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My sister is claiming to be a rape and anorexia survivor.

74 replies

IvyandHolly · 28/03/2018 11:53

My younger sister has thousands of followers across multiple social media accounts (she has 12 Instagram accounts alone) and she is gaining more by the day telling people that she's a rape and sexual abuse survivor, that she beat anorexia, and that's she's consistently bullied and has tried to kill herself multiple times. None of this is true.

Any time any of our family tries to reach out to her when she crosses a line on something (she made a very racist post recently) she goes online and talks about how she is ‘bullied’ by her family, and that it's going to make her kill herself. Then she proceeds to jump on all of her accounts and send multiple threatening messages, even making new accounts to get around bans.

I told her months ago I was done, and to never contact me again and blocked whatever I knew she had. She's taken to posting pictures of my DCs on her social media accounts with their full names, making up stories that I'm abusing them and that she takes care of them. She has not seen my DCs in years because I didn't want her influencing them that way. But now her followers have started trying to find ways to contact and harass me as well, because of this. I got Instagram to remove the pictures from some of her accounts, but she just moves to another and does it there and it starts again.

What do i do to make it stop?

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IvyandHolly · 28/03/2018 12:36

I blocked her number and deleted her texts, I can get screenshots from Instagram, my brother has text between them, can I use them as evidence? I’ve reported the photos of my children to Instagram, but every time they get deleted she reposts them on a different account, is their anyway to stop this?

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DullAndOld · 28/03/2018 12:39

you need to go to the police.

Figgygal · 28/03/2018 12:40

Police
It's harassment

Yarboosucks · 28/03/2018 12:40

You are being harassed and stalked…. Go to the police.

Ijustwantabloodyusername · 28/03/2018 12:45

You absolutely need to go to the police. Surely there's some 'order' you can get to stop her doing this.

It sounds like she needs some extensive therapy. It is completely damaging to those who have actually had these things happen.

elisenbrunnen · 28/03/2018 12:46

Is there any way to stop this?

Yes. Police.

retirednow · 28/03/2018 12:54

Keep the texts

kateandme · 28/03/2018 12:55

get all the evidence you can.screen shot print out etc.text.like build up a serious file of it all.go to the police.dont let them fob you off.your worried.this is causing your mental health problems to do with the anxt of it all.it could be putting your family at risk with the lies and the pictures.expecially if thy are young her putting up pictures they should take very seriously!
tell them you've treid every other way of reporting anf stopping this.
you need there help.
and ur sister is either very bad or seriously needs help herself.

Bluntness100 · 28/03/2018 12:58

Goodness, why do you keep repeating the question. Go to thr police. They will advise you

IvyandHolly · 28/03/2018 12:59

Thanks for the advice, I’m going to the police station after lunch. Hopefully they will get her to stop.

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skippykips · 28/03/2018 13:02

When you say younger sister, how old is she? Does she have children, as this is worrying behaviour from somebody who is responsible for minors.
You are doing the right thing in going to police. I hope they can help you.

IvyandHolly · 28/03/2018 13:04

Skippy she is 19, and has no children.

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HobnobBob · 28/03/2018 13:12

Glad you’re going to the police, it’s the right thing to do.

Idontdowindows · 28/03/2018 13:13

Glad to read you're going to the police, it's the best way to start dealing with this.

Hypermice · 28/03/2018 13:19

I would have said block and ignore, but this:

She's taken to posting pictures of my DCs on her social media accounts with their full names, making up stories that I'm abusing them and that she takes care of them

...Directly endangers your children. That cannot be ignored.

Screenshot everything. Collect all communications, texts etc.
Go to the police. This is harassment and there are children involved - the police should deal with this.

BitOutOfPractice · 28/03/2018 13:22

Gosh this really does sound worrying. For you and on your sister's behalf. I think police too and I don't often say that

Mercison · 28/03/2018 13:24

How awful Sad she sounds as though she's developed a completely new life just for social media and is having problems sorting fantasy from reality. She needs help.

Dobby1sAFreeElf · 28/03/2018 13:26

Glad you're going to the police. I know its your sister, but she's potentially endangering your DC.

InBlackwaterWoods · 28/03/2018 13:27

Jeez, who does that? Bad enough she's lying about surviving trauma, but to accuse you and endanger your children. There is something seriously wrong with your sister.
Good to see you're going to the police. How scary! Can you screenshot/print the texts out?
Horrifying to think there are strangers who might hurt you or your kids, all being spurred on by lies.
Good luck OP and if the police ask if you want her charged, then YES!!

IronicWittyUsername · 28/03/2018 13:29

sounds like munchausens by internet

I know many people who fake chronic illness online particularly instagram. You can get huge attention on there. People frequently steal other peoples photos and post as their own medical ones.

I agree with police

shesalady · 28/03/2018 13:32

Oh op this sounds awful. Bad enough if it were anyone to to be your sister must be very upsetting. Hope it goes well with the police.

Ijustwantabloodyusername · 28/03/2018 13:32

Good Luck!

Unktious · 28/03/2018 13:53

I’d follow her with fake accounts ad report every picture of your kids to Instagram or whichever SM account sh3 is using.

I’d have collected more evidence before going to the police.

Does she live with your parents? Can they do anything?

retirednow · 28/03/2018 15:09

How did it go with the police, hope they are sorting it for you. She sounds bad.

ReanimatedSGB · 28/03/2018 15:48

There certainly are people who invent tragic and horrifying stories about themselves (MN has had a few over the years.) Some want to extract money from others - those who pretend to have cancer, or that their (non-existent) DC have cancer or some other longterm illness may set up crowdfunding appeals, for instance. Some such people even abuse their own DC by faking illness/disability to scam money.
Some, however, just feed on the drama and, in fact, the more they can divide people into doubters and supporters, the more they get off on it.