her, we know their names and them ours, being next door neighbours and all that.

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Mrsramsayscat · 12/04/2018 09:44

She was rude. She should have taken the parcel and thanked you. Don't bother in future.

I have one neighbour like this. After leaving a humungous parcel at my house all day and evening whilst I was sick in bed, he then complained that he'd called to collect it earlier and that I hadn't opened the door. No more parcels taken!

PickAChew · 12/04/2018 09:55

Undoubtedly early for a student but they've probably lost a taker inner of parcels ordered to arrive when they're not even around, now.

It's a learning experience for all concerned.

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