Would this bother you?

[KatherineMayfair]

If your DP or DH/W etc had a tattoo of their ex's name on their body? My friend has recently started seeing someone who has just that, she likes him very much however this might be a deal breaker for her (she mentioned it and he has no plans to get rid of it). AIBU to think that she's right, it's not nice to see someone else's name on their S/O (unless they were going to remove it)? I don't see how that couldn't bother someone (children's names /relatives are not included in this, ex's exclusively).

Wouldn't bother me. Everyone has a past, why should they hide or remove it? They're the person they are because of their life experiences, they shouldn't need to appologise for that.

It would bother me too, I'd find it really off-putting.

recently started seeing is important here

if it was a few years in - then yeah i get it

Custard I consider it 'recent' but that's subjective; dated for three months and have been 'together' for three, so six months but only half 'together' iyswim.

Totally agree. It’s disrespectful, if he’s not willing to have it removed it says something about how committed he is to the relationship, not to think it’s upsetting in thoughtless.
She could always wait til he’s asleep then burn it off with her Marlboro Lite

Or your friend could just change her name!

i thnk thats pretty recent

Hilarious

Yes it'd put me off as it shows very poor judgment. Getting a partner's name tattooed on you? Stupid.

Maybe at some point down the line he'd want to cover it up. Removal is meant to be extremely painful. However some people have tattoos that tell their life story. This woman was part of his life. As long as she being made to doubt his loyalty then I don't really see the problem. It's just ink at the end of the day!

It's scream stupidity. I wouldn't like it.

Didn't hold Cheryl back!

Personally I dislike tattoos so I probably wouldn’t date this guy anyway. But apart from that I’d be ok with it. Everyone has a past.

On our honeymoon many people commented on how sweet it was that my name was tattooed on his arm. It wasn't my name. Was his exes. I found it funny. He got it tattooed over, he was so embarrassed

Getting a name tattooed on you seems pretty daft but other than that it wouldn't really bother me. My husband has ex-partners, as do i. We aren't with them now but i have no desire to erase them entirely from our pasts - we are who we are because we of all of our past.

The fact he even got someone else's name tattooed on his body would put me off, no matter who they were

Of course! Especially if you were at the stage of falling for them/ thinking long term .

Aside from that the general stupidity of doing it in the first place would be a turn-off.

My female friend was in the process of deciding what she wanted as a cover up when she got with her now DP. It took her a few years to decide. He wasn't bothered, i don't see why he would be, tbh.

I've known a few people who've been in the same situation.

I would hope that it would be a deal breaker if a b/gfriend of only three months was making these types of demands.

Hopefully he will get rid.

The inability to think through the implications of tattooing someone's name on your body would put me off, rather than the tattoo itself.

I wouldn't date such a person in the 1st place, tbh

I agree with Winston. Of course, if he was very young when he got it, that would make a difference. We all do stupid things when we're young.

I dislike tattoos as well but getting one of your partner's name shows that you're probably a bit of a moron! What other stupid decisions is this man going to make? Has he also swapped the family cow for a handful of 'magic' beans?
The only solution is that she falls pregnant with a girl and calls her this name!

As long as it wasn't on or about his face and he was suitably embarrassed at being such a twonk in his youth then I'd have no problem with it.

If he suggested getting a tattoo of my name I would run a mile.

Urgh

Birds I'm not a tattoo person, but I totally agree with your post