Feel so old

[Farmerswife36]

Is 36 old . I have 4 kids and had them all from age 18 - 32 and suddenly it's hit me . Now I have my youngest starting school in September , that I'm old ! I feel so old and have never thought about it before but somehow 36 feels so old ?? When did you suddenly realise that you were no longer a spring chicken ??

on the basis that today is the youngest you will be for the rest of your life yabu

You are always old when you compared yourself to how you were before. I felt old at 40 when I realised I would never have more children. It wasn't a pleasant phase. What I did is took on competitive sport (I am not a naturally sporty person!) and when I managed to run my first half marathon at 43, I felt fantastic knowing I accomplished something many younger women would only dream of being able to do.

4 years later, perimenopause has hit me, I have no energy at all, experience all bunch of unpleasant symptoms and boy do I feel old again, but I'm listening to my mum who says that once it's finally over, I'll feel like a rejuvenated woman, so I tell myself I might as well get over with it now and can't wait to feel young again :)

I am 33 in a couple of weeks. Since dd2 was born (11 months now) I have found loads more white hairs. Which I am fine with as am dark blonde and they make me look blonder again. I have also noticed recently coarse white hairs in my eyebrows.

I know Im not old, I know 36 is not old, but you are right about an awareness of time passing. I am very aware of how 'old' I must seem to the teenagers I share a bus with in the morning.

I'm 37 and feel incredibly young and full of energy. However I don't have kids.
I still feel like I want to go out clubbing, unfortunately none of my friends are into that

You are not old op. You are young, you hopefully have many years to look forward to, embrace that.
I am in my sixties. I don't feel old in my head, and as long as I don't wear my glasses when I look in the mirror, I look okay to me (wonderful soft focus effect). The difference is, when you are in your 30's, you can look ahead and wonder about what you will be doing in 30 years time. I no longer have that luxury, as I am sure I will be dead by 2048. That's a bit sobering, but hey ho. Enjoy your life, make the most of it; we all get old eventually.

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Old at 36?!

No no no.

You’re feeling old because (unless you’re planning more children) one part of your life is over - your children are starting school and growing up. No way does it mean you are old!

I am 37. I have a teenager and a 6 year old with autism and learning disabilities. This year I started going to the gym and doing dance fitness and now I am fitter and healthier and slimmer than I’ve ever been. I am having a “second wind” - a second chunk of my life, and I am loving it. I am even considering retraining to become a fitness instructor- something I would have laughed at a few years ago.

I really believe that the key to keeping “young” as you age is fitness, if you are able to do something of course, not everyone is I understand that but even the smallest changes can reverse the feelings and signs of ageing.

Think of all the famous people who are 36/37. No way would anyone call any of them old. You’re not even middle aged yet!

57 here and I don’t feel old, not really. Perhaps I would if I had children and grandchildren.

Op you are young.

I dont feel old at 47, what frustrates me is that i am too old for a relationship, too old to easily find work (took me AGES) and now im in a job there's plenty of ageism.

But it is what it is. A girl i was friendly with as a child died at 45 and i think i got it then. It's ageing or .. worse.

What im trying to do by saving as much as possible now is to create a life that doesnt need young people's blessing/favour/approval. That will feel more like freedom to me.

I had botox years ago but it made the inner corners of my upper eyelid droop i thought. So never agai.

I'm 53, and at 36 I had my child. I don't think you are unusual in feeling old as you approach midlife. This is the ideal time to make an overhaul of your life - get fit (to prevent achey joints), start thinking about what hobbies and life goals you want to work towards, get out in nature - do stuff you want to do, that makes you feel alive - that's what feeling young is about - embracing the now and working towards the highest good of yourself and ultimately those around you. Feeling young is nothing to do with your outside looks, and botox can be addictive in that way - looking for an external answer to an internal problem. Youth is a state of mind - I've known 92 year olds who had more life-force flowing through them than people a third of their age.

I totally revamped my life beginning in 2013. I now feel younger than I did at 14, and am loving my life more than ever. I'm not special, you can definitely do it xxx

Of course you're not old OP!!!!! I'm older than you and was hoping I'm still classed as young!

You have lived a lot of life, with all your DCs growing up and the little one starting school, but that doesn't make you old!

I know loads of 30 somethings at the start of life! Single, still partying, and some just starting to settle down and think about starting a family (and they r older than you).

30s is young!!! You just started your adult life young, so now feel old! But your not!!!

I'm 43 and feel 23. Middle age is ten years off. These days old age starts at at least 70 if not 75.

I have just been made redundant at 55 with 30+ years at the same company, never worked anywhere else. It is another 12 years before I reach retirement age. Believe me starting to look for a new job is making me feel so old, and I don't even want to talk about the profile picture on LinkedIn.

I know I am bloody good at my job and they would be lucky to get me, but how am I ever going to get a foot in the door?

It's all about attitude and mindset OP. If you think you are old, you will act and feel old...and so you may as well actually be old! (Even though you are actually not as you're still in your 30s)

What do you think of people in their 40s 50s? 60s? Do you consign them to some imaginary scrap heap as being past it?

I am nearly twenty years older than you, but I just don't care! I certainly don't feel old or even wish I was as young as 36. Im far too busy enjoying my life. I'm alive! I'm happy to be alive! I appreciate that my body works, my children love me, and so does my husband and my friends. Appreciation of all you have is the key to happiness, worrying about details like your laughter or frown lines or weight all the time makes for a life of dissatisfaction.

Perhaps you are tired and it's making you feel negative. Or maybe you are bored? I hope this feeling passes soon as you could instead of dwelling in this imagined problem be out actually enjoying yourself! 💃💐