Dp not saying hello/goodbye as he comes in or goes out of the house.

[NickyNora]

Aibu to expect dp to say hello or good bye when he comes in or goes out?

I think he's really rude. He thinks I'm making a fuss about nothing.

Have done Custardo. He forgets after a few days.

We always say hello and goodbye. Kids do it too.

YANBU. It's erythromycin weird not to. It would drive me insane. Obviously is someone us asleep or in the bath or something you wouldn't disturb them to say hello but otherwise it's really weird not to go and say a quick hello or goodbye to all occupants.

Also weird not to acknowledge everyone in the room when you enter even if it is just with a touch or a smile. I only ever don't do this when I am trying really hard to be very rude.

Mine's the same, OP. I think he's rude.

I love greeting my DP when I get in as I'm pleased to see him, and he me. It's affectionate but also polite

^ This.

My husband always gives me a kiss when he leaves for work in the morning, even though I'm usually half asleep. When he comes home, he calls out "Hi honey, I'm home!". He's done that since we first lived together 19 years ago, and it's become an affectionate, jokey, tradition, even if he's only been out to get the shopping.
It's lovely.

I totally get why it upsets you OP. At the very least it seems rude, and like your partner doesn't care if you're even there or not.

@Motoko we've been together nearly 19 years. Lived together 17.

Yes it feels like hes indifferent about weather I'm home or not. Same with the dc.

Another reminder of what a rubbish relationships I'm in.

It's not just rude it's telling you he doesn't care about you, where ever he is going I can assure you he says hello when he gets there. He cares more about them and he is stating it by his actions.

It would have to be very very bad, very bad indeed, before my husband or I did this. As such, I'm sorry op, but I'd have to assume you have much bigger problems than this.

Another reminder of what a rubbish relationships I'm in

So why are you still there?

@Bluntness 100 in all honesty I kept thinking I was being OTT. There's no dv or abuse. He doesn't even shout!

Yes, he’s rude and it’s very disrespectful. Worse that he said you’re petty for being bothered by it.

Nicknora... DV isn't always a violent slap across a room or the shouting and throwing things around... It's also the million little emotional or mental abuses that will grind you down over a longer period of time and you're not even sure they are happening.

They are very valid reasons to leave a relationship. Don't wait for the "big issue" as it may not come. Not hitting you doesn't make him a good guy.

You don't have to justify leaving to anyone else anyway - it's your choice.

My ex was an ignorant twat like yours OP. I left him.

It sounds like he's indifferent towards you

Maybe sit and have a good long think about what you see the future being and whether it's for you?

Mine was like this. I think it may have been the norm in his house.anyway he is trained to do it now and seems to do it,
Sometimes it’s a carry on from their family.

Well OP, you know now that you're not being OTT. As a pp said, you don't have to have a big reason to end the relationship, the simple fact that you're unhappy is enough reason.

Time to think about what will make you happy and start working towards it. What things do you do for him? Maybe stop doing them. Stop facilitating his life, he'll just have to get used to doing things for himself, because he'll have to if you leave him, and at the moment, he's taking you for granted.

4 dc. 2,with SN. No money. No support. U.C mean I can't leave...