Feeling ragey at DH mansplaining

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Just phoned DH to see if he had any ideas to help solve a problem i was having. Explained the problem to him, then listened in mounting rage as he then said 'well you can't do that'...and mansplained the exact problem back at me.
Cue stunned silence from me, followed by 'yes...that's what i just said to you'.
Argh, why do they do it?

What was his response?

I sympathise. Having similar with dh who is instructing me in perfect parenting. He is off to put it in to practise with 15 yo ds

@Itchy...he then came up with a second problem concerning him that he hadn't mentioned previously. I pointed out that last night (when the original problem first appeared) was the time that his problem should have been addressed. Just feel like communicating with him is SUCH hard work.

@Scabity i secretly chortle when mine goes off to put his perfect parenting advice into action, he is no match for a a feisty nine year old.

I just laugh and say “you just mansplained!” and DH shuts up.

Come to think of it dp mansplained nappy changing to me earlier. He was changing Dd2 and her nappy was a little loose apparently and then told me how to do it. We have a 4yo and a 1yo. I know how to change a nappy!

He’s back down and off to the Bakery in a huff. DS mustn’t have listened

Bad DS, not cooperating with the perfect parenting style

@Scabetty if it was my exH then I'd be told that any perfect parenting fail was because I spoilt and mollycoddled DS so it was my fault.

Doesn't bother me when my DH does this. I do enough woman-splaining to him.

DP does this! I explain an issue to him and he just explains it back to me in his terms, but basically what I said. Or if I ask a question about something, he'll go into all the basics first as if I don't know anything!

In your situation I would have told him to use his listening ears because if he had he’d have realised that’s exactly what I just said to him.

@AuroraBora you just make me snort, will definitely use 'listening ears' in future.
@CookPassBabtridge oh god yes, the explaining the basics to me. I had a lesson in how a sink drains the other day!

I sing 'he's a mansplainer, mansplainer' to the tune of Maniac when DH tries this.

DH never does this, he has lots of faults but not this. He can't mansplain because I know more than him, do more and am (IMO) more intelligent.

My OH cuts me off mid explaining my problem to tell me why it's a problem and doesn't work. I wait til his finished and point out I know it's not working that's why I was going to ask his help but while he was explaining my own issue I googled it and know what to do now.

He also has a habit of starting the same conversation days in a row. To the point where last night when he started the discussion on our open plan kitchen, I actually talked him through the conversation we were about to have. He didn't seem to appreciate it

I feel your pain. My husband has just mansplained the way I should actually be mopping the kitchen floor. Seeing as I'm the only one who ever mops the floor I'm wondering a) where this superior knowledge comes from and b) the logistics of how far my extendable mop will go up his lovely but CF arse

Just hand him the mop so he can demonstrate and make yourself a cup of tea.

My husband has just mansplained the way I should actually be mopping the kitchen floor. Seeing as I'm the only one who ever mops the floor I'm wondering a) where this superior knowledge comes from

My DH has form for this sort of stuff. Also older DB kills me with it, I even remember one time when quite young and I was sewing something, DB (who'd never picked up a needle and thread in his life) sat watching me for a while then proceeded to tell me how I was doing it wrong and how I should do it.

Forty years on he's still true to form, spoke to him yesterday and he started telling me how a professional nurse should behave (commenting on a hosp visit I'd made to a relative). Not sure if he'd forgot that I'd been a nurse myself for many years.............love it.

Do not ask me why but when I read the title of the thread I thought it would be to do with a man pruning his pubes 😂😂😂 why on earth would I think that. I need an easter vodka

You’re thinking of manscaping @hilbil21 !

Ahhhhhh so I am

Oh god, the mainsplaining parenting. DH does this, I've been a SAHM for almost 8 years and he still thinks he knows better. The worst part is the kids do actually behave better for him, the little gits it has nothing to do with his parenting style and everything to do with the fact he works rotating shifts so is hardly ever around when the kids are at home and awake, so when they do see him they're all happy and excited.

My dp once tried to mansplain periods and why we get period pain to me
To Me, a woman whos had periods for 20 years.
He reailsed about 10min in and just went quiet.

Thank you all, laughing at your replies has eased the rage....(til next time).