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To not do the Easter Bunny?

133 replies

Supermagicsmile · 27/03/2018 23:06

All the mums in DD's class seem to be doing it in a big way. They were talking about it at a party at the weekend and now I feel really guilty that we've never done it.
Dd is old enough to ask so I also feel bad as I don't have an explanation for why when she inevitably asks why she didn't get a visit from the Easter Bunny when everyone else did.
What would you say? Would you cave and just do it so she's not left out? I don't have any real opposition, just never grew up with it so haven't done it for mine either.

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unintentionalthreadkiller · 28/03/2018 09:06

But a chance am I entertaining the idea of an Easter fucking bunny. I'm sure it's only become a thing in the last couple of years.

MyNameIsErm · 28/03/2018 09:08

We don't do the Easter Bunny,
we don't do Santa and
we don't do the Tooth Fairy. 🤷‍♀️

Iceweasel · 28/03/2018 10:46

We don't do the Easter Bunny,
we don't do Santa and
we don't do the Tooth Fairy. 🤷‍♀️

Same here, but while the first seems to be perfectly acceptable and a matter of personal choice, the second is apparently depriving my child of all magic and wonder and upsetting to all the other children if mine says he does not believe.

speakout · 28/03/2018 10:51

Each to their own.

I love festivals, and I love all the magic and make believe too. Playing along with imaginary worlds is a lovely way to share play.

MyNameIsErm · 28/03/2018 11:19

Iceweasel - yes exactly that, I know right!

Thirtyrock39 · 28/03/2018 11:26

The problem is if you don't have the Easter bunny or tooth fairy (both things seem unbelievable and ridiculous to me on a similar level) it quickly leads to questions about Father Christmas so you almost have to keep all of them if you want them to still believe in F.C.

speakout · 28/03/2018 11:34

We have no such dissonance.

FC is alive and lives in that amazing place called the imagination- children are totally able to understand that, and continue the magic even when they start to ask questions.
My DD had a fairy village at the bottom of her garden for years, I would play with her, help her find new little bits to make tiny benches.
Did she believe they were real? Possibly.
As she grew she still played. and still enjoyed the Santa magic, even though at 17 she obviously knows that santa is only alive in make believe.
But we still have the santa magic in our home, I also have a scottish Brownie living in our house ( he has his own tiny door, and will help us look for lost things in exchange for chocolate.
Even my OH has been know to place a piece of chocolate on his doorstep to get help in finding stuff.

It's all the rich tapestry of life.

TittyGolightly · 28/03/2018 11:43

if you want them to still believe in F.C.

Hmmm. Hmm

ReginaGeorgeIsAFuglySlut · 28/03/2018 12:32

I am with you Husky I get as much joy out of a good Easter hunt as my kids do.

speakout · 28/03/2018 12:38

It’s fun! The hunting is more fun than the actual eggs!

I agree.
Some years my kids have handed the baskets of eggs back and asked my to hide them again!

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Supermagicsmile · 28/03/2018 18:09

The Easter Bunny brings presents just like Santa according to all the other mums in DD's class. I have got the D.C. An egg each and always do an Easter egg hunt but this is like Santa part two! Hmm

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Snowmagedon · 28/03/2018 18:24

Titty your a bundle of joy aren't you Hmm

Op it's no big deal. Little basket or even just an egg.. Shove it on door step and say the bunny brought it.

Is that really ott, excessive etc?
Normally I would do little basket, with shredded pastel tissue and little clues round house and garden. I also get small gift eg colouring book Easter craft etc.. Or dressing up dress...

But you can do as little or as much as you you want.

It's the build up, an ordinary 2£ egg will seem more special shoved on a step brought by mm Easter bunny.

There's a lovely post on another thread from someone describing her wondeful Easter as a child

Iceweasel · 28/03/2018 18:32

I must've been doing it wrong for 10 years. Easter egg hunt in the garden but no Easter bunny, when I really should have just left an egg on the front step and claimed a magic rabbit put it there Hmm.

