AIBU to be fed the fuck up with people commenting on pregnant belly

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Seriously. All. The. Fucking. Time. Work colleagues, friends, family, strangers.
“When are you due?”
“8 weeks”
“OMG you’re massive/no way/ doesn’t look like it/you look ready to drop now etc etc”

Also had many people just say to me how massive I am as the first thing they say when they see me. No hello.

When did this become ok? Why are pregnant women meant to smile and laugh indulgently and say “I know”. Why does it not occur to people that I’m aware I have a large belly as there is a fucking human growing inside. And why can it not occur to people that I might not like having a giant, uncomfortable belly, am worried about how big it’s actually going to get and the damage it will wreak on me, and that they should keep their fucking opinions to themselves. Rude cunts. Argghhhhhhh.

Ah, third trimester rage - best of luck

Ha! I had the opposite. Small bump, looked about 6 months pregnant when I was a few days off my due date.

Everyone liked to tell me I had my dates wrong.

Was at a party on my due date and had people shaking their heads and telling he I still had 2/3 months to go.

I know pregnancy brain is a thing but I could definitely still count to 9.

Fuckwits.

I had the opposite with my first.

Everyone falling over themselves to tell me how small my bump was and how I was going to have a tiny baby. Worried an already paranoid mum.

With my second everyone loved to tell me how massive I was. Both my babies were big.

People don't mean any harm they just can't think of anything else to say.

I know they don’t mean any harm. But if they don’t know what to say, why say anything and risk upsetting someone? Just say nothing!

I had a mix of - you are too small/you are massive!
My favourite comebacks were 'ooh commenting on the size of a hormonal pregnant me, risky move!' Said with a smile and a giggle. Shut them up.
Or;
'Shut the fuck up or I will eat you said with a scowl.
Both worked.

And yes, third trimester rage is here to stay I think!

I had a 55” waist when pregnant with twins. People literally stopped in their tracks to stare. Some folk are just rude.

I don't think you can stop other people from saying what they want. You can try not getting so upset about it. You know they mean you no harm so why do you allow yourself to get harmed?

When did this become ok?

It's always been ok, and perfectly normal to make small talk about startling obvious things people can see you have going on in their lives.

I fortunately don't get too many stupid comments about my belly size but I do loathe sometimes how people think it's suddenly okay to talk about things they never would if I wasn't pregnant.

I got a bit ragey the other day because of 2 co-workers laughing about me being at the point of pregnancy of needing to go to the bathroom every 5 minutes.

• The frequency has been up and down throughout pregnancy.

• The baby's head is currently laying on my bladder causing painful pressure and stabbing feelings.

• It's not okay to discuss my urination just because I'm pregnant.

• It somehow pissed me off even more that the two discussing it have never been pregnant.

No, it's rude. Asking how the woman is feeling is a perfect way to make small talk. People could also respond to 'I'm 33 weeks' by saying 'well you look fantastic'. The problem with the comments is they are often said with a sense of revelry. It's rude and unnecessary.

I'm 38 weeks so at the stage where people almost recoil as if I may give birth at any moment when I tell them how far along I am. It's just small talk though, however irritating it may be.

When i was pregnant a co-worker said good morning fatty to me as I passed him in the office, i turned around and told him if he called me that again I would punch him. I don't think he knew if I was serious or not

The correct response to “Wow you’re huge!” Is “Thanks! So are you! “

I'm over 40 weeks now and EVERYONE comments when I leave the house. Although I get a mixture of comments about how big and how small I am. Also lots of comments about having my hands full soon. I don't mind. Just people making small talk!

I'm only 5'2" with an extremely short middle section (all legs 😂)so when I'm pregnant I look massive- well the baby has to go somewhere!!
I used to get upset at people going on about the size of my bump, specially because once it was made worse by health problems and severe polyhydramnios, and another time I was still carrying my daughter who had died of Edwards Syndrome and I had just been told and given the pill to bring on labour two days later. The sight of someone ooohing and aaahing at my massive bump right that moment was... I don't know, no words. They were not to know, of course, but because you can't know what's in there, people should really not comment at all. 😢

There's a male colleague at work who thinks it's OK to touch my 23 week bump without asking. Now THAT pisses me off!

I got very big very early on with my second, and by the third trimester I was ready to punch anyone that told me how big I was. One colleague in particular went on and on about it every day and I was longing to snap "well at least in a few weeks I won't be fat but can't say the same about you". Of course I didn't (as it seems it's ok to upset the pregnant lady but not to be rude to someone permanently on the larger side), but it gave me great pleasure to think it! The advantage was that people were giving up their seats for me without asking from about 12 weeks... I genuinely was massive!

Ive had this the WHOLE way through,

‘Are you sure it’s not twins’
‘OMG you’re huge’
Two aunties calling me fatty constantly, one even singing hey fatty bom bom at me during my baby shower as I walked past. The ironic thing is I’m not even that big! People are idiots, I think they just feel like it’s something you say to pregnant people, even if they don’t really think it.

When I was 41 weeks I was told by a certain person how big I was. That day I had a midwife appt who measured and said I had lost 7cm and to go into hospital ASAP. I was induced later that day.

Don’t listen to anyone who isn’t medical. It’s just something to say.

I’m sure your bump is perfect for you

Are you allowed to wear t-shirts with witty slogans on at work? I wore a "Bollocks to the poll tax" t-shirt when I was pregnant with DS1.

It's so rude! I've been getting the same comments. The person scanning my shopping in Tesco asked when baby was due, and when I said 7 weeks left she said 'wow you're massive aren't you?' Err....

My mother drives me mad too, I see her about once a week. Without fail, every time, she says 'oh you've grown, you're bigger than last week'. Well yes mother that's how pregnancy works, you keep getting bigger until you give birth. She also keeps asking me how much weight I've put on, and I keep saying I don't know I don't weigh myself, so I don't have to put up with her comments on that too. Doesn't stop her asking every bloody week.

I really don't understand this 'Oh they mean no harm' 'Its just small talk' thing. Why do people have to make comments on the size of peoples bodies? If they wouldn't say 'Wow! Your nose is humungous!' why is it OK to say ' Wow your belly is enormous' to a pregnant woman? How hard is it to think of something nondescript to say like 'not long now' or 'you look great' or just 'good luck with it' or something not offensive?

I also have 8 weeks to go, and yday I got wow big baby!! I said nope he's measuring small they said maybe 7lb, no way he's going to be huge! Bla bla!!

Ok I'll listen to you, u obv no so much about pregnancy! Fu@k off!

Arrghh I hate people commenting on bump. If you are friend or family you can say what you like but co workers and random strangers- no chance. Last weeks answer to a stream of co works commenting on how big I am was 'I'm sure you know Its rude to comment on other people's appearance- I don't tell you what I think you look like'. That shut them up. I really find it bloody rude! But then they are generally rude, one kept asking me'how it felt not to be able to get pg', this is an ivf baby. Another keeps asking me personal questions about my values and I'll bring baby up. I sit in the same office as these people, I see no reason they should think they can say whatever they like!