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To be concerned my daughter still sleeps with her ‘blankie’ aged 17!

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Applebojangles · 22/03/2018 00:58

My dd (17) still sleeps with her blanket and literally cannot be without it at night, she has had it since she was born but just won’t give it up. She is mature for her age apart from this. When I looked in on her just now she had it over her face just like she was 4 years old again, she used to have a thing about it keeping her safe while she was asleep. She will hopefully be off to uni in September and I’m very worried about this, she can’t exactly take it with her can she? So is this weird or am I just overreacting?

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Bluesmartiesarebest · 22/03/2018 10:43

My DD and SIL both took their blankies on their honeymoon! They both work in respected, professional jobs.

Op, of course your DD can take her comforter with her to uni. It may be best to keep it in her room rather than take it with to lectures or big nights out during freshers week

Miserablemouse · 22/03/2018 10:45

27 year old married woman with a balding cuddly toy that still sleeps in my bed every night. I can sleep without him it of course but I just choose not to most of the time. Always worried I was being a bit weird so the amount of people on this thread who still have theirs is making me feel much better!

CollyWombles · 22/03/2018 10:45

I adored my teddy as a kid. I had a terrible childhood (not suggesting your DD did!) and got him when I was 7. I adored him and he kept me safe at night. I did throw him in the bin when I was sixteen as I was embarrassed about him by then but changed my mind in the morning. Bin men had already been. Still a big regret.

My son is autistic and obsessed with his ladybug teddies. I think he will have them as an adult.

I have another teddy now and even in my sleep I keep a hold of him!

BigusBumus · 22/03/2018 10:59

I still sleep with Bankie, a dirty, stuffingless rabbit thing. I hold it in my hand all night. If I wake up and its not there I look for it till I find it. I am 46.

BertrandRussell · 22/03/2018 11:00

My dd took her bear to university!

bigKiteFlying · 22/03/2018 11:15

My DH has a small pile of childhood toys - ones the DC haven't been allowed play with. He doesn't sleep with them but they did go to university with them.

I think my mother must have worried about me though as all my toys were given to my younger sister in summer between end of primary and secondary. She didn’t do that to my brother or sister.

So I have nothing from my childhood – even the books were put away – though one or two of those have made it to my children.

It’s funny around that time a lot of family stuff stopped as well – playing board games when we visited DGP and going for walks we were expected to sit quietly while the adults talked, we stopped doing anything for Halloween like pumpkin carving or bonfire night – birthday no parties and much smaller events and Christmas got scaled down.

My DS was fair bit younger so missed out on a lot of that. I like the fact our children are still very insistent that we do the family events still even though I’d started to expect eldest at least to be starting to outgrow them.

youvegottobekidding · 22/03/2018 11:24

I had a blankie when I was little, to snuggle with. I still remember it, it was a knitted square, 9 different colours, couldn't go to bed without it. I lost it as I got older, but substituted it for something else, a jumper, whatever. At nearly 45, it's been a scarf for the last several years! Still can't settle unless I've got it!!

FoxTeaParty · 22/03/2018 11:31

Yabu.....because I'm almost 30 and still suck my thumb and have to have my soft pillow case or I can't sleep. If someone tried to take my pillow case off me, I couldn't be held responsible for my actions 🙃

starkid · 22/03/2018 11:37

I'm married with own home and still have my teddy from birth in bed at night, it's not ever going anywhere and definitely not being passed to any of my kids haha, I think it's more common than we think. My husband finds it amusing.

Roussette · 22/03/2018 11:39

This is why I hate child comforters with a passion and no child of mine will ever have one at all

How mean! I can't imagine depriving my kids of something that might bring them comfort, perhaps a child is frightened of the dark, has bad nightmares, worries... whatever... and having some sort of comfort in bed is quite natural.

My DD loves her teddy, she's in her twenties. However, it's not some peculiar big thing in her life, she doesn't take it on holiday, it's just a reminder of her childhood that she likes, what's wrong with that?

JuJu2017 · 22/03/2018 11:43

I still have my childhood blanket, and if I’m poorly or just having a bad day or can’t get cosy in bed, I love getting it out and having a cuddle (I’m 25!). I even took it into hospital when I had my children and needed some comfort during induction. My kids also love mummy’s blanket and ask for it when they’re ill, too, it’s become a tradition from my childhood which I find quite sweet. Nothing wrong with it (mind, my dh does take the mick a bit when he wakes up and sees I’ve brought it into bed again!). Your daughter will be fine, there’s nothing wrong with having some comfort, especially when she’s moving away.

MorganKitten · 22/03/2018 11:59

I have a blanket that I bought in Vegas, its been on every trip since - I worked at American camps a lot so it was handy, its good on flights and as its been everywhere has memories for me. its at the end of my bed right now. (I'm 31)

toomuchtooold · 22/03/2018 12:40

This is going to be my DD2. I think Binky is about 40 percent dried spot at this point, but it's a fight to ever get him washed and he's quite fragile. I actually bought three of them when she was a baby but she's singled out on as The Binky and the other two are but pale imitations. On top of that, she's constantly accompanied in the daytime by my old Buggy Bear. He's in like every picture of her I've taken for the last 2 years. I kind of imagine him coming back to the house each evening and winding up the rest of the soft toys with his insufferable bragging about all the stuff he gets to go with. I also slightly imagine that he contains the spirit of my dad, who died before the kids were born. I think the apple didn't fall far from the tree - we both get extremely attached to these little scraps of fluff!

toomuchtooold · 22/03/2018 12:40

Dried spit. Just had to make that clear!

windchimesabotage · 22/03/2018 12:44

yabu
It really doesnt matter. No one at uni will make fun of her about this why on earth would they? Is she going to tell them all about it? How would they even know? Many girls sleep with cuddly toys in their beds etc many grown women do. Its not personally to my taste but lots of grown women like things like that dont they? I dont think it would be considered at all unusual. Just let her get on with it.

Aeroflotgirl · 22/03/2018 12:45

Well my friend who is very intelligent woman in her thirties, and works as a Journalist, Politics degree, still sleeps with her childhood teddy.

deadringer · 22/03/2018 13:35

My dd (the one who still has her blankly at 27) didn't have it when she was a baby, so it wasn't a comfort thing as such, we never took it on holidays or anything. Her nana bought it when she was 3 or 4 and she just loved it. I think it's just a nostalgia thing now that she's grown up. None of my kids had comfort toys or blankies as babies, I wouldn't have minded if they did though.

Mishappening · 22/03/2018 13:44

I am not sure why this is a source of worry to you. What worries you about it?

My SIL sucks his thumb!

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