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AIBU?

To be concerned my daughter still sleeps with her ‘blankie’ aged 17!

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Applebojangles · 22/03/2018 00:58

My dd (17) still sleeps with her blanket and literally cannot be without it at night, she has had it since she was born but just won’t give it up. She is mature for her age apart from this. When I looked in on her just now she had it over her face just like she was 4 years old again, she used to have a thing about it keeping her safe while she was asleep. She will hopefully be off to uni in September and I’m very worried about this, she can’t exactly take it with her can she? So is this weird or am I just overreacting?

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Ihatemyclients · 22/03/2018 06:09

I took my childhood teddy to uni with me and I've managed to graduate and lead a normal adult life since then don't fret about it, lots of her uni peers will do exactly the same thing and it's a harmless habit IMO.

nooka · 22/03/2018 06:17

My dd will be taking her stuffed animal and a whole heap of blankets and pillows with her to university next year. I'd be surprised if the majority of her peers didn't do the same. Both dh and I kept our bears for long enough to give them to dd, although we didn't take them to university. I don't think that made us any more grown up than any of our friends :) Really it's nothing to worry about, plus taking a comforter to university is really very sensible as it can be a very stressful environment even after the initial home sickness has worn off.

ilikebread · 22/03/2018 06:24

My niece is the same age and still has hers. I’d leave her to it.

Chienrouge · 22/03/2018 06:28

Still sleep with mine in my 30’s! And I took it to uni with me.

BanyanTree · 22/03/2018 06:29

No. I am 48 and I have a teddy that I have had since birth that I still sleep with.

cloudchasing · 22/03/2018 06:31

Aaah leave her. I'm 47 and I still suck my thumb sometimes... Only my dp knows that though, and he's sworn to secrecy.

Sammysees · 22/03/2018 06:31

My 18 yo ds still takes his blankie to bed every night too. It used to be a lovely fluffy mint green but is now grey and tattered. I was worrying about the same thing as like yr dd he is off to uni later this year. But I’m sure he won’t let anyone see it!

50ShadesOfEarlGrey · 22/03/2018 06:32

Maybe depends on size of blankie, if it trails around the floor after her, tripping up her and all that come within three feet, including the dog, then I would start cutting off a cm all round each week, just until it’s small hand towel size. She will never notice! 😉

Oogle · 22/03/2018 06:35

I still sleep with my blankie. My DH hates the blankie but he accepts I’m never going to give it up. I’m in my 30s.

blueskyinmarch · 22/03/2018 06:38

My DD is 25 and she took blankie and fluffy to uni and they are now on her bed in her smart London home.

Your DD won't be the only young person who takes a comfort item from home to uni with them.

MysweetAudrina · 22/03/2018 06:46

43 year old thumb sucker here. No plans on giving it anytime soon.

ToastyFingers · 22/03/2018 06:50

I've (hopefully) attached a picture of my owly.

He mostly hangs out on my shelf now, but I do still take him to bed if I need to.

To be concerned my daughter still sleeps with her ‘blankie’ aged 17!

honeylulu · 22/03/2018 06:50

Pah! I'm nearly 44 and still go to bed with my childhood blanket (now in several bits). I like to snuffle it.
Husband has never minded!

billybagpuss · 22/03/2018 06:53

Yes don't worry about it at all, I was the having the same conversation with DD last night she is 19 and has been concerned about hers for a while. She is studying child development and researching moving that into psychology. She was reading up on it and 20% more young adults today still use their childhood comforter. Mainly due to the increased stresses that young people are suffering from these days.

So far better she copes with the stress by something old and familiar than self harm and drugs.

YoucancallmeVal · 22/03/2018 06:58

YABVU I am in my 40s and my blanket is still going strong. It has been to uni and is not scarred by the experience.

ditavonteesed · 22/03/2018 06:58

I'm 43, professional mother of 2 and I am sat her with my 'snuffles' as we speak.

Whisky2014 · 22/03/2018 07:00

I had my teddy in bed with me until I got a boyfriend and would hide it whenever he came to stay. Gradually reduced the days I had teddy in bed and now she's in a cupboard.

ClaryFray · 22/03/2018 07:01

YABU

I still have blankets and bears and the sleep with me every night and I'm nearly 30. Life is full of loads of people, why must we all fit in the same box.

She'll find ways of hiding it if she needs too. Let the girl be who she is.

S0ph1a · 22/03/2018 07:02

You are over reacting. My DD is already at uni and all her flatmates have teddies .

When they go to classes the others babysit them. They clubbed together and bought a flat dog and basket that they all share. He has a lead and clothes too.

For the avoidance of doubt I mean a normallly shaped soft toy that is jointly owned by them all.

I like the fact that they have embraced their weirdness and don’t care what’s anyone else thinks.

HadronCollider · 22/03/2018 07:03

I'm going against the trend and saying yanbu although you've left it a bit late. I have friend who dated a nice man but couldn't deal with his thumb sucking - he was 37! She found it very unattractive. And what occurs if some freak accident happens to said comforter? I was severely teased at 12 for still sucking my thumb (although this was decades ago) so perhaps times have moved on and as its a blanket people may not notice, or judge. Does she bring to sleepovers as well?

himynameiss · 22/03/2018 07:06

Oh that will be flung out in the trash as soon as she gets a boyfriend xx

BellMcEnd · 22/03/2018 07:14

I’m nearly 40 with a DH, 3 DCs, a highly skilled professional job and my blanket that I had as a baby carefully tucked under my pillow. I love her. DH is a bit bemused but I’m ok with that!

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YoohooDorothy · 22/03/2018 07:14

Yabu, i have my teddy still. He's only for home now but i don't think i'll change.

My parents did take him away when i was about 8 i think but then Toy Story came out and the idea of him being like Woody and thinking that I had forgotten about him absolutely broke my heart and i kidnapped him back from my parents' room

StillMedusa · 22/03/2018 07:19

I had to kidnap my daughter's 'Raggy' when she came home in the holidays from Uni to wash it (it stank!) and sew it up again. She's a respectable doctor now and Raggy still sleeps with her every night :)

StarsAndWater · 22/03/2018 07:21

I'm in my 40s and still have my special teddy. He mostly lives on a shelf now as he's a little fragile but if I've had a particularly hard day, I'll get him off the shelf and sleep with him. Amazing how quickly the stress drains away.

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