Hands down pants at dinner table?

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DH & I had both just finished eating, while our toddler was still finishing their tea.
DH was sat at the table with toddler, while I had gotten up to put bits into the dishwasher. I turn around and DH has his phone in one hand and his other hand down his trousers, having a good rummage/scratch.

I asked him not to do that at the table (didn't mention the phone at the table which is also a major peeve!) and he ignored me. So I asked him again and he got up and stormed off, muttering grumpily.

AIBU to think that sitting at the dinner table with your hand in your pants isn't very nice behaviour?

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Is your DH always an filthy arsehole?

Yuk.

Vile. It depresses me that men have been raised to think that is ok.

Well done op, YA completely NBU!

Ewww... I think you were quite restrained. I’d have been absolutely disgusted.

What!? When is this ever ok? Boke.

What an ill-mannered, disgusting man

I hope he stormed off to go and wash his hands. Disgusting behaviour at any time but even more so at the dinner table.

Yuck. Why don't you do it too in front of him to show how gross it is?

Was that a typo? Was it DS having a rummage in his underwrare?

How gross - you were quite right to have words though why any adult would need to be told is beyond me.

Oh god. I genuinely thought that question was going to be about the toddler. Would he do that in a restaurant? No, because it’s fucking gross and he’d be turfed out on his arse.

Urgh!

Yuck why do (some) men think this is ever ok?

I expected this to be about a DC of yours, too.

Anyway, I'd been operating under the assumption that this was vile and hence unacceptable - but seeing as a grown man seems to disagree I shall test the waters at tomorrow's department meeting at work. If I don't report back, please assume im still in with the HR lady.

That's grim. Y definitely ANBU. And don't get me started on men who're still zipping themselves up as they walk out of the loo...

Yuk, make him wash his hands.

No, no, no, thats just revolting.

This is why I’d never be attracted to a man who wears tracksuit bottoms as their normal day wear... you know they like a good rummage.

Jeez, I spend a lot of my working life telling teenagers lads to stop playing with their junk. I would be disgusted seeing an adult bloke doing it.
Dirty git!

That's fairly disgusting. Wait till next meal time and you do it. Just sit there, open your legs, put your hands in your underwear and give yourself a good scratch with one hand and have your phone in your other, See his reaction . If questioned tell him you thought standards had dropped so much that's what you both now do. Scratch your genitalia at the dinner table whilst using your phone.

And make sure you sniff your fingers when you've had a good scratch and rummage. That should add to the boak factor.

DH took exteme offence when I voiced my disgust that he ruffles DC's hair/ faces when he sees them in the morning after he's spent an hour in bed drinking coffee and scratching his nuts. For Christ sake man, it's foul.

I thought this was going to be how to stop toddlers doing this!