Hands down pants at dinner table?

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DH & I had both just finished eating, while our toddler was still finishing their tea.
DH was sat at the table with toddler, while I had gotten up to put bits into the dishwasher. I turn around and DH has his phone in one hand and his other hand down his trousers, having a good rummage/scratch.

I asked him not to do that at the table (didn't mention the phone at the table which is also a major peeve!) and he ignored me. So I asked him again and he got up and stormed off, muttering grumpily.

AIBU to think that sitting at the dinner table with your hand in your pants isn't very nice behaviour?

Urgh, that's not good.

Is your DH a silver-back gorilla by any chance? Actually, they don't wear pants and probably have nicer manners. Forgive me, but you MUST have realised the man you've married!!!

Dear me.
His just desserts would be to sit away from the table until he can behave. A grown man doing this at the table? in fact, there's no real excuse for it anywhere.

"there's no real excuse for it anywhere."

I've never known a bloke do this.

Those that are married to men who do it-presumably it started after the wedding??

You might want to warn your DH that toddlers can quite innocently draw pictures or tell teachers etc of parents doing 'undesirable' things......"Daddy puts his hands down his pants" could be VERY misunderstood!!!!

No tech at the table. Hands outside clothes in front of others. Very basic rules.

LTB

Yuck. That's disgusting.

Hmm not nice I agree. DH walked towards me today in Costco adjusting his crotch so I asked him loudly ‘how’s your penis’. Next time I get bread gonna scratch my fanny as I walk to the trolley - equality innit

I would refuse to sit down to another meal with him until he acts like a civilized person. Oh God I got a "visual" now... 🤢

That’s disgusting and not something you want your toddler to see either. Your dh needs to behave less like a caveman!

My stbex husband used to do this. I'm so glad he's gone. He didn't see what my problem was.

DH does that on rare occasions (not at the table though!), I say something like "eww please stop, what would you say if I was doing the same??!"
He stops straightaway and looks

I don't have a penis or testicles so i have no idea how often you do actually need to adjust if they move and become uncomfortable, but it is absolutely something that should be done in the privacy of a bathroom and wash your hands afterwards. As for itching, anyone can itch intimately, but again, scratch in the privacy of a bathroom and wash your hands afterward.

Touching your bare genitals in public is disgusting, and not washing your hands after doing so before you touch anything else, is pure vile! At the dinner table where people eat, is one of the worst imaginable places!

yuk

I've only ever seen chavs, permanently dressed in those ridiculous, always grey, tracksuits doing this.

Usually on a channel 5 documentary of some sort or other.

Gross.

The 'lads' in our group used to do this when we were about 15. I don't know any respectable adults who do this, let alone at the dinner table

Eurgh. About ten years ago it became a 'thing' here to wear tracksuit trousers, no t-shirt and walk around with your hand on your junk. Just permanently down there having a good fiddle blokes not women of course ...

Men need to worry a little more about how attractive they are/aren't

My first LTB!

I'm so glad you all agree that it's grim. Now to work out how to explain this to DH in language he will understand.

Ah, OP, this takes me back to some very repressed memories of guys at my university doing just the same. In the dinner hall. Every night. They'd just walk around, rummaging around, making what I can only imagine to be bollock hammocks with their hands.
They gave it a name too: "warming up on a one bar heater". Enough to put you off your sausage and mash.

Just merrily scratch your fanny next time