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shesakeeper · 21/03/2018 19:13

Interested to read this in the Guardian today

www.theguardian.com/fashion/2018/mar/21/instagram-influencers-can-flog-stuff-all-day-but-its-weird-when-they-use-their-kids-to-do-it

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FacebookAteMyBrain · 24/03/2018 21:24

Interesting, badmotherpukka. Thank you for that insight. I don’t have anything against private education, I am quite interested in the link though.

MarvelleGazelle · 24/03/2018 21:24

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Fruitbowl2 · 24/03/2018 21:25

Facebook that's maybe because they can afford to be. They tend to have a fallback. I went to comp and got a 'proper' job cos my folks couldn't assist.

MP that made me LOL as you do often. I wonder why you didn't do law though. I did and have had every flexible working request agreed by my male bosses. HR depts don't generally mess with lawyers..,,

Mumofkids · 24/03/2018 21:25

It shouldn't really matter where you are from or your education, some people work bloody hard and are well off. I was privately educated (but it was a scholarship) and I'm now skint. It's just that the ones that all join forces and tag each other etc all seem to be privileged, white and unrealistic about the normal lives of many of their followers.

AdidasGirl · 24/03/2018 21:28

There's also a huge difference between New and Old Money.
You can always tell with people which type of money they are.
Mrs Meldrum = Mrs Boredum.
Sprinkle of Glitter = Sprinkle of utter bollocks.
I honestly have no idea why people want to watch speed cleaning videos or see what utter crap they have done in yet another Poundland haul.
I use Instagram and here.Its been 10+ years since I deleted Facebook.
Instagram I was blocked for asking a question about the pile of shite initials bag I bought after being sucked in the only and only time into buying it.I wasn't rude in the slightest.I asked a simple question and was instantly blocked.
It still annoys me when the #ad is hidden somewhere amongst a load of other hashtags.Surely #AD should be first?

AdidasGirl · 24/03/2018 21:29

*Boredom.

Mumofkids · 24/03/2018 21:30

@flyingbird, I thought the opposite. It was probably offered to them all especially as FOD has twice as many followers, but after recently enduring a week at Disney with 2 year olds I imagine it wasn't worth the hassle especially when they have nursery all paid up and routine. And one parent will always be with them and the other with the older girls (like rides at Disney) so if you paid yourself you'd gonas a 'family' but a freebie well you can pick and choose. And FOD pulled the short straw probably because going on holiday with clemmies sister might be a bit odd 🤣

PavlovaPrincess · 24/03/2018 21:31

Hotpatooties is nuts and pretty awesome

Ah, @Mumofkids I've pretty much agreed with everything you've said so far, and now you've gone and ruined it!

I can't bear Dawn o'Porter (or her husband for that matter).

FacebookAteMyBrain · 24/03/2018 21:31

Yeah I guess it’s more personality than education. I’m naturally more introverted and not hugely creative and I guess you have to be the opposite of those things to be a successful blogger.

Fruitbowl2 · 24/03/2018 21:32

True true shesakeeper no class war here ✌🏻

FacebookAteMyBrain · 24/03/2018 21:34

Yes please don’t think I was having a go at people who are privately educated! I have lots of (very lovely) privately educated friends.

AdidasGirl · 24/03/2018 21:37

I went to boarding school from age 11.
My DH went to the local comprehensive.
We are like chalk and cheese when it comes to our backgrounds.
Many of the Instamums remind me of girls I was at school with.
That's probably why I follow so few.

NotASingleDamnBiroInTheHouse · 24/03/2018 21:39

I remember about a year and a half ago Clemmie Telford made a ‘baring her soul’ post about how her husband’s company had nearly gone bust and they’d been totally skint and on the bones of their arses but had been bailed out by family and were determined to pay the money back, etc.

Anyway, round about the time that they were supposedly skint, she’d been posting about buying two colours of the same Zara dress because it was so versatile.

Also, one of the examples she gave of how hard it was being skint was having to split the bill in a restaurant when out with friends when she’d been careful to only order the cheapest thing on the menu and not drink.

I haven’t been out with friends to a bloody restaurant in the last six months AT LEAST! Because DH and I are skint! We just don’t go out. And we don’t have rich families to ‘help us out’ with tens of thousands of pounds.

