I love having children but I can’t wait until I have a nice tidy house!! AIBU?

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Just that really! I have 3 DDs 1.3.9 and my god I tidy CONSTANTLY but when one of the small ones is sitting nicely the other is trashing the place. I don’t want to wish the years away but I honestly can’t wait to be able to relax just a little bit!!

I agree! I only have one dd thoigh and shes only 1, i cant imagine the mess from 3! I already feel like my day consists of following a trail of mess 😂

I'm with you. There will be a window of opportunity between my last child leaving home and the eldest having kids and I will fill it with a spotless home, cream carpets and denby china.

I also forgot to mention a 5month puppy. It’s a good job I love them all cos it’s bloody hard work!!

The secret is to relax now. If there's a choice between doing the tidying or playing zoo's, well that isn't really a choice

My son is 6 months old. I am already dreaming of buying a lovely new sofa when he's older

My boys went camping with Scouts for a whole weekend once and I got the house spotless. And then I sat on my own with a tidy house and no-one to play or chat with, no silly games, no-one singing in the bath. I was bored stupid and the house was eerily quiet. I hated it.

Improb no need to play zoos my house is a zoo

raffles ohhhh a nice white one!!!

My house is a pit. It’s worse today as I did the garden whilst the child played.

single yes that’s the worst thing to do isn’t it you have to brace yourself what your going to walk in to

There will be a window of opportunity between my last child leaving home and the eldest having kids and I will fill it with a spotless home, cream carpets and denby china.
me too!
It doesn’t really get any better when they get bigger either, now it is muddy smelly sports clothes, boots and other equipment. DH is just as bad. It’s not the regular chores, they’re quite good pulling their weight with those, it’s the level of disorder that goes with them. If I tidy and organise it deteriorates back quite quickly, and it’s not even that they aren’t trying, they just seem pathologically unable to put everything where it belongs instead of in the nearest space in the nearest cupboard or drawer. Then there’s chaos when it can’t be found. I just make sure it’s relatively clean and bearable and close my eyes to the rest.

I said this to my husband this morning until he made the point that it’s actually me that’s the messy one not my kids....
we will never have a tidy house!

I had 3 kids within 4 years I used to tidy and clean constantly. Now my kids are adults with kids of their own and I have a nice tidy clean empty house. If I could give my younger self some advise it would be “ dust and mess will always be around but your kids won’t” instead of tidying go to the park. Of course they need to learn about putting things away but don’t let it become a big deal in the grand scheme of things it really isn’t worth getting angry about.

I can't wait either. Every day is a relentless cycle of tidying and cleaning up, even just to be at a stage where they can tidy up properly themselves or play in their rooms not have everything strewn across the living room.

dust and mess will always be around but your kids won’t

Unfortunately we have two asthmatics in this house so the dusting isn't a vanity project and getting to it requires tidying.

The tidying never ends! It's the small pieces of paper and stickers and little plastic things that do my head in. Have currently thrown children outside with chalk while I supervise with tea and cake from the dining room. Cannot wait for ds to be able to play outside without constant supervision. I could be tidying right now!!

Although the cake is very nice.

Just looking at the living room that was dusted, polished snd hoovered last night... crumbs everywhere as DH gave the 2 year old rice cakes thid morning.. every toy out and a new bloody juice stain on the carpet..

DH has also emptied the dryer (presumably to put his work shirt in) but just left the clothes in a pile on the kitchen floor (luckily i cleaned that last night). Sink is also full of the million pots and pans he uses whenever he cooks...

Still in.pjs breastfeeding the 3 month old whilst the toddler scoffs half an Easter egg and watches Mr Tumble...

mammy I know how that feels my DH is an amazing cook and luckily cooks most our meals but he must use every single thing possible to cook with. He does offer to clean up but that will take hours for him so I just do it!

slightly yeah no organisation skills in this house either!! We do actually have a play room but still end up with everything in the living room! Iv even tried to make washing simpler by having 3 wash baskets but still they all just put their washing in any and the youngest new trick is to swap everything around just to really fuck up my day

Oh how I wish it worked liked that. My kids (both at home still) are adults. From where I'm sat I can see an assortment of stuffed pigs, the throw on the chair pulled off, a large squeaky pea pod, butterfly house and selection of butterflies and a cuddly piglet.
The culprit is a 4 year old scottie dog who probably has more toys than the kids ever did (yeah I spoil him) and makes a hell of a mess with them.

Every night I go round and collect his toys, he watches me carefully then goes and retrieves them!

Ds comes home from university and all the tidiness, such as it is, disappears....

I always thought it would get tidier as they got older and had less toys but it's worse now. I have 8,10 and 12.

Stuff everywhere. Sports kit, headphones, school bags and books, homework, clothes. They NEVER tidy up. And the 12 yr old is the worst. She just doesn't see it and leaves stuff all over the place and her room is awful. They become lazy!

Our grandchildren came along very soon after the DCs left home. So there was no time to get straight. They are finally all grown and after one year of having a tidy house, I now have a dog.

She caused more mess and more work than the DCs and GCs ever did. Not least because we now suddenly have a lot more visitors all bringing her toys.

My children exist in a nebula of crumb, scraps of paper and tiny plastic bits off toys.
I have often wondered how it is they can scatter stuff and spray food about the place just as much as they do.
DH deposits shoes. Everywhere.
I have naively wondered if I can get on top of it once they're both full time at school.

I only have 1 and she's only 8 months so I potentially have another 20 years of this I never realised how hard it is to keep things clean/tidy. I hung a load of washing up yesterday on the maiden, turned around to cook pasta for DD while she played with her toys on the floor. Turned back around and she had silently pulled most of the washing down on top of herself. Sigh.

It’s just never ending! I find toys I have never even seen before sure my MIL and DM buy them more stuff to piss me off

Mine are DD15, DD14, and DS12. Son is better than the girls and it really isn't any better except I can ground them or withhold phones if they don't tidy up after themselves or help around the house and do chores.