Instamums 2

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Interested to read this in the Guardian today

www.theguardian.com/fashion/2018/mar/21/instagram-influencers-can-flog-stuff-all-day-but-its-weird-when-they-use-their-kids-to-do-it

Lots of engagement there @800msprint

I don't take offence to the holidays or the freebies, I just cringe on the Instaparents' behalf, what I do think is appalling is the music FOD was playing to his twins in the car. 'You Can Do It' by Ice Cube is one of the most vulgar, sexually explicit songs one can imagine. I was going to copy the lyrics here but actually can't bring myself to do so. Encouraging my 2 year olds to listen while I sing along in the car? Absolutely no way.

@Fruitbowl2 I follow The Darlings, that filter is certainly different! They seem a sweet family, and I don't mind the captions etc.

I also follow Tomanychildren & have done for a while, the house always looks lovely, I was always amazed at the beautiful looking picnic style food spreads for all the children, along with all the liberty & cath kidston. She seems lovely too.

I had a look at Zara Byrd's instagram after someone mentioned it and was a bit at some wording in the captions.

Does anyone follow Mimi Ikonn? I stumbled across her insta when she was pregnant and her & her husband used to post videos of them dancing together, it was a bit cringey, but I've been oddly captivated since.. obviously very wealthy though.

Ultimategirlgang makes me cringe soooo badly. EVERY SINGLE DAY she's tweaking with a massive glass of wine in her hand while her kids look on bemused. And the languid posh chat about how hard parenting is....much easier if you get pissed daily and ignore your kids, evidently.

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Kids are used to advertise products all of the time what difference does it make if it is their own parent using their picture or a company directly.
I now 💯 I would rather be the one posting pictures of my child myself than them going to shoots etc would I turn down an opportunity for them though no but that is my personal choice as it is of all the insta mums / dads

But still. Who cares? Why the fascination with what someone else is doing?

I genuinely think the ‘social’ in social media has changed and it’s way past it’s peak. These people are just idiot attention seekers used as puppets by brands, some dress it up under the guise of a cause (equality, flexible working, PND, etc etc) but are still pawning out their kids and putting posed pictures of themselves against colourful brick backgrounds up for attention and a quick buck.

And it’s so ironic to think of the damage our kids are experiencing due to our fascination with social media and other people’s lives.

I suggest we all put our phones down, including the instamums, and engage with our own kids a bit more.

@Theydoitonpurposelynne I completely agree, she gained loads of followers when MOD put her in her stories, so I popped over and my god all she seems to do is drink and moan and dance like a nutter whilst her kids are just I followed for a while but it's just weird.
Re: use of kids, but surely when they work for a company legit and in their own right they are subject to strict regulations (it's kids working essentially) and then in turn some of the money is theirs? With this people are using their children, potentially putting them at risk by their full names, date of births, schools, hobbies etc and the parents profit and can literally do what they want. Those twins should be the business really as they are the sole focus of FOD's account!

The other thing Ive often wondered about is putting children in political slogan t shirts etc during election time.
I follow a number of mothers who did this in the lead up to the last general election.
What if in the future their child wanted to become a politician but for a different party to the one they were photographed wearing as a toddler?

@AdidasGirl I don't think anyone would really hold it against them. But it's that old thing of once it's out there on the Internet, it's out there forever.

I don't like them using their kids though, but mainly for security reasons. As was said on the other thread, it's quite easy to find out their address, what school they go to etc. Because IG is such a hun filled bubble, it's easy to assure yourself that no one will use that information for anything other than good reasons.

Yes, that's how I feel @PavlovaPrincess
I'm also constantly amazed at how many of my RL friends(and some influencers)post pictures of their children in the bath or without clothes.Especially as majority all have open and not private accounts.

Also unfollowed ultimategirlgang. Used to be funny but now trying to hard for freebies...the wine talk is awful.

Love the mumma of triplets though. They are amazing and so relatable.

Why has MOD got the "send a message" option turned off in her insta stories? It seems a bit disingenuous. Never seen anyone else turn it off, what's the point of stories if you block any engagement ?

Oh and I don't mind her really, I liked her openness about the St Lucia holiday and nice that she took her sister and left Fod at home with the twins (he does annoy me tho)

I like this thread.
I watch/ look at / listen to things on social media more than traditional media these days, as a lot of us do, and whilst I’m not going to make derogatory comments about what someone looks like or call people names it IS nice to be able to talk honestly about what you like and don’t like.. the way you can when watching TV and chatting about it with people after. The fact that ANY criticism on instagram isn’t met well by most of the Instamum fangirls is frustrating.

The worst #ADs for me were those bubble babysitting ones, the week when everyone seemed to advertise them. I find the concept of booking a stranger “just like Uber” so horrendous. I’d like to know who said no to that campaign.

I’ve followed this thread for ages and have followed a lot of the people mentioned at one point or another. I agree with a lot of what has been said here although it does feel a little bit relentless at times.

I used to like StephDontBuyHerFlowers but her constant moaning about her husband (who seems perfectly acceptable) started to grate and I unfollowed when she went on and on about the fact he had bought her a traditional Chinese tea set back from a work trip instead of the expensive handbag she wanted. I know it’s meant to be tongue in cheek but there’s an underlying nastiness to it.

I used to follow MOD too because she was a midwife at my local hospital, I used to see her out and about and I liked some aspects of her blog. Then her IG became incredibly dull. Same with the other Clemmie, she is local and we have children of similar ages. I don’t follow her anymore because again it’s just quite boring and as a pp mentioned the post she made about being in debt/being povo left a bad taste in my mouth.

What it boils down to is that these accounts are just repeating/selling the same old shit and it gets really mind numbing. MOD used to be interesting with her midwifery insights but now it’s just clothes, holidays, interiors and moaning about her kids/husband. I do follow some mums on Instagram but they have something interesting to say, a lot of them about politics, some about art and how to engage children in it and some about food. It’s not all about consuming and whining!

E Lemon tell us who they are! I'd love to find some new folk. I'm tired of myself moaning about the usual suspects! But it's been nice to hear that others think the same though.

@fruitbowl2 agreed, they are so boring. There must be some less narcisstic, consumerist, child selling accounts that are interesting and have good vibes! Where are they?

Maybe someone could start an alternative thread for recommendations of - possibly advertising free - interesting insta pages. (Then if enough people follow them we could ruin them too 😄)

Try mumma of triplets girls.

@vileyrose already follow her and the dad. They seem lovely but I find the stories hard work! I think it's the monotone speaking, maybe Instagram does something, but it really grates on me.

The happy newspaper 🌞

@fruitbowl2
‘Ruin them?’

If this is what these threads have become then I find that comment deeply disturbing. And since when was it ok to judge someone based on the name their parents chose or how their parents chose to educate them? Despite so many of you discussing these women in such a negative fashion you still continue to follow. If they make you feel crappy about yourselves then look after your own values and mental health and unfollow. I know that suggestion has been made several times on these threads but the cycle of negativity and feeling less adequate is worrying.

And Shetland Ruthie are my finds today.

I try not to watch stories. Doesn't everyone start to grate on those after a while - perhaps our basic desire to reply! But then perhaps I miss half of what is going on.

Why are you so angry Allergy. This is the third time you've jumped on my comments.

I was being facetious. If lots of people follow an account it tends to be commercialised.

This is ju

...just a chat forum. I don't feel crappy about myself - just y'know, chatting.