To think oh should help cover more bills while I’m struggling?

[Sophiewofiex]

Just looking for some advice as this is our first time living together. when we first decided to move in together I was earning more and agreed to cover all the bills whilst he pays rent and now I’m on sick pay in total I have £583 a month including dd’s benefits.
He earns 2250 a month and he pays rent he doesn’t have many outgoings only rent and car insurance no finance or anything.
I’m struggling to pay for internet, council tax, gas and electric and the food shop on my income.
We’re going on holiday on Sunday and I have all these bills to pay before we go which will leave me with next to nothing.

It seems like the ops money is family money but her ohs is mounting up in his account.
I don’t think the op wants her oh to pay for everything but obviously he needs to pay more now he’s earning more just as she did when she was earning more.
Also the savings he is mounting up while the op pays the bulk of the bills are in her ohs sole account.

Glad it’s sorted op but shame you had to spell it out.

Why is it a shame she had to communicate? I’m glad it’s sorted, but really, all you needed to do was talk, not all this hand wringing.

Longer term- how much is rent compared to bills, and if your sickness is pregnancy related (hyperemesis) then do your spending habits vary enormously? As in, have you been paying far more for bills than him for rent prior to this or did you spend all your salary and hence no savings whilst he is a saver?

I guess I’m asking how it came to this huge disparity.

To be honest,I think it's terrible he's not insisting on helping(even more now your broke,and he's swimming in it) I personally think the bills,should be halved,but when your so obviously struggling,he should pay more without having to be prompted. Regarding your holiday,I firmly believe,he should be like,I know your struggling financially at the moment,so I want you to know I'll cover everything on our trip,don't you worry,just relax and enjoy!

It’s a shame that the oh didn’t realise for himself that the op would be unhappy with a situation where she was paying the bulk of the outgoings on hardly any income while he stacked up savings in his account. As he knew that was happening. The ‘why didn’t you just say you wanted me to pay my fair share’ bullshit as if he didn’t know it wasn’t ok doesn’t wash tbh. He was being a tight arse and now he’s made the op feel like it was her fault!
Unless he’s got some kind of cognitive impairment he knew full well he was taking the piss!