Would this be creepy?

[Queenofthestress]

DS is SEN, we're having a rough time of it as he's finally hit terrible twos. He full on kicks and screams really high pitched, obviously we're trying to curb this and it's slowly but surely working. Its been a bit harder than normal as conventional methods don't really work. I'm finally seeing the light at the end of the tunnel, and we're having less and less paddys/meltdowns as school likes to call them (I just think they're typical 2 year old tantrums)

My AIBU is this - would it be creepy to order my 60+ year old neighbours a gift basket of biscuits to say thank you for being so understanding?
They do know he's special needs, and they've not complained once even though I know the sound of DS's screeching travels through the walls. I was thinking of writing a note saying thank you for being so understanding or would it be creepy?

Not creepy at all. I expect they’d love it.
What a thoughtful idea.

I think it would be a lovely thing to do. Would you think about writing a note explaining why you are so
grateful?

I think they will love it!

I think that's lovely!!

How nice!!

Lovely idea. I'd go for it.

I think it would be really kind. Do it

I think

Lovely

I don't think it would be creepy. Over the top, but not at all creepy.

I'd just to talk to them when you see them, and apologise for the noise. If you can engineer the noise taking place as far away from shared walls, then that would be great.

If I was your neighbour, I'd have every sympathy for you. Most people do understand.

No. That is a lovely thing to do.

A lovely idea.

@TinWhistleTunes they've put up with a lot of noises without complaint, including ambulances, me panicking when I found him not breathing, meltdowns, him kicking the wall in his room (only for 2 days until I realised what the noise was) the door going at all hours when we've had to go to A&E or OOH

I've realised today just how much noise and how much it travels he makes when he paddys, I actually think he scared their cat today and I feel awful, I do take him to the bathroom (back of the house unattached to anyone else) but they've still put up with a lot over the past 4 years

It's a lovely idea.

My dd2 is at the terrible 2's stage and without sen it's bad enough. I live in a flat and will be buying my neighbours (all men living alone) some beers and thank you cards soon for being so understanding.

It's great having nice neighbours, a little appreciation goes a long way.

Maybe not over the top it would be lovely.

Not creepy in the slightest - just a nice, thoughtful gesture.

I bought my student neighbours chocolates to apologise for noisy building work - they clearly thought I was nuts, but seemed very pleased.

And it sounds like you have had a really difficult time

I honestly don't think I could be more grateful, it's hard enough going through the testing and assessments without dealing with neighbours who complain at every meltdown, he's non verbal (well, jabbering with a few two words in there) so it's not as if I could ask him what's wrong, but we've gone from 3 a day to about 1 every 3 days so we're getting somewhere at least

I think that is such a lovely idea and so thoughtful. I also think you sound like a fantastic mum with what your going through! I'm sure they're delighted to have you as a neighbor!

At one point they even got me sawing his cot bars off so I could get him out when he jammed his leg all the way up to his hip through the bars and got stuck

I still don't know how on earth he did that one

Well if I was your neighbour I'd expect nothing but would be delighted!

You'd probably get a away with a bit more too, I'd think hmm that's annoying but she's nice and gave me biscuits so il try to ignore it.

@Ginkypig I'm trying to curb the noise not get away with more doesn't help that DD is clingy as anything but that's a whole other story

I think it's a lovely idea. The first impulsive idea in these situations (ie the biscuits) is often the best one. Maybe with a little tag and a drawing from your son on it? They sound like good neighbours.

I think it’s a lovely and thoughtful idea :)

On a separate note, I just want to give you a heads up about something. The expression “throwing a paddy” is racist- it has an anti Irish sentiment. A friend of mine used to say this a lot and was very embarrassed when she found out

Oh wow, I didn't know that! I wonder why? Might have a gander and research it

I thought biscuits instead of chocolate and maybe some speciality teas or something
Ooh that's a great idea about the drawing