My sister is claiming to be a rape and anorexia survivor.

[IvyandHolly]

My younger sister has thousands of followers across multiple social media accounts (she has 12 Instagram accounts alone) and she is gaining more by the day telling people that she's a rape and sexual abuse survivor, that she beat anorexia, and that's she's consistently bullied and has tried to kill herself multiple times. None of this is true.

Any time any of our family tries to reach out to her when she crosses a line on something (she made a very racist post recently) she goes online and talks about how she is ‘bullied’ by her family, and that it's going to make her kill herself. Then she proceeds to jump on all of her accounts and send multiple threatening messages, even making new accounts to get around bans.

I told her months ago I was done, and to never contact me again and blocked whatever I knew she had. She's taken to posting pictures of my DCs on her social media accounts with their full names, making up stories that I'm abusing them and that she takes care of them. She has not seen my DCs in years because I didn't want her influencing them that way. But now her followers have started trying to find ways to contact and harass me as well, because of this. I got Instagram to remove the pictures from some of her accounts, but she just moves to another and does it there and it starts again.

What do i do to make it stop?

Definitely gather evidence and call into a police station/ call the non-emergency line to discuss next steps. Her behaviour is harassment and does put you and your children at risk so it needs to stop.

Do you have any idea why she is behaving in this way? It’s clearly not acceptable, but does it come from perhaps an actual hidden trauma of some kind she’s suppressing, or a mental illness? Or perhaps, if those things have been ruled out satisfactorily, in some cases there might not be another reason beyond that the person isn’t being very nice.

I don’t know. I kind of hope she does have a good reason for doing this. If not, well...

As someone who has undergone real and ruddy awful trauma and for whom surviving (swimming, or drowning, the two are very similar!) is a real daily struggle... I am struggling with your sisters behaviour.

I want every attention seeking beep who fabricated living changing and life limiting illness to actually have to live with it - an apt punishment, as the glory is actually pretty damn invisible for those of us really having to live it. Add in some real abuse, which so often goes along with disability, and you get a really awful situation.

The pain and suffering expands to fill every crevice and moment of your life, suffocating most of what’s left... and is a world away from these fantasists selfish lies.

They stop people from wanting to go anywhere near someone like me. They stop people believing people like me, when we are ducking desperate enough to seek help or support or whatever. I can’t post on here my real life traumas and struggles, because people have been bitten before. It’s too upsetting to share your struggles, the stuff you really need help and to know that maybe there’s another human out there somewhere that cares, or has words of support ... but then to get shot down as a liar. Bah. It’s too much. Which is sad because over previous years there have been people on here who’ve helped me beyond all imagining by their words.

So... I have a problem with people like her!

That's awful OP. I agree police is best step. Hope they were helpful.

Did you go to the police OP?

What happened?

it's Harrassment you can fix this criminal court or civil court

she sounds like she has health problems

Screenshot and police

Report her and her followers for content and fraudulent accounts every single time, screenshot with dates and times and keep everything - don't delete anymore, and report to the police for stalking, harrassment and child endangerment.
Throw a lawyer into the mix as well.
Report her to whatever internet based cyber bullying government body you have in your counntry - they can help as well.

How awful for you and your family.

What did the police say, OP?

Do your brother and parents support you?

She sounds toxic. I hope you get things sorted out especially for the sake of your DC.

She sounds very unwell.

While it is perfectly possible that she has experienced rape/sexual abuse that you and the rest of your family were unaware of that does not excuse her harassment of you or putting your DC at risk.

I hope you have taken the advice on this thread and reported her to the Police. Apart from anything else, it may result in her getting the help she clearly needs.

Hope the police took you seriously op and have warned her off!

@WellThisIsShit you have my complete understanding and empathy. With you all the way.

Hope the police took you seriously.

Hello, sorry you are going through this and I hope your problems get resolved soon. What you wrote really struck a chord with me as my best friend had a brief phase of doing this,(since then she's had counselling, married, had children and now lives a normal life). I notice that you speak of your family calling your younger sister out a few times, and I wonder if your situation is familiar.

Basically my friend grew up with a depressed mother and emotionally distant father who didn't like her. Her elder siblings picked on her, and the family soon decided she was the "problem" child. She was always told how she felt, they would rewrite history eg "you were depressed because 3 people you know died" instead of you were depressed because you have no strong loving attachments in your life and most people are quite mean to you alot of the time. Nobody ever listened or validated her thoughts or feelings, so she started to feel that she didn't matter to anyone at all. When she became and adult suddenly she was beautiful, popular and respected by everyone - apart from her family who still constantly found ways to put her down. They had ganged up on her at a young age and she felt excluded. She encountered numerous scary and dangerous/life threatening situations which her family actually laughed at, brushed off or denied happening, despite them not being there and having no idea what had happened. When she tried to confront them they blanked her. At this point, feeling unsupported and unwanted she started acting out. The family immediately turned on her and called her mad. It grew nasty for a few years, however with counselling and the support of her husband she has come to understand the dynamics that caused this to happen.

I don't know if your family is similar, but I read your post and thought of my friend - similar age, popular, but excluded by her family. If I am wrong I am really sorry, just trying to help you to get some perspective. I am sure that a visit from the police will help her gain some perspective into what has happened as well!

@HollyBayTree surely she could use a no win no fee firm?

Aside from the other issues.....

How do you know for certain she's not suffered any kind of sexual abuse? Unless you are a conjoined twin you can't possibly know everything that may have happened.

Unless she's admitted it's all made up.

Are your parents still around, if so what are they saying?

Hi I after reading this thread about your sister I instantly related to it.

I know of a girl who we belive to be doing the exact same thing online that you mention in your post, and we are concerned for someone close to us who we belive she is manipulating with all her lies.

I am starting to question as to weather the person in your thread and the person we belive to be making up stories online is actually the same girl? as they sound identical.

I understand that we might be talking about two completely different people but is the girl in question from the leeds area of the UK?

Any time any of our family tries to reach out to her when she crosses a line on something (she made a very racist post recently) she goes online and talks about how she is ‘bullied’ by her family

^ I thought that was a weird sentence. Why are you 'reaching out to her' (what do you say and do?) when she 'crosses a line''. Could also be read as policing her views, even if they are distasteful to you?

Still, the rest of it does sound disturbing, and its probably best to go NC, and take other posters' advice here.

Yes, time to contact the police. I had a 'friend' like this, every man she met had allegedly assaulted her, sexually, she reported her own brother to the police for that and social services for child protection as he had a young child. She threatened to do the same to a casual boyfriend's friend as well, saying the friend was putting her child at risk. I was lucky, she left me alone after I said don't contact me again and I believe she received mental health help (not that it had helped much before, she had a long history with MH services). But I still lodged it all in writing with the police, using their contact form online and I spoke to them to flesh out the issue. Your area police force will have a contact form, fill it in and send it, today. They will take it seriously and yours is a much worse case than mine.

Is she a child? This sort of multiple social media account behaviour is something I know some children aged about 10-15 do in order to gain thousands of followers on different accounts, often celebrity fan accounts.

She's obviously gone well beyond celebrity fan accounts though. Posting pictures of your DC and making up stories about them is surely illegal. If she isn't a child, she seems mentally ill to do this. Get help ASAP, most likely from the police.

She could well be telling the truth about the rape and anorexia surely? At the very least she is struggling with some other deep emotional issues in order to bother lying about those. She sounds really vulnerable and in need of help.

Still, protecting your own children must absolutely be your top priority. It's sad that she's only 19 though.

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I agree with PP, Munchausen by internet.
Have a look at the Warrior Eli Hoax group.