AIBU to think that this is one of the worst things you can do as a midwife?

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I actually cannot believe what I have just read.

A midwife was involved with the pregnancy and helped to deliver the baby of the woman while she was having an affair with her partner...

I honestly can not get over it.

www.liverpoolecho.co.uk/news/liverpool-news/midwife-held-newborn-baby-said-14447945

Worse of her partner IMO.

Poor woman.

That’s awful. I’d feel sick.

Aye the partner's a bastard. But having the woman put the painkiller up your arse then finding out she's messed about with your partner!? We're so vulnerable during and after birth. I'd be devastated.
She should have declared a conflict of interest.

Extremely unprofessional to not step away and even worse is that she said something to her patient. How cruel. I hope this woman is removed from midwifery and nursing.

wow! just why would you do that?

Did the MW know she'd slept with the partner? He was missing appointments to avoid her... she handled it badly when it was revealed but it reads like she wasn't aware of who the father was until after the birth.

It sounds like a holiday fling.

The father is the scumbag in this, he's the one who cheated and then lied & hid like a slimey little coward.

Absolutely vile it doesn’t sound like it wasn’t an affair and more of a holiday fling but the midwife telling a woman post labour all about it is pretty disgusting , she failed in her duty of care and had no business going near this woman in the first place .

Tbh the partner was the one who cheated on her. I assume the midwife didn’t realise who he was until they arrived at the hospital. It’s not as if she seeked this woman out.

I feel for everyone concerned - except the father of course - who has single handedley wrecked two womens lives, and the promising career of one of them. But I really dont think the MW should be splattered all over the media. Why do we not get pictures of this adonis ah yes because to ID him woudl be to ID the exparteber and child, so the MW is scapegoated.

Sounds as if she’s been fired for gross misconduct and is facing the NMC for fitness to practice so she is being punished. The DH doesn’t seem to be quite so much the focus of the mother’s anger.

Grubby story and much as I feel for the mother, I’m not sure that ‘telling everyone in the hope nobody else goes through this’ really washes with me. She wanted to name and shame which is fine in the circumstances.

It’s possible that they were no over availed mw changed at the time. I also think the MW has been scapegoated and the man has been kept anonymous.

I did tell my husband last night that I love my new hoover more than him though.

Which is true.

Strikes me the midwife had no idea that Mr Holiday Romance was this woman's partner. And she has been hung out to dry by the media.

Interesting that 2 members of staff have been disciplined, makes me think that something else has happened.

DefinatelyNotAPooTroll she knew who her patient was. Part of the complaint and disciplinary proceedings against her is that she had months to declare that she shouldn't be involved in the Wife's care.

To tell a Woman that you've slept with her Husband within hours of having a C-Section. Then to phone her to tell her the details days after discharge (and obtaining her number from her medical notes) means that you shouldn't work with vulnerable patients ever again.

Her conduct should end her MW Career.

Well it does say the midwife missed multiple opportunities iTunes to come clean about a conflict of interest but she chose not to. The couple have split up and the coward of a father missed the appointments and the baby’s birth to hide his secret what a spineless twat

mornings the other person didn't whistleblow on the inappropriate use of data.

She knew who the Woman was and wanted access to her.

Awful. Unbelievable that a woman in the midwifery profession should so lose sight of her ethics as to reveal this to a women whose birth she's just attended. She should be struck off.
I hope the mum and baby are being well supported and that the mum recovers.
Husband obviously a scumbag not even worth mentioning.

Oh, blimey. Bunny boiler midwife then.

I’m a nurse and if I cornered a vulnerable patient post surgery and told them things about me shagging her husband I should be disciplined , my ex’s partner was admitted to my HDU ward and I had to declare a conflict of interest imagine waking up from surgery and feeling like shit and being faced with someone who your partner has been with .

The MW should never be near a patient again. It's not an accidental conflict of interest but a full-blown-stalking situation alongside gross misconduct. The MW should be shamed to her bloody core to do that to another woman.

Of course the DP is a prick. Of course he needs to be condemned. But a MW knows - and hopefully understands - the fragility of a woman who has just given birth. You'd think she'd have more consideration and compassion than to shit on the doorstep of an already vulnerable woman. What did she gain, other than the notoriety of being a weapons grade twat?

It’s sounds like her anger is with the midwife as she is the one who spoiled the happy time of her daughters birth for her not that she slept with her husband , so terribly traumatic .

The MW showed extremely poor judgment in not declaring a conflict of interest when she realised she had a personal connection to the woman through her partner.

For that alone she ought to be struck off.

She's worse in my eyes. Absolutely he's a scumbag that shud have his willy chopped off but she is way worse.

From what I heard from someone who knows this lady persnonally, the midwife knew that this lady was the partner of a man she was sleeping with. She actively tried to make sure she was looking after her, including swapping with another midwife who was original,y meant to be looking after her. That’s why two of them are being disciplined. Obviously, this is hearsay from a work colleague of mine.

If that's true she's even worse than him. What a bitch. Just why?!