Snowmagedon · 28/03/2018 18:33

It's not santa part 2.
Why do people go to such extremes.

I can imagine some dc get presents... We do small things, usually something creative to do over Easter really!

I don't know why people get soo worked up. Do it or don't

Snowmagedon · 28/03/2018 18:34

ice you have missed the point.

Easter egg hunt is wondeful whoever does it, op sounded like she didn't want to go to that much effort..

My point was, if she wanted too step is fine!

Chrys2017 · 28/03/2018 18:36

We do😳 bunny leaves a riddle and a list of things to find. Kids come down, decipher clues and go off hunting. I hide all the eggs the night before.

This is the best thing about Easter/Easter bunny. We still do this in my family 50 years on, albeit by email now. I wish we'd saved all the riddles from when we were growing up.

ForalltheSaints · 28/03/2018 18:37

It apparently originated from German Lutherans. So at least it is not a tacky tradition from the US.

However, no obligation to take part, and so the OP should not feel guilty if choosing to celebrate Easter in a different way, or not at all if not Christian.

PorkFlute · 28/03/2018 18:39

I give an egg and the bunny hides some little eggs. I think if your dd is disappointed at no bunny like her friends that would be reason enough for a little story to humour her?

Ansumpasty · 28/03/2018 18:43

We do the Easter Bunny loosely. My 6yo probably knows it’s me but there’s a part in him that what’s to believe! I will be hiding the eggs in th garden and doing an egg hunt.
Life and adulthood is full of negative shit. When kids are young, why not let them experience ‘magic’ and fun/happiness as much as possible?

Coloursthatweremyjoy · 28/03/2018 18:45

I had never heard of the Easter Bunny as a child, we were just given eggs. I don't feel hard done by, chocolate is chocolate.

With my own children we hide the eggs in the garden (house if it's raining). Then they hunt for them...they know it's us doing it though.

As long as there is chocolate OP i think you'll be fine.

Snowmagedon · 28/03/2018 18:49

ansum

I feel the same. There seems to be a strange pride in not partaking in fun stuff only on mm.
It's just light hearted fun.. Obviously far more pressure over fc at Xmas... But easter you can do what you want.
I never had eb as I child and when a friend did it way before I had dc with hers I thought it was fabulous.

Same with Halloween. 3, 3 occasions to have celebrations in UK along with bday.

Wow in 365 days. And people make a fuss over them. Life is fleeting and short.

peacheachpearplum · 28/03/2018 19:00

Santa's real, but I'm beginning to think my DS at the age of 9 is just humouring me in case he doesn't get any presents. Mine's 45 and I'm pretty sure he is humouring me but I play along anyway.

Drknittingfrog · 28/03/2018 19:13

I'm French so for us it's the bells that drop chocolate on their way back from Rome where they visited the Pope. Except I live in Switzerland where children make a nest for the bunny to bring chocolate and small presents... And hubby is English so all about the egg hunt . So there will be a nest with a couple of t-shirt and the kinder puppet I know my eldest wants and some chocolate eggs to be found around the house and possibly the garden because the glue on their little faces when they find chocolate is worth the effort 😍

bonbonours · 01/04/2018 09:47

We've never claimed the eggs come from the bunny, the kids get eggs from us and grandparents and we do an Easter egg hunt, it's just not hidden by a mythical bunny. We do Santa and tooth fairy but I never did the bunny thing growing up so never occurred to me to do it.

Lovemusic33 · 01/04/2018 11:13

I feel guilty for not providing my kids with loads of eggs this morning. Dd2 woke up excited due to all the hype at school and in the media (and after seeing eggs in the supermarket). I only bought them one each, this is all I got as a child plus eggs from family.

So many posts on Fb this morning, someone actually had a ‘Easter breakfast’ the table was decorated with various eater decorations, the kids were eating cereal out of Easter eggs and where dressed in bunny ears Shock. Photos of children with 10+ Easter eggs, baskets of gifts sweets. Am I missing something! Easter never used to be like this. We used to paint eggs and maybe eat hot cross buns. Never did the Easter bunny.