Dp not saying hello/goodbye as he comes in or goes out of the house.

[NickyNora]

Aibu to expect dp to say hello or good bye when he comes in or goes out?

I think he's really rude. He thinks I'm making a fuss about nothing.

Id hate that.

I hate it when any person enters a room and doesn't greet the people or person in the room .... screams out ... I have an ego issue and you should greet me...

Out to the garden, or out for the day?

I'd hate that too. Do you greet him?

It's rude,

It would drive me mad.

You'd probably be hard pushed to find anyone who wouldn't think this was at least a bit rude/weird, I think!

Mines the same. He can be away at work for weeks and just walk in. I don't say hi either though. We are in a bad rut 🙁

Out for the day.

He gone put tonight. I didn't hear him leave. He's gone out without saying goodbye.
He does it nearly every day when he comes in.

I always say I'm leaving home or call out hello when I'm coming in.

Arsenal he said I'm petty so i doubted myself.

I have a colleague that does this, it's so arrogant.

When I was a young teenager my very victorian stepfather had an absolute fucking meltdown about us not greeting him by name every morning - or even when we passed one another somewhere in the house. It became a bit of an in-joke but I am now conditioned to saying hello and goodbye when leaving and entering a room. DH finds it very amusing.

We always kiss hello/good bye, I'd find that very odd if do we get out without saying he's going and saying bye properly.

What if he got hit by a bus when out?

louise i did that too but realised our dc would think it normal & it's not. It's bad manners.

My dp used to do this and it was so rude. If he had something on his mind or was busy he would just blank me. Even when I was off work poorly on the sofa. We had some ding dongs over it as he couldn't see the issue but he finally now will day hello. He probably thinks I am being ridiculous but seriously how much effort does it take to say hello?

Do we get out? *If DP went out

If he got hit by a bus?

Not likely as he's a bus driver

No, it's rude.

It's also weird imo. I love greeting my DP when I get in as I'm pleased to see him, and he me. It's affectionate but also polite.... I say hello/goodbye to everyone in or around me.. How on earth is basic politeness and/or interest in your OH/friends /family petty?!

Yeah it’s rude and I would be very hurt by that behaviour. DH always shouts hello when he gets in from work, and kisses me goodbye in the mornings.

@Eliza9917 I think you & your dh sound lovely. Thats tbe way i would like it to be...

I'm not bothered about Hello unless I would be unaware of his presence, ie I was upstairs, then he would shout up so I know he's home.

Goodbyes are compulsory in our house even if we are fighting. I would hate for something bad to happen and to not have a goodbye and goodbye kiss.

The only time I don't say goodbye is when I leave for work in the morning, but I'm out of the hoose at 5.45. The only creature awake at that time is the damn mouse and he doesn't say goodbye, either.

Try saying hello/goodbye to him each time and see if he starts too

Goodbyes are compulsory in our house even if we are fighting. I would hate for something bad to happen and to not have a goodbye and goodbye kiss.

Same here, and in both our families. No ones come in/leaves without saying hello/goodbye.

dh greets me at the door every day and gives me a kiss before i leave for work

i think what is inportant is the tone of the conversation - calmy say that it matters to you and you know he love you so you would apreciate it if he would say hi/bye. whilst you realise this isn't important to him, tell him that you hope he recognises that it is important to you.

shouting nagging underhand sly comments etc wont hange things - conversational tone will - if anything

It's odd behaviour, not a good sign in a partner. You don't have to be all over each other, just basic politeness acknowledging the other person, it's not much to ask.

I always say hello & goodbye to hi. Eliza

I don't expect a kiss anymore! Barry