AIBU, but if you have been the subject of EA FA etc it doesn't mean anything when you come to divorce.

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Friend is going through divorce ATM .

She had loads of proof of EA.
He has put her hospital with life altering injuries.

But her solicitor is saying she could lose everything as
A. The police won't charge him with anything despite not only breaking the injunction she took out on him (at the police's advice) but also any form of the abuse even though she has shown them reams of evidence.

B. The solicitor is too interested in getting her money so is insistent that friends main home which is designed to her needs to be sold.

C. Solicitor is now insisting that the tens of thousands of debt that he has run up gambling. (£8500 in one weekend) is also to be paid out of the joint pot of money. Whilst friend is living on what friends can provide.

AIBU that financially it doesn't mean anything if you have been in an EA relationship when you divorce.

There just doesn't seem to be any comeback for beating your wife, screaming abuse at her every night, keeping her without money and when she does get up the courage to divorce she is the one who ends up with nothing

We will see how things go but in particular if they accept his plucked out of the air figure about the worth of the business it would be interesting if there could be any comeback

Friends solicitor has done what she has done almost every week. She has sent my friend a load of stuff which is designed to wind her up at 5pm on a Friday. By the time friend had read it and called the solicitor , solicitor had left already. To add insult to injury solicitor is now on holiday for 2 weeks.

The stuff that arrived was stbexhs take on what has happened which included calling my friend a liar with regards her disability. That it was friend who was the abuser. That (despite him gambling several thousands per week) stbexh didn't actually have enough money to pay friend any money.

He also said that friend was deliberately holding up the divorce because of her insistence that his business needed to be valued properly and not accepting the 75% below the valuation it was 10 years before and not the figure stbexh had decided it was when he "sold". Not really taking on board that it is the court that needed this stuff.
Friend is at the end of her tether.

Oh god- I’ve seen this sort of cuntfuckery from my father to my mother. Didn’t end well.

She needs a new solicitor. ASAP.

I cannot emphasise how important having a shark as a divorce solicitor is.

Sharks cost money up front and she doesn't have any.

Can I just go back to the point about his previous marriage. Has it been investigated if this marriage was null and void if he hadn't previously legally divorced?

I think it is not legally recognised in this country.
Plus the issue is no one is picking up that he hasn't actually ticked the box on the question, Have you been married before? Yes or No has been left blank.