Instamums 3, 2.0

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Seeing as the original 3 got zapped.

What are they all laughing at in outfit photos? They look deranged. Or is it at us for being mugs buying the latest highstreet tat through affiliate links?

KitKat am I right in thinking you completely ignored and did not reference the concerns re: putting young children, and every aspect of their life, online for the world to see????!!!!!!

They're 'not hurting anyone'

Except possibly their children, by using them to make money. Kit Kat seems to have avoided the issue of using children.

@Mumofkids as do they all. Not one (of those who are continuing to do it) has addressed this in a proper manner.

Deflect, deflect, deflect.

Seriously KitKat, what a patronising post! There are many things I disagree with, but the main issue I hate is that this whole ‘we’re all learning, we all make mistakes’ thing is such an infantilising and feeble argument. These instamums are making money from what they do. Ergo, it’s their job. Ergo, they should actually read and follow ASA guidelines (not act as if it’s something that can take several years to get their poor little heads around, as you seem to suggest). In my job, if I don’t follow the current guidelines and legislation I could be disciplined, sacked or prosecuted. Granted, it’s a job I think is more important than insta-advertising, but my point still stands. I’m a grown woman in my late 30s like many of the instamums and I don’t believe I have to accept a poor performance from myself or from other women because women are inherently ‘strong’ or because of ‘sisterhood’.

Flyingbird I'll let kitkat choose if she wants to out herself, I may be totally wrong. The style of writing and language tipped me off a bit as to who it is. I don't know a lot of those mentioned either but I follow a couple and have seen or unfollowed some others.

Mrs Meldrum has just done a story about #AD, if people have missed it

I'm sorry, it was an aside. I didn't mean any offence about the DMs. I genuinely thought when the instas would say they had loads of dms about their paint colour, kids' jumpers etc. they were a sly way of avoiding #ad.

I would not dm a stranger. I'd google!

Well said @ScipioAfricanus

Ptwm hasn't sold out! Love her

Oh well, good on Mrs Meldrum's for clearing it up. But instead of 'I was sent...', I think she really needs to use #gifted or even better #ad.

The thread and its various discussion points have been well summarised by shesakeeper above. These can’t and shouldn’t all be conflated into one criticism and sometimes I think instamums do so not from a lack of understanding but because its easier to dismiss it all as ‘hating’ if you put it under one umbrella. Being compliant about advertising regulations is one issue, overshading and possibly breaching your child’s privacy is another, etc.

I also like the way that shesakeeper summarises the feeling about even tagged advertising being a problem for some people because of the commercial and consumerist element of that. That’s something far more subjective than the objective requirements to disclose sponsorship etc, which we should all still be able to discuss and have different opinions about without being told it is necessarily jealousy or naivety not to like it.

Booie she seems very down to earth. An awful lot of her kids are shown on her account though. I think she has mentioned getting consent off them before though.

She certainly does a lot of good work and should be applauded for what she does there.

I think kitkat is Rebecca Meldrum

fruit I can confirm I’ve never DMd anyone about paint colour or jumpers. 😂 And yes, in those circumstances I would Google too!

I have DMd people on IG when I’ve felt I’ve had something relevant to say to or as with the example I gave above, wanted to ask about the location of an event someone was organising.

I don't think Mrs Meldrum is friends with the other bloggers mentioned her is she? She lives too far away to be a proper part of the clique.

Pavlova yes she is. She’s friends with loads of them. She even did a collab with the Ingram she last week and meets the, at events down south.

*inghams

Iam still hating the reluctance to declare gifts as ads! I want to shout!

Yep!!! She's 'friends' with them. She's done stuff with them before

It could be then, I suppose. Seems a bit of a coincidence after her stories as well.

Why not just come out and say who you are, though? MOD's had a right slating on here and even she had the balls to come and face her critics.

Yes ‘gifted’ as a term really annoys me! It annoyed me when it was a twee term used on some of the craft/crunchy mother blogs I used to follow and it annoys me now it seems to be a euphemism for given for free.

Seriously Mrs Meldrum???!!!! That "clearing up" instastories was pathetic!

Of course that makes total sense, Festive. I was more surprised by the pp who said they dmed MoD about their pregnancy. But as I said, I didn't mean any offence so I'll shut up now.