To be upset over stupid FB stuff

[PennysSignal]

Disclaimer: no I’m not 12, no I don’t live on Facebook, yes I do know how silly and petty this is

I’m not the most confident person, hate having my photo taken and have taken maybe 5 selfies in my life.

My profile pic needed updating, its 18mths old and we do use our Facebook for work (supposed to be a personal touch )so it’s supposed to be up to date.

I’m not a prolific FBer, maybe 3 updates a month? But I do go on most days and interact with my friends and family. I’ll always like or share peoples updates and photos. Even if I don’t partiularly like the content but I know they are having a hard time (yes breakup friend with 10 inspiring quotes a day I’m looking at you). I don’t have 1000s of friends, it’s around 130, none of them strangers, mostly friends, family, colleagues and old school friends and some mum friends.

I took the plunge today and updated my profile pic. I spent time beforehand putting a bit of extra makeup on, I even bloody googled “how to take a good selfie” (Kim k has some good tips here)

Uploaded it around lunchtime and I’ve had two likes , and it’s ridiculous that I would even care, but it really feels like I’ve put myself out there and just be rejected and ignored, like lifting your finger 2mm off the screen and pressing the like button is too much trouble.

I know it’s public as my best mate text me and remarked on my jumper being new...so she definitely saw it. I always like people’s new profile pics as I feel it’s making yourself quite vulnerable just solely posting a pic of your face not in the context of a day out or party or something.

I’m being ridiculous aren’t I. I know I am but it’s made me feel really embarrassed for trying to make myself look nice just to be smacked in the face with tumbleweed.

I don’t know how people who upload countless selfies cope!

AIBU to be feeling a bit sad and embarrassed about it?

Yknow those people with lots of likes? This is how it sometimes works...
I'm part of a lot of closed beauty/cosmetic groups on FB and every other day they'll be a thread where if you and another person comment you have to go 'like' their profile picture. It can run into the 100s.
So don't be too disheartened, some go them extra lengths to make it look like they're popular and liked but it's all bullshit really.

It's one of those things you know you shouldn't be bothered by but you can't help it when you are. I had similar, I left a FB group recently because I was having the same sort of reaction when posts weren't commented on - it's not healthy to feel like that, and I suddenly realised it made me feel like I was back at school, wondering whether the 'cool' crowd liked me enough or not. So I left.

YANBU, you can't help how you feel. But as PP have said, it probably has a lot more to do with algorithms than anything else.