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To ask about Pictures on social media

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TheSunnySide · 08/04/2018 12:20

Of your kids and (safeguarding of LAC etc) what your particular objections might be about people putting pictures of your child on social media would be?

For example an ex partner’s new squeeze doing so or friends of friends - does it really matter?

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TheSunnySide · 08/04/2018 12:22

Sorry - that made no sense. I meant safeguarding issues like Looked after children aside, in all other scenarios would it be objectionable?

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qwertyuiopy · 08/04/2018 12:29

If anyone (other than me or DH) put pictures of my children on the internet, I would have them taken down and the person told in no uncertain terms.

There are no pictures of my DC on the internet and I want it to stay that way!

Bumblefuddle · 08/04/2018 12:31

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MamosianAntiMatterChopsticks · 08/04/2018 12:32

I don't mind family doing so, with my permission. But not anyone I don't know, such as other school parents or friends of friends. It's overstepping boundaries tgat I wouldn't be happy about.

LadyLoveYourWhat · 08/04/2018 12:42

I don't even put pictures of my kids on social media without asking their permission. For me, my main objection is privacy, I like to have control of which pictures of me people see, so extend the courtesy to my children.

In extremis, there's always the chance that someone will take umbrage at you for some random reason and do anything they can to cause you distress, several women in my wider industry have been driven from their homes and had their families harassed because someone didn't like them airing their opinions. Better safe than sorry.

RepealMay25th · 08/04/2018 12:43

If anyone (other than me or DH) put pictures of my children on the internet, I would have them taken down and the person told in no uncertain terms

You can't "have them taken down" since you don't own your childrens images. I could upload a pic of your kids to the internet if I wanted and there wouldn't be anything you could do about it.

RepealMay25th · 08/04/2018 12:44

I wouldn't, I should state, and never do. But I could, if I wanted.

qwertyuiopy · 08/04/2018 12:51

RepealMay25th How nasty you are.

Bumblefuddle · 08/04/2018 12:52

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Lethaldrizzle · 08/04/2018 12:53

I couldn't give a monkey's about pics of my kids being posted

LagunaBubbles · 08/04/2018 12:56

Qwerty for goodness sake, Repeal wasn't being nasty, just stating a fact!

I put pictures of my kids on FB, dont have any issues with it.

Bumblefuddle · 08/04/2018 12:57

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19lottie82 · 08/04/2018 12:59

qwerty why on earth do you think repeal is nasty? Confused

qwertyuiopy · 08/04/2018 13:00

Bumblefuddle Yes, I have done it but it will be easier on sites other than FB that don't have a link already in place.

ThisBabyIsAnOctopus · 08/04/2018 13:00

We had to move a substantial distance as we were being harassed - I am very cautious about my children being tagged in photos on fb in case we can be found and the harassment starts again (even though we have court decisions in our favour and non-harassment orders in place). Am becoming more relaxed as more time passes but it's still a concern.

Bumblefuddle · 08/04/2018 13:01

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TinaTop · 08/04/2018 13:01

I'm happy for myself and DH to post pictures of DC because I know our privacy settings are watertight and only our friends can see our pictures. I'd be less keen for others to post pictures as I don't know what level of privacy settings they use - they could easily be posting pictures as public.

ThisBabyIsAnOctopus · 08/04/2018 13:02

(and not many people know the full story so I can imagine the scenario where I might ask for a photo to be taken down or untagged and the poster think i'm odd for asking)

Bumblefuddle · 08/04/2018 13:03

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qwertyuiopy · 08/04/2018 13:05

ThisBabyIsAnOctopus When I did it, the person who had posted them didn't even know why they had been taken down (so they said). They just got a email saying they had violated privacy laws and the pics were taken down. This was on FB. My or DH's names weren't mentioned.

If they had thought about it though, who else could have requested it?!

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TheSunnySide · 08/04/2018 13:06

Interesting.

I am a prolific poster of pictures of my child but most of my social media is visible only to my friends and family.

I am trying to rein it in as he gets older.

My own posting style means that when someone I don’t know, but who does have a new romantic involvement with my STBXH, posts a picture of my DC publicly I was a bit ‘oh well’ but now I am wondering if something odd motivated her to do it. we have not met and she has only met DC once.

I don’t think I would have.

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qwertyuiopy · 08/04/2018 13:06

I have noticed a mass exodus/deletions from FB by the teachers at my DC's school. I presume there has been some guidance issued.

Lazypuppy · 08/04/2018 13:06

I have no issues, both myself and partner post pictures as well as friends and family

qwertyuiopy · 08/04/2018 13:09

That does seem odd. Was it the children alone or her and your ex in the pic also? Does she have children?

Did you speak to your ex about it?