DH snoring is ruining our marriage

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I'm at the end of my tether.

Please someone tell me that there is some kind of cure or remedy for snoring. Loud loud horrendous snoring.

He's fit, healthy, not overweight. I don't know what to do. We haven't slept in the same bed for months and we only got married 6 months ago.

He has been to the GP who can't find anything wrong.

He's tried snoring strips. They just fall off and end up stuck to me. Then he wakes me up 5/6/7/8 times a night so I'm never getting a decent sleep.

I'm writing this after being woken up once again.

Anyone???

Nothing helpful to add but I was just about to add a post very like yours. Can't use earplugs, can't bear the godawful din. We are on night 2 of 4 in a shared hotel room with d's 1&2, who somehow sleep through it.

I may have to sleep in the bath...

This is random, but maybe try a flatter pillow.
Dh was sleeping on a memory foam pillow and snored horrifically every night.
When we had guests we lent them the pillow and snoring stopped imediately.

I kind of wedge one ear against the pillow and rest my hand on the other. I feel your pain...

Also, watch him sleep. Snoring is often a sign of sleep apnoea, if he seems to stop breathing then go back to gp and tell them this.

Add twitching, moaning, kicking, kneeing and elbowing to that and you have my life. Four hours a night is a good night. The sofa sees me more than my lovely, warm, comfortable memory foam mattress and I am the one with a knackered back.
I want to kill him when he says "you're tired?"

I feel your pain, though in my DH's case it's due to him being very overweight and refusing to do anything about it. We just got home from a week's vacation and didn't sleep in the same room for even one night , he slept on the sofa at the other end of the hall.

I'm at the end of my tether with it so would love to hear of any miraculous treatments...

Earplugs and falling asleep before my DP (or kicking him until he rolls onto his side)
I feel your pain it’s awful

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I've read a lot on sleep apnoea and was convinced this was what he had. He does "pause" where it sounds like he's not breathing and makes weird sounds.

The GP thinks this is all fine though and won't refer him on.

I'm considering going to a private clinic (which we cannot really afford) because something needs to be done. This is affecting all of our lives (including his) it's horrible

Has he had a sleep study done?

Try a Smart Nora - about 300 pounds but many of the reviews say it works really well. Oprah put it on her must have list too!

Raven I wish earplugs worked for me, but I can still hear him and feel the bloody vibrations through the mattress which is just horrendous.

Can you video and show the gp - the pause does sound like apnea.

Any history of adenoid issues as a child? I have large adenoids and snore. It's not pretty.

My husband is a terrible snorer and I have spent many a night in the past just sobbing because I couldn't sleep but was beyond exhausted. I do use strong ear plugs and he has a gym guard thing that forces his jaw into a position to stop him from snoring and it does work. However, it hurts his jaw, so we do spend a few nights in separate rooms (bliss!) but if we're away he had to wear it the whole time.

I too have this issue, although of late it has improved - not because the snoring is better but that I am tolerating it more. I think some of it has to do with my state of mind. DH definitely has some degree of apnoea - he's aware of the issue but the only thing he will do to address it is sporadic attempts to lose weight. I find that if the option is there to sleep elsewhere I don't generally need to, whereas if no option is there i.e. in hotel, it affects me more. Anticipation of sleeplessness begets the sleeplessness iyswim!

SeaToSki that looks interesting.

Gum guard! Not gym!!

Mine snores like a bunged up walrus with a pneumatic drill. If a kick doesn’t work, I go sleep in the spare room. In fact most nights I head for there anyway as I can hear him from downstairs.

I feel for you OP. I have a method of lying on my right side with my right arm over the top of my head, so that my right index finger fits in my left ear. My left arm goes under my chin so that my finger fits in my right ear (the one I'm lying on). This way my fingers don't fall out of my ears when I do manage to sleep.

I do use ear plugs about once a week. Any more frequent use than that gives me red raw ear canals.

I have also been known to book into premier inns for a couple of nights peace when its really bad and I'm at the end of my tether.

My dp snores and I use was ear plugs. They are brilliant as they go soft and mould to the shape of your ear. You need to pull your ear open further from the top while you insert and thrn they fit really well. I am now getti g a much better nights sleep. No other ear plugs worked and the silicon ones really hurt my ears but these are amazing

Wax not was

God, that Smart Nora thing looks amazing!

Does he have an overbite? If so, then wearing a mouth guard which pushes the bottom jaw just a couple of millimetres forward might help. 'mandibular advancement devices' (MAD) There are loads on eBay/Amazon but don't trust anything with a 5 star rating as nothing works for everyone. Snoring devices seem to have lots of fake reviews!
Also get the 'snorelab' app.
Good luck!

Thenightsky it does. I'm very tempted but I don't want to waste too much money in case it doesn't work.

If it actually works though, it'll be the best investment I've ever made. Aggggg I dont know
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I have been seriously thinking about leaving DP over his snoring. Im thinking about turning DCs playroom into my own bedroom but he hates the idea of us having separate rooms.

I'd rather separate rooms than separate lives

Embrace separate rooms, if at all possible.