He called his ex "bab"

[fuckingbab]

So I'm from Birmingham and "Bab" is obviously quite a common thing to say around here.

This morning DP asked me to get a number out of his phone, the number wasn't saved so needed to go on texts, in the outbox was a text to his kids mom saying "bats dead bab" It was from a few days back as I remember trying to call and it was saying user busy then it went to voicemail so I knew then he was on the phone and his phone died, which meant he'd used the last bit of battery to take saying his phone had died.

AIBU to be pissed off that "bab" was added on to the end?

He is 26 and he doesn't use it all the time, he wouldn't call it the lady in the shop etc..

Oh I'd let this go
'Bab'

Yeah, you're reading too much into it. Its a friendly name not a sexual name. Unless there were excessive kisses or anything beyond the news that something or someone was dead, its fine. I think its especially fine as he was telling her someone or something was dead

My ex calls me bab he didn’t when we was is together and it’s not a common Scouse thing.

I’d just ignore it

I thought at first they'd shared a pet 'bat'🤔

Well it’s a bit like saying love etc. Pick your battles and be grateful they have a decent relationship for the children. He has probably always called her that and had her saved as that. Don’t read too much into it.

My first thought when i saw the heading was 'i bet they're from brum'. I am also a brummie. I don't use 'bab' but some of my family and parents do. To me it's just part of the local language and i would not neccessarily read more into it. Are you suspicious of him and his relationship with his ex?

Let's say her name is Kerry for example, he doesn't call her Kez for short or anything. They're not really friends they hardly ever get on so I was shocked to see it

You're reading too much in to it. I'd probably put the same if I had an ex I had to communicate with not a Brummie, but live close enough that we use bab too 'bats dead' just seems more aggressive/arsey without it

Trust him completely, just annoyed! Haha

She fell out with her boyfriend the night before, he took his TV out of their flat and stayed at his mom so me and DP took a TV round at half 9 'for the kids'

And now she's fell out with her boyfriend they're best friends

Bit of school girl jealousy I know

They might not be friends but they have a kid together so its something you will have to get over

I live in greater Manchester I get complete strangers calling me "love " , it's just a local term a lot of locals also use "cock " which tbh I'm not that keen on buy again its just a local thing its not like they have pet names for each other ?

@Dippingmytoesin I think I'd be being unreasonable if I was annoyed that they'd spoke, I wish they would speak more! Sometimes they can be childish and have to speak through me due to them not getting on so I'm glad they are ok at the minute.

I don't think I have to "put up" with him calling her a cutesy name in all fairness?

Why did the kids need a telly at 9.30 at night?

@SleepingStandingUp Hmm, these were also my thoughts! But we do whatever to make her happy to give us an easy life lol

(Kids already have a TV in their room)

Bab isn't a cutsey name though. He didn't say "bat dead snuckles / bumpkins/ sexy / cutiebum / tiggles /bunny / squiggles. He used a culturally much used generalization. It's probably a bit like the accidental kiss on the text to your boss

I am from brum and occasionally fall into calling my kids bab. They hate it.

I wonder if he did it automatically I once texted dss gym teacher and by mistake ended it with a kiss as do used to doing it!

I would ignore it snd it’s nice for the kids if they are friendly. Hit thst green eyed monster with a big stick he’s with you not her

It’s not a cutesy name

If you otherwise trust him I would let it go.

My dentist calls me bab Is it like his version of kisses in a text - just a way to end the message? Loads of people do kisses even when they're not particularly friends.

When I was 'seeing' him he never called me bab once. When we got together it because parts of his sentences all the time to me, but nobody else. We have girl friends and he doesn't call it them, or doesn't even call it his kids, he used as a term like calling me "babe"

I wouldn't like it as it seems too similar to "babe". But then I'm not from Birmingham.

X-post OP!

Maybe because ‘bats dead’ sounded a bit harsh by itself and would possibly cause a bit of conflict considering the circumstances?

You know your over thinking it don’t you

I don't understand any of this. Why have they got a bat? Or not, seeing as it's dead?

Is bab supposed to be "babe" (which makes me wince)? It's good to be friendly with your ex when you share children, surely? Is bab an amorous term or just a friendly thing?

Do you think they're having an affair? Is that it? Ask him about it.

And find out about the bat please.