To think she should have been pissed off with herself rather than us?

[Tailfeather]

Just flew back from a lovely holiday with our baby.

We booked our flights 11 months ago and paid to pre-book the bassinet seats.

When we checked in online, the seat next to us was still free.

We were sat in our seats when the lady sitting next to us arrived. She looked at our baby, hissed 'oh for fuck's sake' and rolled her eyes. She tried to see if there was elsewhere to sit. There wasn't. So she returned, tutted and hurumphed a lot and sat next to me immediately turning her back to me after telling me that my baby had better not throw anything at her.

He was actually brilliant on the flight. Never cried once, slept for most of the journey and the worst thing he did to get was smile and wave at her. So he was less of a problem than a noisy older child or a chatty adult. I have spent flights next to snorers, smelly people, space invaders, people who talk too much, get too drunk - and they were all adults.

Now, I get that many people don't want to be near the baby on the aeroplane. I'm not offended by that. But if you are SO anti-children then surely she should have pre-booked her seat as far away from the bassinets as possible? She was obviously allocated this seat at the airport. So she should have been angry with herself rather than take it out on us. Or at least wait to see if he had been a pain before tutting and shooting us death stares. It was such an awkward journey!!

I hope karma bites the huffy lady on the bum and on her next flight she gets sat next to the man who sat next to a friend on the way back from Dubai a couple of weeks ago. Friend was seated, a man slumps in the seat next to him having obviously had a few drinks. Friend dozed off only to be woken by the man vomiting over himself and the aisle. Full flight so friend couldn’t be moved elsewhere and had the next couple of hours with the stench of vomit 🤢

She should have waited to see how he was but people are knobs, what can you say. Only she should feel awkward, not you. It's not normal to be such a dick to a baby. If she had such a problem she should have asked to be moved or swap with someone else. Personally, I love babies and would have been happy to sit next to you and so proud for you that he did so well on a plane!

Gimme a screaming baby over some pisshead who's been on the vodka since breakfast time because "I'M ON MY FUCKING HOLIDAY!!" (a direct quote from the charmer on my honeymoon flight who almost got us rerouted so he could be chucked off)

My sister and her husband dont have kids and would rather fly near babies for the same reason. As DSis says, the babies cant help making a racket sometimes but the bloody adults can!

And if the first thing someone said to me was my baby better not throw anything at her then I’d of chucked something at her myself. Wtf is wrong with some people?! How rude!

I’d include you in your last two sentences then.

@DrGreene

It can’t be helped. Your child has every right to travel by plane. People saying parents should give up air travel because they are parents . Maybe if you are the sort of person who has never had to leave their own country apart from the annual piss up in Benidorm. Many families have to fly to visit elderly parents / grandparents or for a load of other reasons. Most people understand this, unless they live under a rock.

The thing is, some people won’t like the fact they might have to sit next to a baby, for the reasons I’ve already stated. It doesn’t mean they hate you or your baby. It’s just natural that they won’t like the sound of crying and they’re worried that’s what they’ll be hearing if they are seated next to an infant. It’s not the end of the world. It’s just a flight. You aren’t moving in with them!

My advice would be to relax as much as possible, bring plenty of entertainment (cbeebies on iPad with child friendly headphones is what we used for our toddler, though she was a bit older than your dc). I also like the little note and sweets idea! I suggested it to one friend though who got all uppity and defensive and said “I’m allowed to take my baby on holiday”! Yeeeeeees, but it doesn’t hurt to recognise that the baby might disturb people.

Obviously, badly behaved adults who get drunk and vomit all over the plane are a lot worse than a crying baby imo, but they aren’t likely to write little notes with sweeties, (because they’re probably disgusting wankers who don’t care about anyone else on the plane).

She was rude. Perhaps she’d had a very bad day. You were very kind to her for not kicking off.

Kicking off for what? She didn’t actually do anything. If the OP has “kicked off” it would make her far far ruder than the woman.

And yes, I have flown with small children - I’ve been that family you spot in the waiting area and think “I do NOT want to be sitting next to them.” (On that occasion, the DSs behaved impeccably once on the plane. 6mth old DD not so much.)

Wow what a bitch! You handled it very very calmly, I just know that if someone said that to me and swore about my baby I would have flipped and told the witch she was lucky to even be near my baby and if she doesn’t shut up and find another seat il be throwing fists at her ! Hate hate hate when people get arsey about babies being babies I think they forget they were that age once !

I just know that if someone said that to me and swore about my baby I would have flipped and told the witch she was lucky to even be near my baby and if she doesn’t shut up and find another seat il be throwing fists at her !

Which would make you far, far worse than the woman in the OP. Rude and violent.

Ooh I do (as long as they're not mine). Much better than a whiney 6 year old who keeps kicking your seat.

Id have been grinning and waving back to the OP's dd. Cooing may have been involved. Then the OP could have cone on here and asked if SWBU to not like having some stranger gurn at her baby.

told the witch she was lucky to even be near my baby and if she doesn’t shut up and find another seat il be throwing fists at her !

are you wishing you would come up with this nonsense in real life, or are you genuinely that insane and immature in front of your own child no less?

You'd be throwng fists at her in an aeroplane would you Jazzy? That would sort things out quickly as you and your baby would be slung off.

We flew long distance last year and a baby cried solidly for about 3 hours. However that was far less annoying than the 50yo prick behind me kneeing my seat and pulling himself up using the back of my seat etc. I gave him the benefit of the doubt that maybe he was tall and struggling but nope when we stood to get bags off I was taller than him! (5'5")

I hate it when people assume dc will be little shits. I'm currently sitting on mn, drinking tea with my cat on my lap while 5 dc play in the other room ages 6-10.

This exact same thing happened to me. We were flying back to London from the States my dd was 20 months at the time so not a baby but a walking talking toddler. I was quite anxious about the flight anyway because she had been a bit of a nightmare on the way over. Woman got on took one look at me and one look at my dd and threw her eyes to heaven said loudly "FFS this is all I need" plonked herself down beside me and turned her back. I felt absolutely crap and really embarrassed. Thankfully my dd slept most of the flight and was fairly well behaved but I spent the flight a nervous wreck. I have had 2 more kids since this flight and grown a backbone now so really feel if you are that against sitting next to kids pay the extra and go 1st class or suck it up is my view

@Dulra your post just reminded me of the time we booked seats on a Canadian Affair flight but they messed up and put dh 2 rows behind rather than one (we had twins so couldn't have 2 babies on laps in same row due to oxygen masks). We assumed travelling with 2 20 month olds and a 4 yo would be hideous so just accepted it. We got to boarding and they took us to one side, tore up our tickets and apologised profusely before upgrading us to business class. I did feel very sorry for those who actually paid extra to then be stuck with us! Dc were actually pretty good and the extra space plus constant food was a real help!

there’s no point letting it worry you now op and you are completely right. Well done to your lo for being so good on the flight

She's vile. You have a lovely baby, don't spend anymore time thinking about that oxygen thief.