GP looking after grandchildren

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Just curious.

If your 10 month old was staying with their grandparents for the night, would you expect them to loosely follow your routine when it comes to baby meal times and what they eat (you supplying the food).

Or would you let them do their own thing as they're doing you a favour?

How would you feel if you're told they'd not feed them what you bring and that they'd feed them what they have?

Like another poster said above, when DD1 was little carefully written lists of instructions with all conceivable situations covered (some cases even impossible situations covered ) by the time she got bigger and DD2 came along I couldn’t get them/me out of the door quick enough.

I do tell them a bed time but I'm not bothered if they actually listen lol. My children love being with their grandparents and as long as they come back rested and happy (which they do!) that's all that matters x

Yes I agree

I want lucky enough to have this option. I think you should count your lucky stars you have GP willing and able to have their DC overnight hop that they follow your rules to the letter especially with a 10 month old but accept grandma may bend or break the rules and think she knows best.

My mum follows my routine on mealtimes and bedtime when taking care of DS but what they choose to do inbetween that time I leave to them and I provide the food usually food pouches just to make it easier on my parents.

At that age I'd definitely follow routine.

Why would I risk the chance of upset and then poor sleep?

No chance!

You are really starting to sound batshit now. We've gone from discussing routines with a 10 month old to trying to prove a point by declaring what Gwyneth Paltrow does to her lady parts.

Thing is...unenforceable isn't true at all. My family and friends respect my wishes for my son. There's nothing to "enforce"

I'm bored of you now. Although feel free to continue your ground breaking fanny findings to your other peers on mumsnet should you see fit. I'm off.

Good luck OP with everything and I hope that it all gets sorted.

You’re v aerated ribena,and prone to name calling.you don’t tolerate divergence from your script v well
Go google gwyneth her proclamations.she is indeed daft
If I am indeed so tiresome you can jog on or you can call me batshite again
Up to you really

@lipstick are you drunk?

Did you pop on in simply to say that? It’s a 1 from me I’m afraid
Other insults are available and more funny

I agree with others OP, it’s the strictness of the instructions and the extent of the diversion. For a ten month old with no additional needs, I think it would be fair enough to offer guidance on times (DC likely to be hungry at 12 and 4 and usually goes to bed at 7) with an expectation that GPs will feed/put to bed sometime around then. It’s good for children to eat with the family (IMO) so I’d be delighted if baby was offered some home cooking that was low salt/sugar.

As I said I’ll let the overall routine slide when with GP as kids love GP

has the OP come back and explained "the routine" and food requirements?

I've not ever done it, but if someone did have a child that age for me, I'd tell them what usually worked for us but fully expect them to do whatever they wanted or what worked because of you hand over that responsibility you have to accept their way of doing things. They may want to do everything as you do, or they may not.

Id expect them to follow the routine but i would not be surprised if they didnt. I have had to chill out A LOT about things like that in order to get any childcare at all from parents and ILs...
My ILs in particular do not follow any part of my sons routine at all but we have still had to rely on them for childcare a few times altho thankfully not regularly. They have not done anything dangerous with him or anything and really its only themselves they make work for because he sleeps very little for them because they basically ignore what I say.
My own parents are good with night time but terrible re food and just feed my son crap. Again they do not have him regularly so im not too fussed as its good for him to see them and i suppose its a bit of a treat.

I think you have to look at the bigger picture. Small deviations dont matter too much as long as the standard of care is reasonable and also that they arent purposefully trying to go against you to cause issues.
Id be more concerned about not following home routine if the care was a regular thing that was relied on because it may start to effect the routine at home.

We do need the OP to come back now, to let us know whether what the Grandparents did was batshit, or whether what she was expecting them to do was batshit

@lipstick I was already here (see upthread...) and was genuinely asking, since the things you were saying were a bit odd tbh.

I don’t have then privilege of having grandparents who can or will look after my dc. If I did I would provide everything they needed including food.

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I’d prob also provide their tea as well

Dinner *

Arf at 'video tutorial'

My parents often looked after my children and I wouldn't have dreamt of issuing them with instructions. My kids loved staying with their grandparents so I imagine they were spoiled rotten treated a lot.

I would have been extremely grateful that any one would have had my 10 month old over night

I trust both sets of grandparents to care for DS any way they see fit.

If I didn’t I just wouldn’t send him.

Hi all.... sorry for not coming back until now!

I was just genuinely curious what would be expected of me when handing baby over today as it's the first sleepover.

I was more than prepared to supply him meals if required, but equally happy for him to eat what GPs supply. I was just surprised to get the response that they'd be feeding their meals regardless if I sent food or not.

In terms of actually routine, I don't mind as long as baby is asleep a reasonable time (I'm aware new surroundings this may change slightly) so we don't have a grump tomorrow...

I hope that's me being fair!