To not be designated driver for my entire pregnancy

[BiscayTrafalgarFitzroy]

I'm pregnant and not drinking.

DP and I have met up with friends/family recently for drinks. E.g. I drove yesterday to the pub, DP and his family had drinks over a few hours. They got a bit merry and tbh I was pretty bored by the end of it but I sucked it up as it's not a regular occasion.

Today we are going to a restaurant for what will be a boozy lunch with other family and already the expectation is oh Biscay will drive us all as she's not drinking anyway. I pointed out to DP that this is what happened yesterday and it's not particularly fun to watch other people drink (not steaming drunk but more more than 1 or 2 drinks) when you're the only sober one and would he mind driving today? He says it's fine and of course he will drive but now I'm worried IABU and miserable asking him not to drink either.

I'm not expecting anyone to stop drinking and having a good time because a pregnant woman is with them or DP to abstain from alcohol throughout my pregnancy. Just wondered if IABU to sometimes expect DP to drive and not drink also so there is someone else on my sober level. Or AIBU and unnecessarily ruining his fun?

On balance, I think you're being unreasonable @BiscayTrafalgarFitzroy.

If, on the other hand, you'd complained about not wanting to have to be the only stone cold sober person surrounded by a pack of drunken hyenas (there really is nothing worse) for 9 months whenever you go out socially, I'd say YWNBU.

I think you’re being petty, tbh. Dog in the manger? As long as you’re not knackered and being expected to stay up way past your comfort time, I can’t see the problem. You could always skive off and make him get a taxi back.

If, on the other hand, you'd complained about not wanting to have to be the only stone cold sober person surrounded by a pack of drunken hyenas (there really is nothing worse) for 9 months whenever you go out socially

That was certainly part of my complaint.

I couldn't fit behind a wheel after 30 weeks and reach the pedals

I thought it balanced out quite well that I did the driving in the middle period after too nauseous to drive in the first part and carpal tunnel making driving difficult at the end. Sharing things equitably doesn't necessarily mean exactly one for one or tallying up for every type of action but taken over all there is fairness.

I'm currently pregnant but I don't drink even when I'm not. It does get irritating being the designated driver all the time

Sometimes it's nice to be driven rather than be the driver, especially now I'm ridiculously tired all the time. Taxis are not an option due to the fact it would cost about £20 each way to town so occasionally I ask my husband to drive and therefore not drink

I don't think it's unreasonable. Being pregnant or teetotal doesn't mean you should be at everyone else's beck and call