Is this an acceptable thing to say?

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I don't know if I'm overreacting. I was waiting for my driving instructor. It was evening, at around 6. He came and when I got in the car he said "it is dangerous waiting on street corners. Getting into a car with a strange man. The neighbourhood will be talking about you." I'm not sure how I feel about this. It was probably a joke, but it made me feel uncomfortable. What do you reckon?

He was being light hearted

Is this a duplicate thread? Are the replies on your existing one not enough?

Um. It would make me feel uncomfortable but perhaps he's one of these idiots who says a dumb thing when he's awkward.

Please let that be it!

I would have laughed but different people have different tolerances so you're not being unreasonable to be offended because only you can know what offends you.

Ohh weirddd!
Possibly one of those awkward things, it might have just slipped out. What's he like otherwise?

Why two threads about this?

Yes just a totally inappropriate light hearted joke about women on street corners, misogyny, prostitution and rape...

Ha. Ha. Ha.

What a professional little joker you have there, teaching the little ladies how to drive...

Because no one was replying to my other thread and I wanted more opinions.

That's not too bad. My first driving instructor informed me to pull into a quiet dead end and take all my clothes off.

Another time he rolled up his jeans and placed his scrawny hairy leg next to the gear stick "as a joke" .

I was 17.

He was about 65. I told him to fuck off eventually and reported him. Creepy old bastard.

I think this is gaging your reaction, my first driving instructor did simiilar to me many moons ago , he also started telling me about his loveless marriage , I didnt stay with him Long he made me feel uncomfortable but I can guarantee if I'd of offered it to him he would of took it

Oh sorry, I hid the thread. I only saw one reply.

Why would you hide it without reading the replies then start a new one??

I posted it multiple times by mistake because the screen didn't load, so I hid one and kept on active. I don't know how to find a hidden thread.

Well if my driving instructor had said this to me I'd have just laughed but I know him pretty well. Whether it was unreasonable or not is dependent on so many things. The type of people you and your instructor are, how it was said, the relationship between you both. It sounds like you are worried about it, is there a reason for this? Has he been inappropriate or made you feel uncomfortable before? If not I'd just put it down to a lighthearted joke, albeit in quite bad taste!

Well, he's normally fairly quiet and serious, as am I. So I suppose it just struck me as a bit of an out of the blue thing for him to say. But he's never done anything inappropriate before.

Eww
Sounds like an asshat
Being me, I would change instructors. Yes really. It'll be a hand on your knee next. Blech. And I'd tell him why i was sacking him.

He made a tasteless joke, it’s not worth making a big deal about!

He was only making a joke.

I hate that people take offence at literally EVERYTHING these days.

I would have felt uncomfortable about it. I don't like men making 'jokes' like this.

I hate that people take offence at literally EVERYTHING these days.

Literally?

I think he was starting with a fairly 'soft' joke to see how you took it, then will progress to worse.

I say this as you have said he has been serious up to now, so I will not blame nervous stupidity. He knows you fairly well and is pushing the boundaries.

Don't be a snowflake. He'll turn the heater up and you'll melt.

jo-king. ffs lighten up.