Another word for frigid...

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Posting here for traffic, I probably should have posted this in relationships, so please be kind...

For years, NSTBExH used to tell me I was frigid. Except he didn't, he used another word. He also used to tell me I'm a slut. "I'm a 'synonym for frigid' slut" kind of became my black-humoured mantra for dealing with his mind-fucks, to remind me it's him, not me.

Not long ago, talking things through with a friend after yet another set of contradictory accusations by him, I went to use the "mantra" and I struggled to find the word. I did find it eventually and I just put not being able to remember a word down to being upset. But since then, it's gone. Totally. I can't remember it.

When it's on the tip of my tongue, it feels like it begins with an I. Maybe. And vaguely "medical". But maybe not.

Anyone got any ideas?

Was the word: impotent?

Inhibited ?

Stiff?

Why would you want to remember it?

I hope you're not someone just looking for some words to use to insult with.

It's probably more useful to find an online thesaurus

Thanks. No. None of those. It's impotent that keeps popping into my head. That might be why I keep thinking of "i'. That might be a red herring.

Inhibited and stiff are far too polite. I think was kind of a word like nyphomaniac - something that was once a medical term but also used as an insult to a woman.

Or I could be completely wrong in my memory. Maybe it was just the way that he used it - so it felt like there was something medically/psychologically "wrong" with me as well as being an insult.

Celibate? Abstinent?

Barren..... but that means unable to conceive, but still kind of fits I suppose

insipid?

Mxyzptlk I want to remember it because although it is associated with some traumatic memories (that another thread tonight have f=brought back), it became something empowering. If I wanted to insult someone I could use a thesaurus like popularandspirited suggested... And I have tried a thesaurus and I can't find it. It's like a blank

I've no idea where the f= in f=brought came from

Anorgasmic? Asexual?

Vaginismus?

Prick tease?

Inhibited?

Is it 'infibulated'? An unpleasant word for an unpleasant situation.

Impudent? An old friend’s dad used to say this to his mum, jokingly...

Reclaiming hurtful words is powerful. Hope you’ve got other mantras that are total sunshine though!

Ice Queen according to urban dictionary, probably worth browsing through its looooong list!

Thanks, everyone. Asexual seems closest but not quite right.

Prude used to be the go to for any girl who said no when I was a teen.

Ineptness

Indifferent, icy, inhospitable (hospital - medical at a stretch) hyperborean,
Inclement

Imperturbable or unresponsive?

Sexually inadequate?