To ask about Pictures on social media

[TheSunnySide]

Of your kids and (safeguarding of LAC etc) what your particular objections might be about people putting pictures of your child on social media would be?

For example an ex partner’s new squeeze doing so or friends of friends - does it really matter?

I do post photos of my son (but never of his face) on social media (albeit rarely).
I, however, work in a job where I may get searched so my name doesn’t have my last name attached either.
My family also only post photos of him without his face visible.

Qwerty- children alone. Mine and hers.

STBXH doesn’t know I know and only told me about having started a new relationship the day after the picture was posted.

I was kind of glad I already knew before he told me and decided not to tell him I knew already.

I am a bit surprised at the speed in which he has introduced them but he says DC doesn’t know it’s a romantic thing. We have been separated less than a year.

Sorry for the drip feed.

I realise there are many different ways to feel about this and mine is generally pretty relaxed apart
From the worry about the motivations behind it.

Weird. Maybe she's a bit keen to show off to her friends or something.

I can understand why this feels a bit odd to you Sunny.
Generally, though, and safeguarding/protecting children from abusive exes aside, I’m not sure what it is that people worry about. Those who don’t like it, why do you mind pictures (assuming they are not in any way offensive in themselves) being posted?

cardibach www.telegraph.co.uk/women/family/i-dont-put-pictures-of-my-children-on-facebook---and-you-shouldn/

Myself and DH have posted some pics of our baby on social media, and I would not be happy with anyone else doing so. Once she is a toddler this will probably stop anyway until she is much older and able to give permission herself.

Nothing on instagram. One or two on FB as this is my main way of keeping in touch with family abroad. No other social media.

Absolutely nothing that could backfire on them in the future or be used against them - no semi clothed, naked pics or anything that they’d be embarrassed about in the future or object to being public domain. Benign stuff only (here is child sledging, here is child blowing candles out on cake,?how nice, etc.) never ever any pics of anyone else’s child.

I do actually mostly ageee with Cardi.

The only thing that has really changed my behaviour towards posting pictures of my own DC is his getting older and needing privacy. I work with teenagers some of whom are bullied because of the social media posts by and about them when they were little.

I am trying to think ‘what would I do’ if the situation were reversed. I don’t think I would publicly post a picture of a new partner’s kids until we had been through all the getting to know each others kids and perhaps even having met the exes. That’s what the mature side of me likes to think but perhaps in reality it wouldn’t be like that at all.

In the telegraph article it says that "the average person uploads 30 pictures of children who are not their own per year". I find that astonishing.

’m not sure what it is that people worry about.

Well I know a few who put things like fully naked pics on Instagram, pics of their toddlers breastfeeding (please note absolutely nothing wrong with a toddler BF or being naked but I wouldn’t have ANY pics that people could use against them in later years - privacy is important.)

Some people post some really intimate stuff on open social media - I think that’s crossing a line that ‘here are the kids on the swings in the park’ just doesn’t.

With other people's kids you don't know what their opinion is though, so best not to do it.

Yeah Bumble that was my first thought. They were with STBXH and I often post pics of my son with people STBXH doesn’t know.

I am a fairly adult and rational person so was able to process and rationalise my slight shock quite quickly. I think realising he had someone New was more of a shock and so my reaction was all bound up in that.

What @qwertyuiopy said.

I don't put pictures of my dc on social media - it's up to them if they want to when they're old enough, it's their choice, not mine. I'm always surprised at people who put their children's photos in all sorts of situations on SM. What if, as adults, they don't want to have a SM presence and the decision has been made for them?

My OH has a three year old son. I take photos of him but never post them on social media as I’m not his mum and it’s not my place to do so. If I want anyone to see the photos I’ll send them privately

I post photos of my DS and don't have any problem with it. I only post photos of him with friends if I know the other parents would be happy for me to do so.

I don't put pictures of my kids on SM.

I only share pics with close family and friends, via email.

The odd thing is, people existed for decades without SM and the need to crap on about their lives to the world at large or even to 100 “friends and family”, but as soon as the tool became available it was seized and run with and now you are deemed weird if you don’t plaster your offspring across the world.

And of course Facebook kept your data and photos, it was a car crash waiting to happen.

RepealMay25th How nasty you are

stating the truth is nasty now? Who knew?

btw that american link is totally wrong. It's neither identity theft or copyright infringement. If I post my photo of someone elses child, I own the copyright, not them.