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AIBU to say something to this group?

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BubbaB · 08/04/2018 23:20

Just heading to hotel abroad in bus. Everyone is heading to a family resort so lots of young kids on bus. There’s a large group at the back, adults and kids, singing and bawling at the top of their voices. It has been constant for the past 40 minutes (not long to go) and extremely loud. They’ll definitely be getting a few dirty looks from passengers but is it worth saying something to them? I don’t want my holiday ruined by this lot but my usually passive-self is getting fed up with people who don’t consider others!

OP posts:
VinegarTits · 08/04/2018 23:26

What will you say? Shut up and stop enjoying your holiday?

frasier · 08/04/2018 23:28

Oh I'd hate that, you're not even there yet.

I wouldn't say anything for fear of retaliation. Let's face it, they aren't considering others now, so they probably aren't the type to consider you if you say something.

Get the hotel staff onside, let them check in first and ask to be nowhere near them.

youngnomore · 08/04/2018 23:29

Just leave it. It’s really not worth it. People are just letting loose. Their idea of relaxing may not be the same as yours.

FairiesVsPixies · 08/04/2018 23:32

You haven't said anything for 40minutes, I wouldn't say anything now. Imagine if their rooms are either side of yours Shock

Sarsparella · 08/04/2018 23:34

They might be getting dropped off at a different hotel, I’d leave it but just pray that’s the case!

condepetie · 08/04/2018 23:35

Are they likely to be anywhere near you for your holiday? Even in a small resort no, probably not! Relax a bit, it's your holiday - you can enjoy it as you wish. It's the bus journey and you're nearly there. Let it go.

AtSea1979 · 08/04/2018 23:38

Def don’t say anything, they’ll make your week hell if they’ve a mind to.

frasier · 08/04/2018 23:39

Are you there yet?

VinegarTits · 08/04/2018 23:46

What kind of people would be enjoying the start of their holiday like that, should be quiet and miserable, selfIsh twats

DingDongDenny · 09/04/2018 00:02

Just start praying they are nowhere near you in the resort

Original poster
BubbaB · 09/04/2018 00:03

That’s what I’m thinking @frasier. They’re absolutely scum! The content of what they've been singing about has been questionable and it’s just so attention-seeking! I don’t want my holiday ruined by having a fall out - it’s not me!

OP posts:
Jon66 · 09/04/2018 00:05

Don't book 'package tours' in future.

Original poster
BubbaB · 09/04/2018 00:15

We’re here. I don’t think they’re anywhere near us so will forget about this ‘blip’. If they are rowdy then will get the hotel staff to deal with it. We’re not the only family who were unimpressed having heard conversations at check-in!

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TwentySmackeroos · 09/04/2018 00:17

Do you have a holiday rep you can contact?

Birdsgottafly · 09/04/2018 00:17

"Don't book 'package tours' in future."

That wouldn't stop them being on the flight, or turning up in the hotel.

The only way to be away from other people is to book a private transfer and stay in a Villa.

"The content of what they've been singing about has been questionable and it’s just so attention-seeking!"

They're not attention seeking, they are just enjoying themselves. Hopefully they will calm down.

Woshambo · 09/04/2018 00:26

Based on what has been written here about this family I think calling them "absolute scum" for being loud and singing about things that you personally find "questionable". They probably haven't realised that you're quietly seething and judging them because they're too busy enjoying themselves.
It may not be your idea of fun but maybe it' theirs. Who are you to call them names because of it?
They wont be in the same hotel room as you so why are u even complaining?
Family resorts are full of people being loud and singing and enjoying myself so I don't understand your suprise

MiddleClassProblem · 09/04/2018 00:32

“Absolute scum”? We’re they being racist? Homophobic? Sexist? Derogatory in some way?

PyongyangKipperbang · 09/04/2018 00:43

Don't book 'package tours' in future.

Dont be such a snob in future.

Jon66 · 09/04/2018 00:45

It wouldn't be a problem in the hotels in which we stay, they don't attract the rowdy type, and airlines are not usually too sympathetic toward group singing and high jinks either. If you go to mainstream resorts, the type of behaviour about which you are complaining is pretty commonplace judging by what people say. Like I said, don't book package holidays, have an authentic experience instead by getting off the main drag.

Jon66 · 09/04/2018 00:49

PyongyangKipperbang it's not being snobby, it's about not wanting to have that type of experience so we don't. Clearly the op isnt too keen either. You can have some pretty fantastic holidays on a shoestring avoiding Brits resorts.

AjasLipstick · 09/04/2018 01:09

jon Authentic experiences tend to cost people more. Or they're not sure of how and where to book. Don't be so patronising.

TutTutButt · 09/04/2018 01:10

so annoying

blueduvetface · 09/04/2018 01:15

Why are they absolute scum? What were they singing to make you say that?

LonginesPrime · 09/04/2018 01:33

I don't think the people saying 'don't book package tours then' are snobs - I think their point is that you don't book that kind of holiday if you don't like that kind of behaviour, as it's going to come with the territory.

Basically, if you've chosen to use public/shared transport, it's a bit rich to complain that the others you have to share with aren't meeting your standards. It's part and parcel of sharing a coach that some people might want a singalong - people who don't want to risk putting up with those kind of shenanigans will fork out for a taxi.

It would be different if they were swearing in front of kids or being inappropriate, but it doesn't sound like they were doing anything terrible and seems more like a culture clash - maybe that's just their way of getting through a coach journey with kid, or it's reminiscent of the journeys the adults had themselves when they were kids.

AjasLipstick · 09/04/2018 02:17

Blue I suspect it wasn't what they were singing but their general demeanour which made OP uncomfortable. Plus, it's selfish to inflict your loudness on an entire bus.

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