Really need a hand hold. I know there’s not much I can do. I just need to tell someone as I currently feel like walking out of work. I need to know how to play the next 3 weeks!
There’s a bit of back story here.. will try not to be overlong but: I got headhunted for a new job, they then took ages to issue my formal offer/contract. In the meantime I had the chance of a different role at my current work would allow me flexi working (I have young dd so this would be attractive.) No formal offer though, had to apply through the normal channel (which I did.) The same day I applied, my new job offer came through from external company. I met with my would-be boss to apologise and explain that i had been offered flexi working and so could not turn that down, for family reasons. They then offered me flexi working as part of my offer (at the new place.) This was a mega surprise due to the industry which has a reputation for not being good for flexi working. With this and a large salary increase I didn’t see that there was any way I could turn down the new offer so I accepted it and resigned at my old work.
Since then things have been feeling very difficult. I sit by (and would consider a friend) the lady who i would have changed roles to work with if I had stayed at my old company. She was furious that I ultimately was going to leave the company for my new job offer instead of taking the offer with her. She has no dc and has a very comfortable lifestyle with high joint income, and my flexi working/money concerns don’t seem to register with her. I tried to explain to her over coffee why I had to take the new job and she stormed out on me. Since then (2 weeks) we haven’t spoken. She has been ringing her partner and Mum at the desk next to me to bitch about how awful I am, has forwarded them (work) emails I have sent her to laugh at with them over the phone. Just now she was sat next to me telling her Mum “I can’t wait for this to be over” I.e. me working at the company. I haven’t risen to any of this treatment and tried to keep a dignified silence but as of today it’s just too much and I’ve had to move to another area of the office. I feel really unsettled and anxious at work now and have 3 weeks left of my notice to work. I feel I cant tell Hr what’s going on with her as she works very closely with them. I feel I’ve both lost a friend and been actively made to feel shit and intimidated. I have to work my notice because otherwise I can’t afford to pay back some training as well as my rent next month until new job starts.
I don’t know whether to confront or ignore. Any constructive tips?
Thankyou