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AIBU?

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To think 9 am on a weekday is not 'early'

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pannikin · 11/04/2018 11:11

Yesterday I took in an amazon package for next door, which happens to be a student house. I don't mind as they've taken stuff in for me before.
I tried to take it round last night but no answer.
I tried again this morning, after the school run at about 9 am and one of the girls who lives there answered the door, took the package but said 'oh it's a bit early for knocking on the door'. I did point out that it's 9 am!
So, WIBU to take the parcel at 9 am?! Not a student bashing thread before any jumps on me - I was one until a few months ago, hence why we live in an area with lots of students as good location to uni.

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merrymouse · 11/04/2018 12:03

The thing is you do sometimes have to get up at 9am to answer the door if you are in the habit of ordering things that need to be delivered to your door.

Okaynowimconfused · 11/04/2018 12:05

I would probably knock at 10 if it was me as I'm not keen on 9.

My toddler and I sleep in until 9ish sometimes so I would have been woken.

Early for some. Not for others.

Nicknacky · 11/04/2018 12:06

9 is early for me, I wouldn’t be impressed with someone coming to my door at that time. Although if they had a card through the door they should have came for it last night unless it was too late by the time they got in.

Pinkywoo · 11/04/2018 12:07

When I was a student I had a pub job to make ends meet, so if I'd finished work at 1-2 in the morning then yes 9am would be too early!

Skarossinkplunger · 11/04/2018 12:08

All the posts about having children and being up at 6am and to have done the school run, shopping and batch cooked for 6 months are nonsensical in this case. They’re students, probably young and on Easter Break. They’ve probably partying all night and don’t need to be up at 9am.

Spudlet · 11/04/2018 12:10

When you live on student time, 9am is practically dawn.

I miss living on student time [wails]

Viviennemary · 11/04/2018 12:11

I think that is quite early for a lot of people. But the student was still a bit cheeky and ungrateful for making such a remark instead of thanking you.

windchimesabotage · 11/04/2018 12:11

I think it is quite early. For students and people who do not work 9-5 and work shifts.
However she should not have been rude to you because it was very kind of you to bring round the parcel.
I do wish people would not imply that it is lazy to still be in bed at 9am.... not everyone works 9-5 you know! Large swathes of the population may finish very late and so want to get up later... equally large swathes of the population have days off which are not the weekend and may want to have a lie in, particularly if their job usually has very long hours. Try to have some compassion and understanding that not everyone is living the same lifestyle as you before you judge!! (that was directed at pp saying getting up after 9 was lazy not at the OP)

PancakeBum · 11/04/2018 12:19

Hahahahahaha students are ridiculous aren't they. I have two sisters who are students and they whinge if they have to be up any earlier than 10.

It's hard to sympathise with them when I have a two year old who gets me up at 5am every morning .

DiegoMadonna · 11/04/2018 12:20

I would have just laughed at her and not bother taking their parcels again.

Tawdrylocalbrouhaha · 11/04/2018 12:21

I would never bring a parcel to someone's door at 9am, but it was rude of her to say it.

Sweetpotatoaddict · 11/04/2018 12:26

As a previous poster pointed out everyone is individual when it comes to the times they keep.
Maybe it was too early for them, however you had helped them out by taking in the parcel and then taking it round. In future don’t take anything in for them.
And perhaps your the response to her should have been, “ I think what you meant to say was ‘thanks’.”

Sophiesdog11 · 11/04/2018 12:45

All those saying its still Easter hols - my DS is back at his Uni - term re-started on Monday for everyone at his Uni.

He also has 9am lectures every day except tomorrow, so wouldn't have actually been in at 9am!

I do find the 'lazy students, always out on piss and never at lectures' attitude of lots on MN to be tedious. DS likes a night out as much as anyone, but he also goes to his lectures.

Kazzyhoward · 11/04/2018 12:49

Nothing wrong with 9am at all. After all, the couriers/delivers start working earlier than that themselves, as do all manner of other workers who may visit your home such as meter readers.

wastingtimeontinternet · 11/04/2018 12:55

I’m a student, I work better in the evenings, so frequently won’t stop studying until 1/2am or later, so yes 9am is quite early for me. That being said I don’t expect others to know in advance what kind of hours I keep and I recognise it’s a normal time for much of society and wouldn’t mind someone coming to my door then, as long as they don’t judge me for being half asleep (and quite possibly not yet awake enough to come across as anything but a bit grumpy)

I think if you’ve woken someone up you shouldn’t be surprised if they’re a bit grumpy, whatever time of day it is, it’s a pretty normal human reaction to being jolted from sleep!

diddl · 11/04/2018 12:58

Well as you inconvenienced her by taking it there, no need to bother taking anything else in for them!

wastingtimeontinternet · 11/04/2018 13:17

In the past week I’ve had 3 people unexpectedly knock on my door, two around 10.30am and one at 10.30pm. The one at 10.30pm was massively apologetic for knocking on my door at that time, but was the only one who caught me awake (and dressed and alert). One of the morning callers apologised as soon as she saw I was in my pyjamas, and the other took the OPs kind of attitude of implying I should be awake and dressed. She was the only one who was unreasonable (and rude).

You weren’t being unreasonable to take it round at 9am, you were unreasonable for when she said it was early (for her) pointing out it was 9am, rather than apologising.

halfwitpicker · 11/04/2018 13:19

It's not early.

YANBU.

Throw the parcel in the privet next time.

Idontdowindows · 11/04/2018 13:20

You were not being unreasonable at all, seeing as you were doing them a favour.

But, to be fair, for me 9am is early, but I'd never say that to a neighbour that was kind enough to bring me my package.

Catspaws · 11/04/2018 13:21

Was she being self-deprecating or joking?

Tbh nowadays I'm very much of the view that the day is half gone by 9am but when I was a student I would likely have felt differently - I wasn't very familiar with 9am

That said she was very rude when you were doing her a favour! That's what makes me think she was maybe poking fun at herself but judged it wrongly?

ZenNudist · 11/04/2018 13:26

Agree dont take parcels for them any more. Rude not to thank you. Not too early. Even as a late sleeping student i woukd be aware that the rest of the world is up at 9 even if i were in bed.

PaulDacreRimsGeese · 11/04/2018 13:34

She's a student so it's the middle of the night for her, but you weren't BU to drop at 9am if that was what suited you best.

YouCantGetHereFromThere · 11/04/2018 13:35

The thing is you do sometimes have to get up at 9am to answer the door if you are in the habit of ordering things that need to be delivered to your door.

This.

cakecakecheese · 11/04/2018 13:37

It is early. But you took in a parcel and brought it round so I'd thank you and not mention the time.

I agree everyone has different perceptions of early. My friend who has young children has learned that although she may have been up for a few hours at 10am on a Sunday, I haven't and I will not respond to any correspondence before then

LimonViola · 11/04/2018 13:41

I wouldn't have taken it at 9 as that is early for people who work late or don't get up early, unless I had no choice due to my own schedule and then it's fair enough. But if I had options I'd choose to take a parcel around early evening/mid afternoon. Plenty of people who don't have to be up early sleep in past nine, not just students but people with chronic fatigue, health issues, and so forth. I tend to be up by six but when I've had insomnia or severe fatigue/pain from health issues I've often been awake all night and only dropped off in the early hours so being woken at 9 would have been awful! That's none of your concern though, I'm just giving my reasons for thinking 9 is early. I know you were doing a favour so it's fine to be at your convenience.

It sounds like she was just being chatty, not having a go. I wouldn't take it personally.

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