Aibu MIL/fusspot

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NC for this. I'm going away for a week next month. Two nights will be in a very posh hotel, the rest in a B&B with lots of outdoors/sightseeing etc.
The posh hotel is to give mil a birthday treat. She is thrilled.
But she keeps grilling me on what I'm going to wear for dinner in said posh hotel. I like to travel light and will wear the same thing the two nights running. She is scandalised. What will people think?
They'll think I've only got one posh outfit (I have)

I don't care what people think. I'll only be wearing the bloody thing for three hours per night for two nights.
Mil implied that it's a bit low class to wear the same thing two nights running and it's a very posh hotel and there might be important people there. DH thinks it's mildly amusing and so long as I don't wear jeans and a t-shirt isn't really bothered.
Her intellect isn't compromised, she's just a tad snobbish.

I know it's petty, but she's making me doubt myself.
No bugger will even notice, will they? Why would they?
And why would they care, and why would I care if they cared?
Unless I get gravy on it, it's happening. AIBU?

I’m amazed the conversation has already occurred whereby she knows now what outfits you are going to pack for an event that isn’t until next month!

If she’s a fusspot, I wouldn’t have said anything at all about it-just said, ‘I don’t know yet’ if she asked what you were going to wear!

I'm reminded of a visit we paid to my DH's uncle and aunt's house. We were looking at our wedding photos and my DH's cousin said to his aunt, 'Not that blue dress again, Mum.' Because she had worn it to 2 other weddings lol.

Seriously, I would pack a second outfit, or at least a second top. Because you might spill gravy on it, you need to be prepared for all contingencies.

It did make me laugh, though, the suggestion that there might be someone important there. I agree, she sounds like Hyacinth Bucket.

You’re doing a nice thing for your MIL and she sounds appreciative.

Given that you like her and get on, I’d just go with the flow and do what she’d want - just take another outfit. If you have to buy one, it needn’t be expensive; it’s more the thought that counts.

I’m amazed the conversation has already occurred whereby she knows now what outfits you are going to pack for an event that isn’t until next month!

When her grandson got married she was asking me if I'd got my outfit six months beforehand. Repeatedly. I responded then (as a pp suggested) that I hadn't even thought about it yet and kept saying the same thing every time she asked.
I'm getting a bit paranoid about why she asks me and apparently nobody else. But I think her sisters and dds share her obsessiveness with clothes so she'd know what they were all wearing because they'd have told her.
My experience of 'very' posh hotels is that people don't really get all that tarted up tbh, in the public areas or the restaurant, in fact I've occasionally felt rather overdressed - so in latter years I've been a bit more relaxed about it.

But not on this occasion!! I can't have Mil thinking I'm a total slattern.
She's elderly, in her late 80s and really looks forward to hotel visits, and she just doesn't get the concept of 'relaxed' dressing.
Wearing the same outfit 2 nights running isn't in any way 'standing up' to mil. It's just I don't see the point packing up stuff I don't need for the other 6 nights. I'll continue to think on it.