And then, right after the, ‘we stared into the abyss of poverty but pulled back from the brink’ post, they all went on a two week family holiday to Thailand.

It’s true, their ‘real world’ is just a million miles away from other people’s real world. And for them to keep pretending it’s not is coming across as more and more disingenuous.

For all her faults, there’s a good piece in Caitlin Moran’s Moranifesto book on the Tories and blithness. It really chimes with the whole mum thing on instagram. It’s blitheness incarnate.

And also what’s disingenuous and rubs people up the wrong way is when things like MOD’s ten millionth free holiday of the year is presented as something she ‘deserves’ because she’s so knackered and works so hard blah blah blah. Especially coming right off the back of a free dirty weekend away to ‘reconnect and recuperate’.

It would be easier to stomach if she just said, ‘fuck me, I don’t really know what I’ve done to deserve this beyond having a passably readable blog and a pair of twins, but I am incredibly lucky and grateful and intend to enjoy the fuck out of this massive privilege.’

Instead there’s this sort of ‘roll eyes’ ‘well it’s about TIME I got a break. It’s so exhausting living in my massive, perfect house with my perfect, healthy children and all my #gifted, expensive things. Finally I might actually be able to get away from the tedious drudge of it all.’

It all just leaves a nasty taste.

Fruitbowl2 · 24/03/2018 21:46

That was very funny Biro, so true!

Mumofkids · 24/03/2018 21:47

@pavlovaprincess I'm so sorry! I think I'll be over it soon, it is a bit self indulgent and one you get over fast. She just made me laugh the other day. But she does way too many to watch daily so maybe I'm not getting the full picture!! You know how it is you find someone and then you get a bit bored.
Mrs Meldrum is pretty dull. It's hello we've just done the school and nursery run and now we are getting a coffe and off to primark. Ok then I'll be swiping past. As I've just managed 3 children myself, made their packed lunches, not lost them, brushed their teeth and was feeling pretty pleased with myself for not being late and having to do the office walk of shame. Whilst you smugly just pootle about never doing it on your own argh

Mumofkids · 24/03/2018 21:49

Yes biro. Absolutely. Just be bloody appreciative and grateful.

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FacebookAteMyBrain · 24/03/2018 21:50

I agree with you, NotASingle, it would be more refreshing and credible if bloggers could just own their success a bit instead of being defensive and feeling the need to attempt to justify it. DMBL did a good post today where a massive picture of her was on a billboard in Terminal 5 and she was giddy with excitement about it and I couldn't help but feel happy for her too. I think I would rather a giddy-brag than a humblebrag.

Fruitbowl2 · 24/03/2018 21:52

badmotherpukka if you're still reading I think my comment to you might have got lost up thread. You said you gave up law because you wanted a family, but my experience is that lawyers get flexible working requestsz. Not least because they know the law!

kirinm · 24/03/2018 21:59

Fruit bowl - I'm also a lawyer and my experience of law firms is that they're not flexible, have zero loyalty to staff and women on the whole do worse than their male colleagues.

mammyoftwo · 24/03/2018 22:02

I thought this thread was about current trends in instamumming, what is the obsession with MOD and FOD????

There are so many other examples!

Fruitbowl2 · 24/03/2018 22:04

Oh Kirinm, I'm sorry. Not my experience at all. I've had all my flexible working requests accepted and have come across great job shares etc. Maybe it depends what law you do.

Mumofkids · 24/03/2018 22:07

Mammyoftwo they have many followers quickly and have changed hugely and worked in paid partnership more than any other that I follow. Loads have been mentioned, but they are the most outrageous bloggers and floggers and have only recently been a bit more transparent about what they are actually doing. They are also heavy posters so it seems to crop up a lot. How those twins are alive baffles me and if my husband did half the things with my 2 yr old he does I'd want to punch him Grin

kirinm · 24/03/2018 22:09

It's either that @Fruitbowl2 or I've chosen some awful firms to work for!

NotASingleDamnBiroInTheHouse · 24/03/2018 22:13

@kirinm It’s not just you. I temped at a law firm once and they basically said ‘we’re not interested in your childcare arrangements. Just make sure you’re here when you’re supposed to be.’

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