I wish I was a woman so I

[FickleHuman]

Could have a bunch of kids, give up work & go out enjoying the sun.

AIBU to let this annoy me??

I know it's complete ignorance on his part but a huge part of me has lost all respect and no longer want to continue seeing him.

I know this is a running thing but Christ! Do your job and il do mine, no ones is harder or easier. Why do people feel the need to comment??

DairyisClosed "Well to be fair it must get frustrating that men don't get the option to be SAHP without an obscene amount of judgement"

I don't think women get that chance either frankly. I say this as a single childfree woman who has always worked. the amount of judging about everything everywhere is huge. and my judginess says, this guy is not nice

If he has no kids he's probably just a bit ignorant........albeit a bit sexist on top

Ditch him.. he does not respect Mothers or Children

Ditch him because he doesn’t respect YOU. It’s not likely to improve.

Anyone that says they would rather do what you are doing whether that be sahp/teacher etc is basically saying “you have it easy” and it is insulting because no one should make assumptions on anyone’s life. I would speak to him about what he said, if he reacts maturely and accepts his ignorance and learns from the experience then he is maybe worth persevering with. If he scoffs then ltb

He could plan his future around this wish.
Find himself several "babymamas".
Give up his job.
Sorted.

He’s a prick. You don’t have to date him.

He has contempt for women.

Why would you want to have anything to do with him? He's nice to you now because it's the beginning of something but as soon as he feels safe that he's got you, you'll see more and more of his contempt.

I cannot understand why women look at men like this and give them a second look. We deserve better than men like this. You, OP, deserve better than a man like this. No woman needs a misogynist in her life.

I suppose it could have been said as a "quip" but if it really was said as you've quoted it sounds so bloody cynical and nasty. It's the "have a bunch of kids" bit that would worry me....do you think he sees motherhood as a hard-life cop out? The context and accuracy of his remark are everything.

”I wish I was a woman so I could have a bunch of kids, give up work & go out enjoying the sun.”

”Yes - and I wish I was a man so I could make ridiculously sexist and ignorant comments without people batting an eyelid,” - would be my response and expression!

I have two dc.

I wish I could give up work and enjoy the summer with them. I really miss being at home with them.

Why is that a bad thing to say?

I agree he has contempt for women in general and no respect for you in particular.

I’d dump him.

I wasn't given the option to be a working mother or a SAHM. I was forced to do what I do now just as he feels forced to work.

I don't care what anyone else does, I don't judge, It's not my business to

I respect everyone for what they do or don't do.

I just wish he'd look at life on my side of the fence.

He's a nice enough guy just seems immature given he's in his 30's

*I have two dc.

I wish I could give up work and enjoy the summer with them. I really miss being at home with them.

Why is that a bad thing to say?*

He didn't say that.

Check out the bit about being a woman.

Why are women always so bloody eager to give male losers the benefit of the doubt.

Why? Why bother? There are lots of nice blokes around. Just don't even entertain the ones who aren't careful enough to not present themselves as losers, walk on.

I have two dc.

I wish I could give up work and enjoy the summer with them. I really miss being at home with them.

Why is that a bad thing to say?

It’s not. But it is completely different to what this guy said, so is not really relevant.

Does he not realise men can be sahp too? He needs that pointed out to him. He clearly has no clue what it's like to spend all day long with young children and babies. And it isn't sunny all the time!

he's a big kid so would rather be at home playing all day with the kids than work

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAAAAAAA!

Oh dear - now I've laughed to much I've wet myself!

Working for a living (unless you are in a Salt Mine) is usually a piece of piss compared to looking after kids, keeping the house running and completing the other 1001 tasks any stay-at-homer has to do.

Does he think women just sit in front of the telly eating peeled grapes and sipping prosecco?

At worst he has no respect for women. At best he thinks he is witty and has a sarcastic humour.

Either way, he sounds annoying. I wouldn't bother messaging again myself.

Men like this bleat on about how easy child-raising is, but they wouldn’t leave their job to do it if you held a gun to their head.

I don't think he realises just how difficult it is.

Something a good friend admitted he didn't realise until he met me either.

I went for a leisurely stroll to the park, spent time in the park and then walks back. My DS had a paddy when we got there, when we left and has cried since we got back. It's not a "let's lay on a blanket and watch the world go by" kind of thing.

Men like this bleat on about how easy child-raising is, but they wouldn’t leave their job to do it if you held a gun to their head

Amen.

I wouldn't see it as someone thinking it is easier just that it is nicer. I'd rather be in the park with kids than at work (am just waiting for DD to finish what he is doing so we can go to the park with GC, was at work this morning which was fine but I know which I prefer.)

I guess I wasn't made to be solely at home all day with my child.

You can't miss what you have all day everyday, hence if you work a lot you'll miss doing fun stuff with the kids and if you are with the kids all day, you'll crave adult time.

Dairy your sons can be SAHP - my DH is.

I know what you mean about expectations but I don't find people make snide comments - if anything he's the hero of the ballet class or whatever.

Working for a living (unless you are in a Salt Mine) is usually a piece of piss compared to looking after kids, keeping the house running and completing the other 1001 tasks any stay-at-homer has to do. That is true but which do you prefer doing? As I said above I'd rather be in the park with the GC (my own children are a bit big for a trip to the park with mum) but work was often easier. I rarely look back fondly about days at work but I do about days at the park/beach.