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To think as you get older birthdays are under whelming

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Sophisticatedsarcasm · 02/04/2018 20:38

I don’t know if it’s because I turned 30 today, but anyone just find birthdays underwhelming. My kids were more excited than me, my mum too who actually can’t belive she has a 30year old daughter. And I think my DP is excited because it means I’m in the same age range as him.
Don’t get me wrong I had a good day and a great meal at the weekend I just find it all a bit boring as you get older.

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BossWitch · 02/04/2018 20:41

Yep. I'm 35 next month. I cannot find the energy to find it interesting, let alone exciting. Dh has already asked me what i want... No bloody idea. Other than for my morning sickness to stop!

MrsExpo · 02/04/2018 20:42

LOl .... I’m 64! If you think they’re underwhelming at 30 just wait til you get to my age! Totally agree with you OP. It gets worse the more of them you have.

Happy Birthday anyhow .....

Echobelly · 02/04/2018 20:43

Oh yeah - I would always be planning my birthday ages ahead, I finally gave up and for the first time didn't have any celebration with friends on my 37th birthday and for the next few until my 40th last year. Sad to say it was mostly as people were so flaky, in my early-mid 30s I kept finding I'd have 10-12people say they'd come out, but only 2-3 actually would come out. And this wasn't the people with kids. They wouldn't say they couldn't come where they couldn't at least.

But yes, I'm not bothered about doing anything outside immediate family on anything except big birthdays. I still like to do something sometimes, and the 'big' days are a good excuse. My 40th last year was brilliant - tea at ours with both our families on the day, and a big late bash with mates a week later. But yeah, it would seem a bit much to do that every year now.

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Sophisticatedsarcasm · 02/04/2018 20:44

I only really wanted one gift this birthday which 2as to go to New York but I know we do not have the fund for that and it wasn’t going to happen. But I’ve generally felt like that since I was 20, I get more excited for my DC birthdays than my own.

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Busybusybust · 02/04/2018 20:45

Nooooooo! I’m 66 and I love my birthday every year! Precious little to make a fuss about, but you have a birthday every year....... celebrate it! And those of your nearest and dearest.

Unihorn · 02/04/2018 20:45

I've never been one to care about birthdays much. I normally work mine and the last time I did anything was a family meal planned by my parents for my 21st. Sometimes my husband and I are both working and don't even see each other on our birthdays. We get each other cards and maybe some chocolate but never really "proper" presents. I do think it's probably more of a milestone for your parents than you.

Thistlebelle · 02/04/2018 20:46

Like most things you get out what you put in.

TeisanLap · 02/04/2018 20:46

I’m 60 in a few hours and I’m really excited about the day even though my birthday celebrations started 2 weeks. Its a really exciting time

BasinHaircut · 02/04/2018 20:46

Genuinely don’t understand the fuss about birthdays. I’ve recently turned 35 and everyone always wants to know what you are doing for your birthday. Nothing, can’t say I think it’s worthy of much note past 18, until maybe your retirement age.

Schnauzermum2 · 02/04/2018 20:47

Happy birthday birthday twin😁🍸. Today my birthday consisted of fruit and fibre in bed, lunch with parents (I did the washing up) a nap and DS blowing out my birthday candles. DH currently printing out reports for work. Just another day

ScreamingValenta · 02/04/2018 20:50

I'm mid-40s and I always try to do something nice, like a day trip or a meal out. I agree with Busybusybust - get your pleasures where you can!

SugarMiceInTheRain · 02/04/2018 20:50

I've always been fairly excited for birthdays but for the first time this year I cannot muster any enthusiasm. My birthday is tomorrow and all I want to do is hide away under the duvet. Kids are excited about it though so I will have to fake enthusiasm even though I just want to cry. I've no idea why but I just can't face it this year. I'll be 37.

ScreamingValenta · 02/04/2018 20:51

Forgot to add - Happy birthday OP Cake.

Aprilmightmemynewname · 02/04/2018 20:52

I chose my 44th birthday for our wedding day, gave my birthday a bit extra oomph!!
Dh was happy to agree - means less chance of forgetting either!!

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Sophisticatedsarcasm · 02/04/2018 20:53

@schnauzermum2
Happy birthday too you too 😂 yeah my day consisted getting up at 6 to go to work til 12, came home where I cooked my fave bacon sandwich for brunch. My DD helped me open my cards. I then watched some tv and had steak for dinner. I did go for a meal on Saturday with my intermediate family which was great. And now I’m currently stuffing myself with the box of American candy DP gifted me and watching supergirl. 🤔

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SugarMiceInTheRain · 02/04/2018 20:53

Oh BTW, Happy birthday 🎂 OP and Schnauzer! And happy birthday for tomorrow to my birthday twin TeisanLap

Busybusybust · 02/04/2018 20:54

Nooooooo! I’m 66 and I love my birthday every year! Life doesn’t give many reasons to celebrate, but a birthday is a good one. I make sure my nearest and dearest have lovely birthdays, and they reciprocate.

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Sophisticatedsarcasm · 02/04/2018 20:57

Thank you for the birthday well wishes hand happy birthday for those whose birthday is tomorrow 😊

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HeadingForSunshine · 02/04/2018 21:00

Happy birthday. I'm increasinly closer to 60. My age is increasingly overwhelming.

Enjoy your birthdays - you can't get the years back. Make sure you have a blast and put yourself first.

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Babdoc · 02/04/2018 21:00

My DH died the day before my 36th birthday, so it cast a shadow over all my subsequent birthdays.
However, now that our two babies are grown up, they always make sure I have a lovely birthday. I’ve been taken to the opera, had some epic meals in gourmet restaurants, had a weekend in Prague, been to Christmas markets... and had some great presents, including an iPhone on my 60th, never having owned a mobile before!
I always have a quiet cry over DH the day before my birthday, but the day itself is a wonderful time with my loving daughters.

DobbyLovesSocks · 02/04/2018 21:42

YANBU. I stopped counting hen I turned 30. I'm now 34 though if anyone asks me I have to stop and think

bananafish81 · 02/04/2018 23:16

Happy birthday!

I'm 36 and I don't bother celebrating in any way anymore. Have no interest in doing anything special, and don't want presents, as I have enough 'stuff' already. Had a big knees up for my 30th but can't imagine I'll do the same for my 40th. I took the date off FB so that I could fly under the radar without friends piling in to wish me happy birthday on my wall!

Fontella · 02/04/2018 23:22

I haven't celebrated my birthday for years - decades in fact. I don't get any birthday cards and don't want any and I told my kids not to bother and to treat it like any other day.

It's just another notch on Old Father Time's scythe.

angryburd · 02/04/2018 23:23

Don't worry, on Planet MN no one over the age of 12 celebrates birthdays anyway.

alltheworld · 02/04/2018 23:24

I always celebrated my bday somehow until last year when I just suddenly could not be bothered. I had always assumed I would do something special to mark my 50th but now not so sure

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