To sit here and quietly seethe with resentment

[BoobleMcB]

...about the bloody person who has come and sat at the end of my admittedly longer than i need table at lunch when there are literally DOZENS of empty tables (including numerous long tables like mine)?!

I remember my DD telling me a funny story a few years back. She and her DH had gone to the cinema. The auditorium was three quarters empty. They sat in the back row,with an empty seat in between them to put their coats and bags on. A bloke came along and asked to sit in the seat in between them. Was most put out when DD and her DH gave him a funny look and said no,there were about 100 other seats available. Bloody weirdo.

ugh that would drive me crazy, I'd probably move tbh

This morning I was on the bus returning home from town, single decker, only passenger being myself, and guess what, a lady got on the bus and sat next to me! She was a stranger, struck up a conversation (her life story), perhaps she was lonely, who knows.

My uncle built a house on land surrounded by loads of empty land in another country years ago. Then some idiot came along and built his house slap bang next to my uncles! And no it wasn't to do with planning permission or anything like that, I mean WHY DO THAT???

Stuff like this drives me mad. Always get a couple of idiots who decide to sit right near me in a half empty cinema and then talk all of the way through.

I had a rare chance of a coffee alone in a cafe. The cafe was empty. Not a soul. But then a woman came and sat next to me, talking on Bluetooth about selling a king size mattress.

You can't actually make it up.

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Yes, that always happens to me, only it tends to be a great big scruffy white transit van full of bumps and scuffs and scratches.

Mydoghatesthebath that happened to me and the bastards announced they were going to keep me company.

Yanbu op, this used to annoy me immensely until I mentioned it to a friend who explained that she does the exact same thing. Her reasoning - to feel less alone and what's the harm if the person doesn't step into your personal space. I'm not sure if I agree or disagree - but that was the explanation offered to me.

When I was in the early stages of labour, DH took me to the hospital around 6 am. There were hundreds of spaces, and he deliberately drove to somewhere that had empty spaces all around as I needed PLENTY of room to get out, and then stand and huff & puff every so often.

So, as I'm gathering up things, a car comes and parks right next to us, by my door. Literally HUNDREDS of empty spaces (and not near a walkway or anything). I couldn't get out, so DH had to move to another space. The woman of the other car gave us a bit of a funny look, but grabbed her things and hurried inside. Several minutes later, DH and I made it to the maternity suite, and the midwife who checked me over was the woman from the car park.

I very nearly asked her why she'd parked like that.

It's herd mentality I think, people who are so uncertain of their own ability to judge whats good or bad that they latch onto anyone else's decision as a signpost of what they should do.
"This must be a good spot to park for some reason, I'll do that too".

My Dad always parks next to the nicest car in a car park, so that for the few seconds he's walking to his car passers by will think 'ooh look, hes got a nice car' you know, til they see him get into his battered old people carrier. He says its like a poor mans mid-life crisis.

I was once driving ever upwards in a multi story car park, basically because there was a car following me and it seemed inconsiderate to make him wait whilst I pulled into a space. There were plenty of spaces on each floor. Eventually I got fed up and decided he would just have to wait. He then, of course, pulled into the space right next to me leaving me a couple of inches to open my door.

I admit to giving him some sarcasm although I refrained from calling him a f**king idiot.

It’s so annoying when things like that happen.

Coming home from work one evening on a later than usual train, I somehow ended up with a carriage all to myself. I picked the best seat (in my mind) and settled back for a nice peaceful journey. I was just about to put my bag on the seat next to me when a woman whumphed down practically parking herself on my lap.

I spent the rest of the journey with an expression not dissimilar to Bishop Brennan’s when he’d just been kicked up the arse.

I still prickle without irritation about it after all this time.

What’s wrong with people?

I’ve aslo had the car park thing too. One bloke even waited while I faffed about getting stuff out of the passenger side...I wondered why he was sat engine idling behind me in an empty car park...it was for the space right next to mine and he parked bloody inches from me so he could hardly get out.

I had this last week in a university computer room. I spent 2 hours alone in the room with 14 empty computers around. The next person to come in the room, and only person for at least half an hour, sat at the computer right next to me. I would have moved but I'd got loads of documents open. I'd just started to get over my annoyance when I realised that he also smelt rather unpleasant / unwashed. After half an hour the smell got too much and I packed up and went for an early lunch.

That car park thing would freak me out badly. Car parks are prime territory to be attacked or mugged.

BACK OFF YOU FREAKS!

In that case if it's at work it's probably because they want to be sociable? Do you not like this person?

A couple of years ago,I got on a tube train at Upminster. It's the last stop on the District line,so the train sits and waits for about 10 minutes before setting off back towards central London. Very few people get on the train at Upminster,maybe 3 or 4 in each carriage,if that. I sat down in a totally empty carriage,and was waiting for the train to go when a man in his mid 30s got on the same carriage. He looked around,then sat down opposite me. I thought WTF? He had the choice of the rest of the entire train to choose to sit,never mind this particular carriage and that particular seat! It made me feel uncomfortable,so after a minute I got up and moved to another carriage,half expecting him to follow. Thankfully he didn't. I know people are entitled to sit where ever they like,but why would a man choose to sit directly opposite a lone female in an otherwise totally empty train carriage? Strikes me that they have no self-awareness.

A relative of mine always tries to park next to the same model car, she gets a thril when there’s 3 or more cars the same in a row.

Where are the people who do this? I know you're there - so please explain?

I caught the train once quite late, so there were only a couple of people in the carriage. I picked a seat (near the loos but not too near, within sight of my luggage, two seats together rather than a four with a table to discourage other passengers ) and was reading my book when someone came and sat next to me. There were literally about 4 of us in the whole carriage. He then started to rabbit on about the wheel bearings and the amount of stress on them. I moved carriages!

I get up and move. Or I ask the other person to move and I don't mind explaining why. Fuck that shit.

@MumofBoysx2 I work in a very large place with hundreds of staff across a number of departments. I have no idea who my new friend was and they made zero effort to change that. So hardly trying to be sociable.

@GreenTulips that's so true, where are they?! They must be around.

See, fair play to those who get up and move. I don't think I could! I'd feel even more awkward and feel rude 😂

DH and I once went for an early tea at a local restaurant. We were the only ones there at the time. Next couple come along and are seated right next to us - very, very closely together. Must have been about 30+ other tables the waiter could have seated them at.

Lots of odd glances between us before I called the waiter over and asked what kind of odd social experiment this was that he'd seated two couples together essentially as a four.

Thankfully they all laughed and tables were rearranged. It was so odd.

I am a magnet for these people, this happens to me all the time. Coupled with: nobody ever says ‘excuse me, could I just reach past you...’ to me, they just reach over me or in front of me. I’m very short, it drives me insane. I normally say ‘oh SORRY, am I in your WAY? Will I MOVE?’

I am in love with the relative who gets a kick out of the same cars parked together, that’s incredible. I might start doing this.