Hi I know ipabu but I maybe need you lovely people (who tell it like it is!!) to talk me down.
Me and dc (aged 12 and 9) have arrived home today from a couple days away. We are home until Monday then go away again until Wednesday.
The dc know that hotels, meals out and trips cost money so they are ‘only’ getting an Easter egg from me this year (usually also get £10).
XH and I separated 5 years ago we are amicable and he visits the dc at my house twice a week (dc refuse to go to his) he does not have them overnight or for trips away (dc refuse to go away with him).
We arrive home today to cards on the door mat and £30 in each card to the children from XH.
My dc now think it’s great that dad ‘pushed the boat out’ this Easter whereas I am biting my tongue as I really want to say ‘it takes minutes to put cash in the card he does NOTHING else’.
Financially he doesn’t give me maintenance but does pay the mortgage instead but I am never offered any other form of help with school uniforms, activities etc so he can easily afford the Easter money whereas to me £60 total is almost 2 weekly food shops!!
Please talk me down like I say I know iapbu!!